Losing my positivity. Need help getting it back.

Hextech Lulu·Oct 21, 2017·5 votes·664 views

Hey all. After this day, I'm taking a break from League. As any League game for anybody, it's been stressful. I could've sworn I was reported a few times today due to my quitter mentality. I harassed the screen with "Surrender Votes" when things got grim, I declare the game over when the enemy goes 7/0/2 before the 15-minuet mark, and I beg for the team to surrender when I feel like the game's being held hostage. I don't tell people to "kys etc." or leave the game when things didn't go my way, but it doesn't make a difference. It's all negative and unessecary. As someone who is supposedly "Honorable", my behavior has been rather pessimistic. This isn't how I was the past 2-3 years I've played this game, and there's no way I'm getting banned/suspended for it either. I can't continue this mentality. I'm just tired of losing and being pessimistic about everything that happens and how the games gonna go to Hell in a hand-basket. I just stopped playing ranked entirely because of it. If there's any advice the reasonable community can give me to kick this bad habit of mine, feel free to share. This isn't who I am, and I can't let it define me. And I apologize to those out there who I teamed up with that pulled through when we were sure to lose, but came back hard and busted that enemy Nexus.

8 Comments

Sexy Fish NamiOct 21, 20173 votes

Take a break.

Like really, take one for like 1 or 2 days and come back refreshed. Rank isnt the best environment for staying positive making breaks, imo, essential on climbing.

Another tip I could give you is talking about your frustrations to some people instead of keeping it to yourself, this is a trick I learned at a young age because I had anger issues. This can also work in league.

Final tip I can give you is to look at yourself in ranks and not your teammates. That does not mean blame yourself for losing, but just think about yourself and improving small mistakes, it will keep your mind away from them and keep yourself more positive.

If your ever need to talk to someone, you can add me, ill be glad to lend you a helping hand!

Keep yourself positive, a healthy attitude = a healthy mind!

Hextech LuluOct 23, 20171 votes

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Take a break.

Like really, take one for like 1 or 2 days and come back refreshed. Rank isnt the best environment for staying positive making breaks, imo, essential on climbing.

Another tip I could give you is talking about your frustrations to some people instead of keeping it to yourself, this is a trick I learned at a young age because I had anger issues. This can also work in league.

Final tip I can give you is to look at yourself in ranks and not your teammates. That does not mean blame yourself for losing, but just think about yourself and improving small mistakes, it will keep your mind away from them and keep yourself more positive.

If your ever need to talk to someone, you can add me, ill be glad to lend you a helping hand!

Keep yourself positive, a healthy attitude = a healthy mind!

I'll send an invite. Tyvm.♡

sheldonbunnyOct 21, 20172 votes

The advice I would give you are doing on your own accord. You're taking a break. I myself have been in a similar state this season. I've not been able to put my finger on why this season specifically, but i've felt similarly. It distresses me on a personal level, which is part of why i've taken breaks. In fact i've taken more breaks this season than any other.

Only other ideas I can provide is take this downtime to be productive and/or enjoy other forms of entertainment. Have a project you've been meaning to get to or finish? Now might be the time. Have a backlog of tv shows/movies/games/books you wanted to finish? Try some of those. Take this as a vacation to recharge and relax. Perhaps spend time with loved ones or try some new activities. There are many possibilities.

It's a very good thing that you recognized this for yourself and that you want to do something about it. I wish you the best, and hopefully we all can enjoy preseason and the upcoming season.

sanshaoyeOct 21, 20172 votes

why do you need positivity? increase your negativity and join the troll ranks - that's how you become a winner in league now

Hextech LuluOct 23, 20171 votes

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why do you need positivity? increase your negativity and join the troll ranks - that's how you become a winner in league now

If my rank was based on my pessimism, I'd be in high plat.

FaelenOct 21, 20172 votes

Play some of the rotating game modes. Maybe try your hand in a different Moba for a while.

Normally when I get mad I just go play Arena Smite until I chill out.

NegativityOct 21, 20171 votes

Agreed with chat here, take a break. I just had a real tilting week, would promote to D1 lose streak Demote. Happened 4 times. Really needed to take a break, now things are feeling better.

Hextech LuluOct 23, 20171 votes

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Agreed with chat here, take a break. I just had a real tilting week, would promote to D1 lose streak Demote. Happened 4 times. Really needed to take a break, now things are feeling better.

Wish that were the case for me. I took a week off League once only to log back on and lose eight more times. I'm trying to get to gold as fast as I can, but now I just lost the will to try anymore. But I still refuse to become part of the toxic bunch. I'd uninstall before then.