Why do i always flame and what can i do to calm myself down

Tendel123·7/27/2018, 12:42:56 AM·4 votes·4,003 views

Everytime someone one my team makes a terrible play or feeds hard i feel the urge to tell them off and call them bad. When my buff resets level 1 and my top does not ward my top buff and it is stolen, I feel the urge call him out for his plays but i cant seem to do it in a constructive way. Like how i should say "top next games try to ward top buffs so they don't get stolen! It will help your jg gank you more and faster!" but instead i say "idiot why did you not ward my buff i lost it" I just feel so much anger towards the player base for small mistakes. Its also a pain that lane mistakes can lead to junglers falling behind. It is a team game and i have to accept that. I hope to be a more positive player in the future but it can be hard. Ive always had anger issues. Is there any tips that the community can give me to calm down. thx

23 Comments

Danksley7/27/2018, 6:53:47 AM3 votes

Tansition your toxicity into positivity. At the wrong time.

Jungler walks into your laners and dies while you're behind 30 hostile minions and your support is at 1/4 health and mana? "Thanks" "Good job"

Not only will you not get punished, but you'll get a massive boost to honor progress. The system will actively reward you for being toxic like this.

That or unbind the enter key like a normal person.

AnAggravatedPimp7/27/2018, 12:58:06 AM2 votes

When you feel angry, pet a dog. Easy solution

MrFawknSunshine7/27/2018, 12:46:17 AM2 votes

hmm 1st off buy a pink ward and ward your own buff

2ndly its just a game why get upset over it?

Duchess Katarina7/27/2018, 2:22:02 AM1 votes

You can ask them nicely at the start of the game to ward your buff, something along the lines of "Top, can you ward my buff for me, please?" And then maybe (if you can) tell them you'll look to gank lvl 2/3 or something. Also keep in mind, sometimes people tab out/afk at the start of games.
Remember that everyone makes mistakes, even yourself. Focus on your own gameplay & improvement before you criticize others. There's one tip in loading screen that I like that goes "Everyone misses skill shots, even you."
If you're playing norms, keep in mind that people often use norms as a way to practice new champions/roles. Or champions that they're rusty on, so cut people some slack, they're learning. Also, some people just want to have fun.
You simply can't win them all, and that's okay. Sometimes yes you and your teammates played poorly, sometimes it's just a matter of they got better champs/better comp/harder scaling champs.
As someone who has played over ~4000 games in norms, I have about the same win/lose ratio, I've won ~2000 games, and I've lost about ~2000 games, and let me tell ya, it makes no god damn difference.
Flaming doesn't really help anyone. I'm sure there's been times where you had a bad game, and you had teammates flame you, did it help you? No. Did it help you win? Probably not. Getting upset, only makes yourself play worse cuz you're agitated and you put yourself in a negative mindset. Tilt happens, just don't let it control you or the game. Watch some cute puppy videos or something after to remind you there is still good in this world/get your mind back in a more positive space.

Sorry! I hope this helps you though, these are some ways I keep myself calm during games. I hope they can help you! :) Best of luck in your future games! :D

MYSTlCFLOW7/27/2018, 4:39:43 AM1 votes

if you focused on playing the game and just doing ur best instead of focusing on whats wrong and how you're gonna lose the game you would be less toxic.

step 1. your next 5 ranked games? intentionally lose them but don't make it obvious, why? to proove to urself that lp doesn't matter that much

step 2. when u want to flame a teammate for dying tell them "GJ" when you want to flame an enemy? after you kill them tell them "good fight, well played" works like a charm, and you can smile in glee whilst ur bad teammate flames u and you just repeat "gj :)"

Raeyxx7/27/2018, 7:13:39 AM1 votes

A trick that I learned from a friend in plat and it's helped me pull myself back more than once.

When you really get mad at someone, mute them (speech and pings) and take a moment for yourself. Whether your in base or under tower, just stop playing for 10 seconds. Take a deep breath. (Silly, I know; but it really DOES help.) Ask yourself "is this game going to matter an hour from now?" The answer is usually "no."

Return to game. It won't always completely dismiss your anger, but it can take you from a 10 to a 3 on the fury scale.

Hope it helps!

afmghost7/27/2018, 9:04:39 PM1 votes

Swear vocally. Don't type it, say it.

Amphysvena7/27/2018, 11:49:51 PM1 votes

Be thankful. Having players that make bad plays actually means that you have people in your team, not afk people. This is as good as it gets in S8.

MOLTinaTOR7/28/2018, 12:13:22 AM1 votes

Just tell them what they did wrong and how to avoid it, they're not gonna learn by flaming. Tell them to play it safe, where to ward, when to gank etc. And compliment them for good plays, it boosts their self esteem and makes them happier and less titled. Give them an "all good" if they commit a mistake. At least that's what I do, I've never flamed anyone ever heh.

Jamaree7/27/2018, 12:53:09 AM1 votes

Remove your enter keys

Hyquiem7/27/2018, 1:10:22 AM1 votes

Disable chat. 100% cus people are so horrendous they want people baned.