Try to be the "Adult" in the Room when dealing with toxic players

Hexs Fortune·10/14/2018, 4:36:46 PM·18 votes·11,117 views

Just had a game where my support decided to criticize me during a failed gank. Rather than explaining my view of things I simply fullmuted all ( in case any others decided to dog pile in) and focused on the game.

A short while later he started taking my cs. At this point I didn't give him any reaction, just did my best to get what I could. After a while, I said "Lets work together" and nothing else. I just let that suggestion hang, as I was unable to reply to any sarcastic responses since he was muted.

And it worked...he started playing to win. During the post game lobby I realized he shifted his trolling towards the enemy blitzcrank.

20 Comments

CharDeeMcDenniz10/14/2018, 4:38:50 PM13 votes

GJ man, an all too common occurrence with toxic ppl. they don't actually have a legit point or target, they just want someone to listen to their word vomit and respond, regardless of who it is

Wuddha10/14/2018, 5:38:58 PM5 votes

Out of my groups of league buddies from bronze to plat, I reached honor 5 the fastest. And despite being a meh player, it was mostly because I fully believe in positive reinforcement.

Many of my teammates call it quits in the laning phase. I try to get them to look forward to teamfighting and splitpushes. It's really nice being a cc tank player because I encourage many players with good peels. It boosts everyone's morale and will.

It can be a J4 losing his shit vs a fiora, and I'd tell them "CS carefully for like 2 minutes, at level 8, we'll DESTROY her"

And that specific choice of words justifying to wait and not take chances, and relying on team effort instead of constantly trying to "outplay" someone who's ahead changes everything about their playstyle moving forward.

Xurreal10/14/2018, 6:38:24 PM4 votes

#leadership

Jerry SeinfeId10/14/2018, 10:11:47 PM4 votes

so basically i just gotta make em hate the enemy team more than they hate me.

AJStarhiker10/14/2018, 7:25:16 PM3 votes

Last spring, I had a teammate start harassing me for my champion pick, rank shaming, etc. He kept up in game and, after he lied to the opposing team about something I'd said, I put him on mute.

Apparently, he didn't even notice I wasn't responding to him because I took him off mute during the last couple minutes and he was still spewing the same crap at/about me.

The remaining three players gave me 2 tilt-proof and a GG<3 honors. probably pissed off the guy even more I had the "Most Honorable" flair. [slayer-jinx-catface]

hhaavviikk10/14/2018, 7:27:14 PM3 votes

it's almost as if fighting fire with fire doesn't work :O

Wish more people would just use the mute function

Danksley10/15/2018, 2:06:05 AM2 votes

Treating them positively sometimes makes them rage harder. Win/win in my book since it makes them easier to report. Your positivity will push them towards a punishment or towards shutting up and playing, basically.

COBRA C0MM4NDER10/15/2018, 3:28:42 AM2 votes

as a bronzie with max honor, I find it's a challenge to keep people focused. I do admit I chew some people out when they do silly things (but this is bronze, silly is the soup of the day).

if I see a teamate getting stepped on and I can do something about it...I'll damn well try. most times my encouragement is "let's keep trying...together, as a team"

then if all else fails, play Lux and spam her laugh from a safe distance...if that don't do it. they must be made of strong stuff.

emarythomp210/15/2018, 6:46:29 AM2 votes

Just mute them or ignore them. Don't type to them it fuels their tilt and yours. Trust me when you stop typing to them they slow down or stop typing in general. It's all psychological. Like when someone insults you irl and you completely ignore their existence. They give up because they know it has no effect on you.

IOffMeta GtOvrIt10/15/2018, 8:56:56 PM2 votes

save yourself the trouble folks, before the game starts /mute all, you can mute pings now too so if they take that route, go for the pings as well, exit out of the lobby before anyone says anything, problem solved

Vlada Cut10/15/2018, 2:11:57 PM1 votes

Maturity at it's finest, A+ [slayer-jinx-wink] For real tho, you did a good job in turnimg the sotuation to your favor and the fact you didn't argue with your teammate.

Nubulas410/16/2018, 7:31:39 AM1 votes

Why carry the asshole? Troll me in game and we just lost. I'm not wasting effort trying to help trolls. And winning doesn't mean anything to me at all. Not sure why it matters to anyone. Fukem. Let him troll. Relax, try a new build, try practicing combos on jung camps for the rest of the game.

This isn't anything important, if people don't want to win or can't be bothered to understand simple wave management AND also wont listen in game, screwem, let them lose.

mlm olo mlm10/15/2018, 1:15:53 AM1 votes

I think you just didn't give attention to the troll.

Some times, the troll gets bored and accidentally focuses on the game. [slayer-jinx-wink]

AP MISS FORTUNE10/16/2018, 3:00:54 AM1 votes

Yes, let's be an adult every game to the point where the game feels like babysitting and not an actual game because we're now taking responsibility for other player's actions versus riot actually punishes the correct players versus ones just trying to stand up for their selves. Also, an adult doesn't enable people to have bad behavior only mom and dad do that so you become emotionally attached to them. Then at 18, they can ignore you if u don't bend to their will pulling on your heart strings <3. Gee. I hope you get it.

AugustHeatHaze10/16/2018, 4:56:17 AM1 votes

yea just mute all OR mute the toxic people and encourage the people who aren't toxic

OH if someone is the target of toxicity compliment them on thier plays! They get a kill! GJ nice kill, they escape, NICE escape, just find things to be positive about and it will potentially make thier day.