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I have anger issues

IAmWoralo·3/29/2017, 12:05:43 AM·4 votes·1,618 views

Let's start by saying that I don't rage or flame when people have a bad game or are performing bad. I don't flame people out of the blue, but when someone toxic to me or my wife, I tend to go berserk and call them whatever comes to mind. It's bad and when I am having a really bad day it becomes even worse.

Today I had a game, I came home from a long day of work and I just wanted to play a game to blow off some steam, however I came into a game where 2 players (a duo) started flaming my wife, so I decided to defend her and they found out we were a couple. They then started saying things like "How fat is she?" and "How many chins do you have you fat fuck". This hit me hard. My wife has a chronic disease called lipedema. A disease where you body gains fat but cannot break it down anymore, causing here to be overweight and probably gaining more and more weight in the future. I completely lost it, calling them all sorts of terrible things I don't want to repeat, because they are simply things you should ban someone for.

I know I should have muted them right away, but at that point anger gets the best of me, I want to respond and I want to hear what they have to say, but in the end it's no use at all, because they're just trying to hurt you and you're trying to hurt them back for the things they have said. It just feels like such an injustice that they can get away with it, not even getting banned afterwards while they were using hate speech so much. I just can't stand it. It infuriates me up until this very moment, but I know I can't do anything about it.

At a certain point one of the players told me he was 12 years old and I asked him what kind of parents would raise a kid like this. I doubt he really was 12, seeing that it was 1 AM, but still. I shouldn't have said that. If he was older I should have just realised that he is a pathetic piece of ** and if he really was 12 I should have been the adult, but I let myself slip once again and bestowed upon him my hate and anger to the fullest. I really hate this injustice and in most other games I play I would have just let it go, but seeing that League is the game I play the most I consider it to be a part of my life and expect people to behave like real people, but I guess it's too much to ask and I don't seem to be able to handle myself either.

I don't really know where I am going with this, I think I just want to vent and blow off steam and see how many people experience the same. Maybe I am getting to old for this shit.

12 Comments

zk0x3/29/2017, 4:57:08 PM2 votes

I'm sorry that you had to go through it. I know that it is NEVER easy. I mean, I'm trying to be civil as possible as I can, but I literally can't deal with ignorant in online or real life. Try this method that I tried for several weeks recently and it worked.

  1. if someone talk shit on you, say this "O, wow. I'm glad that I'm better than you." THEN you mute them.

Why would I tilt my own teammate? It's 50% and risk. Pros about this is that you can educate people how to handle it in a better way. You can stop the immature behavior suddenly. ALSO you untilt yourself. It will make WHOLE of your team to focus better. continue arguing would tilt other players as well. Say it once and stop it is where the most acceptable in people and their limit. The negative thing about it is that you MIGHT have to do 4v5 OR you tilted the player and make them do a bad job.

  1. report them and type detailed story in the report.

I got a lot of notifications that Riot did their job to review and ban/mute them.

You have my full support. I understood how you felt, honestly.

One more thing, I heard that you can screenshot and send it to Riot. You should try it out! I haven't try it out yet...I kept using the report system and it worked well for me.

Sorry for my bad English, by the way!

Kaioko3/29/2017, 3:53:29 PM2 votes

Muting them is usually the better adult thing to do. The other thing I personally try to remind myself of; is that you never know what the other person is going through on the other side of the screen even if they're the ones being toxic.

I actually met one of the people I currently play with this way (who shall remain nameless). The guy was incredibly toxic to me for no apparent reason. I was having a bad game and was 0 3 but didn't feel like I deserved the harassment I was getting. Come to find out this 19 year old had just lost both of his parents in a car crash a week earlier.

My Sea Cow3/29/2017, 12:36:47 AM1 votes

It's definitely hard to deal with toxic people especially when it's towards someone you love. Though toxicity is never okay and I'll never condone it, it's also nice of you to defend your wife, though maybe in a not-so-toxic manner. Sounds like she's lucky to have you :)

Mute them, encourage your wife to do the same, and report them after the game. I know it's so frustrating not to have them get banned for it, but sooner or later it will catch up to them. Remember that sometimes people just have bad days and take it out on someone. They shouldn't get banned for one bad day which is why RIot gives people multiple reports before banning them.

Hawckey3/29/2017, 3:10:07 AM1 votes

Type /muteall in chat before every game, ez

No flash no life3/29/2017, 3:13:50 AM1 votes

Over the course of years, I've come to accept that this community is almost entirely composed of the people you've run into, so as long as you're playing with this player base you are unfortunately going to run into similar cases over and over.

I mean ya I like this game, but I can't say the same to those who play it.

Makior723/29/2017, 3:44:13 PM1 votes

Holy wall of text

Mute + report at first sign of someone being toxic

williamhammy1053/29/2017, 12:19:28 AM1 votes

It is hard to deal with toxic people like that and they are everywhere. It is understandable to be mad about people like this not getting the punishment they deserve for acting in such a way. The best you can do is to mute them, report them, then move on

Sorin Alucard3/30/2017, 12:08:30 AM1 votes

I just made a post asking for age separation of some sort I mean yes, you as an adult shouldn't have lost it, but you also weren't looking for trouble. In my opinion, the worst of the player base is pre teens and teenagers (in the participation trophy age too, sadly) that copy the worst hateful shit they've encountered on the internet and sling it out because it gets a rise out of folks.

My mute button is pressed the moment someone starts. Whole team. Thats probably 9 out of 10 games I find that necessary. I report about as much as well. My reports probably count for nada I report so much, but what can you do? Hope things get better my friend.

EvilDustMan3/29/2017, 12:23:07 AM1 votes

All I can tell you is mute them sooner, man.