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It is obvious to me now that I -AM- toxic and unsportsmanlike.

Xurreal·3/26/2016, 1:54:00 PM·7 votes·823 views

It is obvious that I AM toxic and unsportsmanlike.

This is not easy. But I can see it now. It is in the way that I approach the game. My aim isn't to work with my team to secure victory. I don't deserve to be Silver, I don't even deserve to be Bronze at this point. How do I change my thought process so that I AM more sportsmanlike? I guess that is why I am here. I want to be what is in this tip: "Sportsmanlike players tend to have higher win rates- and more comeback victories."

I can feel it in games where I think to myself that I am that, but it's apparent that I am just a rager and a complainer even without saying anything because I feel like -I- have to be the one to do it all by myself and that the others are possibly inept and incapable of doing simple things (very toxic mindset).

In a recent game, I saw a player doing what I would consider as badly, and I wanted to say something critical about it from the support position, but instead i tried to say something upbeat and encouraging to prove to the system that I am a reformed individual not needing restrictions... I also burst into tears in real life, because I couldn't say what I was thinking and I felt the anger build up inside of me as I said the opposite of what I was thinking until I couldn't keep those emotions bottled up anymore.

It is obvious that I AM toxic and unsportsmanlike.

I want to change, but I don't know how. I think that is what is holding me back in League. I don't want to be like those people who keep making new accounts only to have them banned (a danger in which I feel is about to happen to my main account). I've played for many years and have never risen anywhere. It is not because I lack experience, it isn't because I don't try hard, it is because I am unsportsmanlike and I think sourly and ill of others. Unless things are going perfectly, I rage inside. A fair weather gamer. This means that I'm just a high level player making low level players squirm under my experience which is a promotion of toxicity itself!

I need help to figure this out because I don't think i can do it on my own (or I would have done so by now), so I guess I'm asking the community for help. Tips. Techniques on just letting it go or some encouragement or something...

This whole hextech thing has really crushed my spirits, but it has opened my eyes, and possibly in the knick of time.

[zombie-brand-mindblown]

9 Comments

Sarutobi3/26/2016, 4:45:43 PM3 votes

I would say if its gotten this badly maybe take a break from this game. First and foremost games are only for enjoyment. You have to remember at the end of the day nothing is going to change if you win or lose your matches. There is always tomorrow and there is always a need to improve yourself. As i said take a break. Maybe a week to a month depending on how bad its been. But just take your mind off of this game. Go play something else in the mean time, or do other activities.

After you do get back into the game i would suggest to just not use chat. Either rebind the enter/chat key to something else. Or make it so it is difficult for you to use chat. Pings are more than enough to use to actually play this game. Once you feel comfortable enough to use chat properly then start using it again. If you feel like you need to say something just stop and think if it will change anything? More often than not it wont. So its best to just not use it.

No flash no life3/28/2016, 12:32:30 AM2 votes

It's very challenging to do so since your teammates' mistakes will make you suffer and when you're frustrated you naturally trace back to the source of blame and accuse them in a "polite" manner.

My best advice for you is find yourself an entertaining game where you have the potential to stomp and have fun no matter how bad your fellow players are. I played lots of mmorpg's before I played league, and I rarely recalled any negative experience. When allies die I laugh, when I die I get jelly at allies, and when everyone dies we blame the healer (priest:"dafuq"). People don't rage at teammates because their opponents - while being ahead point wise - will not be strengthened in terms of combat power even if ppl feed infinite amount of kills. While you may not have fun if you're losing, you won't be as frustrated and it's much easier and less pressuring to turn the tables around.

I'm not trying to advertise mmorpg and perhaps you have your reason to be fond of league, just that considering the nature of this game and our community, you might wanna spend your precious time enjoying a different game.

disregardable3/26/2016, 3:15:55 PM1 votes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIAeisuevwc

This video might be helpful on being more sportsmanlike in general. Skip to 7:30 if you don't want to learn about honor ribbons (which I assume you don't).

Now from my experience: It only gets easier from here. I personally took a break from playing my main, because I had built up an expectation to succeed (and for my team to succeed) when I play her, which usually left me more frustrated than I would be playing something else. Just a tip. The more games you can go without raging at someone, the less you're going to want to.

Leblancster3/27/2016, 2:32:31 AM1 votes

Treat your teammates like turrets, they are literally there for nothing except to be meatshields that feed the enemy team gold during the game. You just have to get the enemy turrets and nexus before they get too fed off of yours. If you can't carry your teammates, then you are in the elo you belong. Your teammates are there FOR A REASON, typically because they are bad. If you're really better than them, you will have to carry those 50% of wins.

KoggyStyle3/27/2016, 3:16:21 AM1 votes

i have my own toxicity also :P, it helps to have a tough skin, and you might wanna throw emotion out the window it affects more than just what you type into the chat box.

GL HF.

Xurreal3/26/2016, 5:49:00 PM1 votes

Thanks

Astôlfo3/26/2016, 3:42:19 PM1 votes

It's good you managed to catch yourself before you got yourself into any serious trouble.

Some tips would be to maybe avoid Ranked. Ranked "means" LP and some Rank whatever, but in all seriousness, that doesn't actually mean anything. It doesn't give you any special powers. It's some pixels on a screen that are a different set of pixels than someone else's. I guess you could apply this logic to the whole game, but anyways, yeah. Try sticking with Normals, and opening yourself up a bit. It's not the end of the world if you don't win. The whole point of a game is to have fun. If you can't have fun, that defeats the point of playing. And in Normals, most others also won't care an extreme amount like they'd do about Ranked. So relax and have fun. Now, obviously, I don't mean to just completely fly off into lala-land. You should still try to play to win/for fun, like others do, but realize that it's fine no matter who wins, and just enjoy the ride to the end.

Another thing is, it's understandable people get upset. Everyone's human, after all. The thing is, if you want to vent, keep it outside of the game. If you're alone wherever you're playing League, feel free to shout, scream, cry, punch a pillow, do whatever. If you're not, try turning on some good music. Good music helps a lot more than you'd think.

I get it might be hard to compliment people all the time, and that's fine. You don't have to tell people they're doing good if they're not (in your opinion). However, what you could do is encourage them, with things like "Don't worry" or "It's fine", etc. If people are doing good, feel free to tell them that. Even a "good job!" goes a long way. Keep doing this kind of thing, and eventually you'll get more used to it, and it'll help you become more positive in-game overall.

Good luck to you and your efforts! ^^