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Friends with toxic attitude

Uriel·9/9/2018, 11:44:35 PM·4 votes·4,482 views

For a while, I'm actually seriously struggling with this problem. I have a friend (I'll name him Person 1, because we don't name and shame here on the forums) that have problems with toxic behavior. Whilst I understand by now that this is a 'heat of the moment' thing, and constantly advice them like a friend to stop focusing on chat and just keep on playing, recently this flame has started to redirect to me as well on even the slightest mistake that happens. Yet when they do the same, I'm calm because I know when we play serious or play for fun.

**Game one; **My friend locks in Riven support, I go Veigar ADC. He picked Riven for other reasons than filling the support role, but I don't really care. We're playing a game and if it works, it works. ** Game two; **My friend goes Varus ADC, I go MF support (poke support, because they took my tank pick). After dishing out several comet pokes to zone them off CS, the bullet rain accidently finishes off a cannon minion, followed by suddenly get completely annihilated by an aggressive Ashe, and on my first death already I get a full load of toxicity over me. I get immediately sworn at for trolling (even though I was serious about playing poke support, and he knew this, after all in low elo anything can work.) and to get me reported for trolling and int.

Now this latter example happened after something even worse, where one of his friends (person 2) also came in play:

Game one; We play a game of Ranked flex, I go Twitch ADC, P1 goes Kindred and P2 goes Malzahar. Over the game, Malzahar was having major trouble with Zyra completely outskilling him, and both the two players struggling with Zac's pressence in the game, while I was stomping botlane. I told them to calm down, that I'll carry the game, and eventually I ended up as a 21/5/9 Twitch that easily denied Zac's and Zyra's head start and won us the game. Game two; We play another game of Ranked flex. This time I got shoved into Twitch jungle because of a premade botlane. Fine by me, I know how to play jungle as twitch. P1 was Orianna mid, and P2 was Garen top. Though... at the start I encountered a Lee Sin aggressively invading me right away, right below botlane, and I ended up dying because Twitch's duelling power flat out blows. Then I suddenly get an out-of-position enemy katarina hijacking my attempt to ward the dragon, another death up for the count. I needed a serious comeback now so I tried to poke for ganking opportunities, so in order to focus I left voice-chat (because I heard their behavior going downhill)... but every time I tried to gank my premades, they PUSH IN leaving me ending up with wasted time. And the only time it didnt, it was because Lee counter-ganked and I end up dying again by katarina. This third death apparantly was the straw that made them lose their control, and get flamed by P2 by words that won't be repeated here (and of course, they were in a different language, so no chat filter bot caught that).

What's even worse is that a day after, person 2 comes to me... and even though I can be naive sometimes, I had hopes he was going to create an opportunity for us to make up for our makes. Oh how I was wrong, he just slapped away my first step of saying sorry, and after evading him on that media platform, he goes for a second round of insults through game private chat.

At this point, I'm just super frustrated about this situation (and sorry if this comes over as venty, but I need to find some way to let go of this rather than letting it boil up). They are two very good players to play with where I personally even try to help P1 to carry him out of him being hardstuck in bronze, but the fact that every time I play with them, I end up having to deal with their toxic behavior, especially now I'm also getting the gun aimed at me.

The logical answer any rational person would give? Report. Yes, that's a perfect option to go by when you know these people in real life and they know where to find you.

Does anyone else here have experienced something like this? Where people you regulairly play with have a toxicating behavior, even when you just try to have a good game with them?

7 Comments

Yung Ice Cube9/10/2018, 2:25:18 AM4 votes

I've had this problem myself. The only solution to this is to stop playing with them. You can report them, but that wont stop them from being toxic towards you because Riot cant mute them IRL or in Discord or w/e you use to chat. It seems that they have the typical low elo mentality that they are always right and everyone else is wrong. if youre looking to either have fun playing the game or grow in experience and climb the elo ladder (or both) you need to let them go. They will always be there to either hold you down elo wise or the will suck the fun out of every game. especially if you are apprehensive to play with them in the first place. already a bad start. just cut them off. if they are true friends, they would understand. if not, then they werent very good friends to begin with. That's just my opinion though

serLonzelot9/10/2018, 2:15:28 AM2 votes

I wouldnt report him straight after the verbal abuse in private chat but make a screenshot of it and wait like a week. if they are always this toxic in game they have 0 proof that you are the one who reported them.

Aneirin9/9/2018, 11:48:15 PM1 votes

The logical answer any rational person would give? Report. Yes, that's a perfect option to go by when you know these people in real life and they know where to find you.

If you are honestly scared of your "friends" knowing where you live then they're not friends. Stop being an enabler and stop hanging out with them.

Or if you can't do that, then report them. They have no way of knowing who's reporting them, so there's no risk to doing so.

Baka Red9/10/2018, 1:56:31 PM1 votes

If they aren't RL friends, I would most likely cut ties with them. If they are RL friends however, you need to talk to them about that and if that doesn't help, you should consider stopping playing with them. (Well, take with grain of salt, since I only play premade with people who I know RL. The others are the "NPCs" who get the honors.)

Edit; Ah, you actually ment that you know then RL. Well, talking it out in that case is the only way out imo. Reporting them isn't an option, since that carries the risk of them blaming you for their punishment - well, there is a threat of that anyways. You are safe from that if you don't play with them at least.

Trespassers9/13/2018, 12:06:08 PM1 votes

SlobOnMyKnob III: Bronze in every type of ranked mode there is Akalienate: Bronze in every type of ranked mode there is

Had to expose them even tho my comment is gonna get deleted :)