As a support main for a long af time: the secret is to play in relation to how others play, not according to how others play.
You have your own form of style, and your team has theirs. Instead of attempting to dictate how another person plays, instead figure out how to use your own unique talents to supplement it. For example, I prefer enchanter-based supports (specifically Nami and Lulu) but also like to be a bit aggressive, as sitting and doing nothing all game just feels boring to me. If my laner is also aggressive, great! We just pubstomp the enemy through our overwhelming force the moment one of us lands a catch. If they're more passive, I take more of a zoning role: attempting to simply poke at them without a full commitment instead of going full-auto aggressive, and saving my crowd control for a moment where we must fight, since I know my landing it in most other situations is probably going to be a waste of my mana and cooldowns.
If our jungler is gank-tastic, awesome! I'll rush a sweeper asap and focus on keeping all the paths clear whenever I get a chance. If he's more focused on another lane, or farm heavy, I'll focus far more on keeping our own wards up, and trying to keep vision on the nearest entries to our jungle to try and spot invasions.
Not only does "you suck noob, go in!" never get you anywhere but the banlists, it's actually not accurate in most cases: people play the game differently, and part of the challenge is to play your game in a way that doesn't suck for everyone else.