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Today one of my team members told me that he hoped I killed myself tonight.

Baibar·11/26/2015, 8:52:05 AM·24 votes·4,614 views

Today while playing support I made two decisions that provoked this players wrath. As the enemy adc was about to wreck his face after he got pulled by blitzcrank I saved his life and got our team a kill. Second, the enemy adc made it safely under their turret and was basing when i flashed hit them and got out safely. Each time he got progressively more enraged. Keep in mind I had 1 CS after the first 20 minutes or so and was trying my best to keep him alive. So after he got pulled by blitz and I failed to save him he said "I hope you kill yourself" now i understand that online games and the entire internet are bastions of hateful and offensive language but for the first time in my history of gaming I felt for lack of better words "hurt". You see my grandfather killed himself and I saw his half decayed decomposing body in the aftermath. He was the only person I had growing up who invested in my development. Because of the lessons he taught me I have had tremendous success in my life. So when a random stranger who is supposedly my team member utters an incredibly hateful remark that crosses the line of expected trash talk that reminds me of the most traumatic experience of my youth it upsets me. Now I tried to confront this player and I ended up getting more offensive language thrown at me. This time detailing ways he imagined i would kill myself and that I was a "little bitch" for getting offended. So after the game I reported him but I was so shocked from the incident that I wanted to get other players opinions on the matter. How do players continue to play this game and be allowed to viciously attack each other. I'm all for the occasional round of smack talk but this crosses the line.

85 Comments

TeCoolMage11/26/2015, 9:22:50 AM10 votes

Broken bones heal but memories don't.

So take your words and give me your damn sticks and stones already

WookieJesuz11/26/2015, 8:58:28 AM7 votes

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Stephenizgod11/26/2015, 7:22:13 PM7 votes

By saying this im going to get downvoted but whatever idc

I agree that it is not ok, someone once said something very similar to me. Wanna know what i did? I reported them with an exact copy of what was said and not 10 minutes later i got a message saying they were punished. I know it doesn't always punish them immediately, you gotta wait a bit, every report takes time. The "tough skin" is not for dealing with what someone says they already said it and it already effected you, it is for waiting for them to get punished. Just because you don't get a message does not mean they are not being punished btw, it could be the next game that gets them punished but only thanks to your report. Sometimes punishment is only a chat restriction which is fine, personally i would rather Riot just perma-chat restrict people so they are less inclined to make a smurf and troll the poor new players who are already having a tough time with smurfs. So im not really telling you to grow up or to toughen up, but i am telling you there is no point in complaining about it, your report is enough to get them punished.

TheFameAnimal11/26/2015, 12:20:52 PM6 votes

I don't really get yelled at much, but when I do it really hits me hard. I sometimes think about it for hours and hours until I eventually forget. Words hurt :(

Sythriel Draken11/26/2015, 9:59:44 AM6 votes

To answer your poll, yes. Peoples toxicity and verbal abuse has emotionally affected me in real life. Sometimes the abuse is so much that I can't take it any more and actually WANT to harm myself because I'm so angry that Riot isn't doing a god damn thing about these extremely toxic players. I have actually hit my desk a few times tonight actually.

What makes it worse is these people make ME toxic due to the retaliation factor. Honestly a man can only be spammed with pings and messages even through chat blocking that it gets to you.

OnlyGragasOnlyGG11/26/2015, 9:38:49 AM5 votes

I'm starting to believe seriously that intelligence can be measured in elo.

trash sion11/26/2015, 7:29:26 PM5 votes

Hate me, whatever.

That's one of the most pussy things I've ever read.

First of all, they're just words. Disregard them and you'll be fine.

Mute, report after game. Problem solved. Move on with your life.

If you're seriously emotionally pained because of a few words someone said online, you need help. Absolutely no reason why a collection of letters should affect you in a negative way.

It's really that easy to mute and report them. Let Riot deal with it if it bothered you that much.

Personally, I wouldn't even have reported him because who cares what he says, it's a game and people get pissed. Whatever. But if you really feel hurt, mute and report. No need to whine on the boards about someone hurting your sensitive little feelings.

Samus7211/26/2015, 7:09:53 PM4 votes

You reported him? Good. I trust that Riot will punish them.

Ada Wong11/26/2015, 10:16:28 AM3 votes

Thanks, Report the player, and yes Certain things on the internet have given me major depression and thoughts of suicide before which is why I take this type of toxic behavior seriously, and yes it does effect me when I see the hard toxicity in games.

I actually came close to hurting those I love and actually came close to ending it, so I have to say yes what players say to others online can do real hurt with these type of comments.

Colgate Gator11/26/2015, 5:10:52 PM3 votes

While I'm 100% onboard with Riot's stance about such kind of comments (they are as easy banbaits as they get), I honestly don't think anyone should let what a complete stranger (someone who they also won't ever see in their life most likely) say to them in a fit of rage.

When I see people get like that, I just chuckle to myself, mute them to let them marinate in their salt and promptly report them after the match, don't get into their game of ignorance, they will lower you into their level and beat you with experience (meaning that you will also get banned for engaging in toxicity).

But yeah, people be bonkers, don't let their dysfunctional life choices drag you along, though.

Spizzle900011/27/2015, 2:50:23 AM3 votes

Honestly, I understand why you confronted him, but I find it unwise to confront trolls about why they offended you and how badly they did. That's what they want to do: make you feel awful. When they strike home, they're happy, not regretful. Just remember this is a pathetic lowlife scumbag that makes those of us with the good of humanity at heart despair. His opinion never has and never will matter. One day, the little prick may grow up and have to actually contribute something good to society, or maybe he was having a terrible, terrible day, and took it out on you. Either way, it's unacceptable, but cannot be entirely prevented.

The moment when we all get too horrifically offended by terrible people's rude remarks and demand the freedom of speech be limited is the day freedom, and having a pair (of testicles or ovaries), dies. Being offended it perfectly logical and does not make you a "little bitch", but, as a wise man once said and I more or less quote, "I do not agree with what you are saying, but I damn will defend your right to say it." We all have every right to be terrible people, but being terrible should most definitely have severe consequences.

Now, I'm incredibly sorry for your loss, no matter how long ago it may have been, and am most appalled that someone would say that, but, allow me to make this tl;dr statement (even though I did read it).

tl;dr: bratty, degenerate pieces of shit will be bratty, degenerate pieces of shit.

LiveYiOrDieHard11/27/2015, 7:04:32 AM2 votes

now i understand that online games and the entire internet are bastions of hateful and offensive language but for the first time in my history of gaming I felt for lack of better words "hurt".

I'm just shocked this is the first time you've had this happen.

I have teammates tell me to kill myself on a regular basis. Probably can't even go 10 games without getting it at least once. League community is known to be absolutely horrid for a reason.

Palmeiras SerieB11/27/2015, 2:54:32 AM2 votes

I hope someday Riot creates a punished player list

ChaosThief11/27/2015, 3:25:06 AM2 votes

Now I have a problem with the poll: There are things that cross the line, but don't affect my emotional state. I know it's incredibly wrong, but it doesn't cause me to feel worse just because it was said. Those thing will happen and I will have to accept that; that doesn't make it any better.

Also based on the first few lines I would say that person is just not a very good player. He is unwilling to accept his failures, no matter how many times they happen, and looking for a scapegoat. The easiest scapegoat in this case is the support, in other words, you, in this case.

Anyone else on your team would have had to deal with this person as well if they were his/her support. Your entire team still could have seen what he had said, and in the end I hope they reported this person. Contrary to what some believe: words do hurt.

Dunkrius2g11/27/2015, 6:37:46 AM2 votes

Needs a perma ban up in this **

Dad Rock11/27/2015, 12:10:14 AM2 votes

It's the internet, people tell you to kill yourself all the time. Your shitty play made that guy feel really terrible so he says shit to you that he thinks will make you feel just as bad as your trash play made him feel. Get over it or quit competitive games.