I was told Insults about my dead father.

EtherAegis·6/7/2017, 9:38:08 AM·55 votes·4,694 views

I was banned from playing my main again, after (and before) being assigned roles I didn't sign up for. I've been consistently flamed (pretty much only pre-game. During, and after game people generally don't have a problem. Funny, that.) Tonight, someone banned my intended champ again (forced me to play someone I wasn't sure I could help the team win as much in). In-game they proceeded to mock my parents, after harassing me in other ways. My dad is dead. He died years ago, right in front of me. This was not right. I'm REALLY not sure about how the people in this game think. This was screwed up. I should NEVER have had to report this.

53 Comments

King of Demons6/7/2017, 9:44:42 AM38 votes

Well that sucks and must have been pretty painful but how do they even know that he died?

If somebody flames they want to hurt you, giving in and showing an emotional reaction is exactly what they want.

They had no way of knowing about your father, so you must have told them in the emotional reaction thus making matters worse and giving them an easy way to personally attack you.

Just mute and block them, report and move on. Remember not to give out any personal information like that, keep a cool head and stay safe.

Scary Door6/7/2017, 3:45:05 PM9 votes

First rule of the humanity: People---especially when given the cloak of anonymity---are assholes.

With that being said, if you let it bother you then you're only giving them power. If someone besmirching your parents is the worst thing someone says to you then consider yourself lucky, I've certainly had many people tell me they will come to my home and murder and/or rape me. I actually find it funny... I love that my existence is so tilting to some individuals that they have to fantasize about brutal violence against me just to cope.

Just laugh about it, look at it as an empowering experience and move on. You can't change the behavior of assholes you can only change how you respond.

FormationX6/7/2017, 12:03:46 PM8 votes

You can't change others, but you can change yourself. Don't give in to emotions if others want that.

WinTheWarOnPants6/7/2017, 8:13:31 PM7 votes

My advice would be, if you have something that really bothers you ie, death of a family member, experience abuse, death/suicide of a friend, etc. You probably shouldn't tell people in your game about it. Especially if they are already flaming you. It's not an excuse for their behavior, but if they have already shown themselves to be toxic, then giving them "ammo" to use against you isn't a very good idea. I'm sorry for what happened, but it's hard for me to really sympathize with you and others in these circumstances that throw out their trauma into the most toxic community in gaming and expect good results. I've seen this a few times. player 1:"Go f%$k yourself, like i f$%ked your mom last night" player 2:"My mom is dead" player 1:"Probably cause i f%&ked her so hard." player 2: has left the game*

Like what did you expect him to say? "oh man i'm sorry to hear that. i take back every thing i said up till now" <-- this will not happen... like ever. because 1. the guy is toxic. 2. he probably thinks your lying(because it's not sense-able that you would be telling the truth honestly) 3. even if you were telling the truth, "my mom is dead" can easily be perceived as a hostile statement aka "stfu and now you can't talk anymore because now i have the moral high ground".

Hawckey6/7/2017, 11:13:37 AM7 votes

Wow Riot should really add a feature that allows you to block communications with certain people who are bothering others. COME ON RIOT WAKE UP.

Project omen6/7/2017, 3:35:15 PM5 votes

I'm sorry about your dad. Lemme give you an advice for the future based on my experience: learn to not care. To not let yourself get hurt by stuff like this. People will always be assholes, especially on the internet where they can be anonymous. It will never change. If a person in your game is going to flame, usually you can tell before he does. So just mute him and enjoy your game. Seriously, you don't deserve to get your mood ruined because of some random douche you met online. They don't know your story and most of the time they won't even care.

KingKongKushin6/7/2017, 9:45:26 AM5 votes

Your best option is to quit. This forum will flood with people telling you to uninstall. They are toxic. But they are right. In this game you either /muteall at the start or you are destined for a un-enjoyable experience.

58697132DEL16/7/2017, 5:45:43 PM4 votes

Dude same. Some assholes got to me about my best friends suicide and said some shit like im glad he's dead or smth, and i went off on them. just got off the ban.

I wish i had better advice or commentary to give but it's just sad that people like this exist at all. :/ sorry to hear about your dad tho.

SwordOfWar6/7/2017, 7:43:58 PM3 votes

Get used to it cause there will only be more

RealČernochHours6/7/2017, 7:16:38 PM3 votes

TL, DR: I don't like autofill and can't find the mute button.

Oelyk6/7/2017, 3:12:15 PM3 votes

That's unhumanly insensitive of them, just goes to show that they are lower than you. I don't care to even title the players like the one who harassed you.

My best advice, and yes it is repetitive. Mute them. Just hit the tab bar and mute them because ultimately if you are going to let a total stranger over the net whom you are incredibly likely never to see again set you off, it's better to block them out early rather than later. Often at the first signs of hostility I mute both pings and chat of said player.

JedenVojak6/7/2017, 9:43:56 PM2 votes

The real question is, who was it who killed your father?

Rainfall6/7/2017, 4:46:07 PM2 votes

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BoilTheOil6/7/2017, 11:59:21 PM2 votes

i mean yea hes an asshole but idk how hes supposed to know that

NOHITDETECTIO2K6/8/2017, 12:09:26 AM2 votes

Trust me, the toxicity in this game is real my friend. I remember one time I was jungle, and my bot lane was getting smashed to pieces. My adc cursed me out in game so bad, I was a waste of life, a plague to society, why do I breathe, very very verbal stuff. Swore I never ganked, and their lane was the first I ganked at the start of the landing phase. He, hell or she, proceeds to invade my jungle camps and last hit all of my creeps, while verbally assaulting me, and all chat trash talking.

Ive played many video games, and League has to have the absolute worst playerbase I've dealt with, no questions asked. You gotta mute. Once you see that crap happening; mute. Don't feed into it, don't stress about it because the minute they're under your skin you're going to lose the game. I'm an example. All you can hope for is that one day you see that message pop up on your client that one of your recent reports was acknowledged and action was taken against said player.

UngEy6/8/2017, 1:53:11 PM1 votes

/mute all

Pisces StarChild6/8/2017, 12:06:30 AM1 votes

I'm very sorry that this happened, and like the others before me that have commented with good advice I think it's best that you ignore those people completely and report them afterwards. I hope you'll get much better games in the future as well as better players with great attitude.

kms irl6/9/2017, 9:57:59 PM1 votes

"Being angry at someone mocking your dead father is unreasonable and a punishable offense."

-Riot Games

SexyBabyJesusZ6/8/2017, 1:08:11 AM1 votes

i really hate those people that you have no knowledge about their parents and you make a joke about their parents

and theyre like "oh my moms dead" or "I dont have a mom"

dont do that ever, it only makes the situation worse

PandaPenyihir6/8/2017, 5:03:27 AM1 votes

someones a little ignorant of the real world I see

Fegone6/8/2017, 8:17:48 AM1 votes

The second you feel like you cannot or shouldn't have to deal with whatever other players say, mute them. Problem solved. Report them after the game.

Is this concept so hard to understand?

Spiralface6/8/2017, 11:17:05 AM1 votes

easy yo whenever you start up in game at well type /mute all, you shouldn't have to deal with shit like this man. there are too many fucked up people in this game

SorryForYourLoss6/8/2017, 1:34:16 PM1 votes

Tab+LMB over that little megaphone on the TAB menu. #ProTips

korg0236/7/2017, 10:35:55 PM1 votes

All purpose of flaming is to make you feel bad and hurt so they feel better about themselves. Only you can let them get to you,if you simply ignore and mute them they acomplished nothing ,so they pretty much lost and wasted time on insulting you ,that is the time when you actually win vs trolls and flamers . You never ever argue back or let them get to you. That is what they feed off,that is what they want. The moment they see you are hurt,arguing back,angry ,flaming back etc is the moment they win and you lose. Just mute and ignore.

Like someone know,they didnt know your father died,so even if it sounds very hard,dont take it personally . Wishing death upon family members or cancer etc is usual way of flaming and insulting nowdays,sadly but true.

korg0236/7/2017, 10:36:17 PM1 votes

Like someone mentioned in these comments,they didnt know your father died,so even if it sounds very hard,dont take it personally . Wishing death upon family members or cancer etc is usual way of flaming and insulting nowdays,sadly but true.