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Help me not be toxic...

Toxicate13·3/29/2018, 3:32:59 AM·3 votes·491 views

I'm not trying to justify my toxic behavior in any way, so please read this before you downvote.

So I recently got my account suspended for two weeks, and I climbed from b4 to gold4 last season and I don't want to lose that progress. But it's very difficult for me not to type in chat when things piss me off, like my teammates making dumb mistakes, or me making dumb mistakes and attempting to blame it on something else. I don't really like muting my teammates because sometimes there's things I need to know that they can't ping, and I feel like I'm missing out on something. I have had an account permanently banned as well, but that was a few years ago. My smurf account also got a chat restriction.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that it's very difficult for me not to type in chat. And I don't say things like "fuck you", I don't really say toxic things to my teammates, I just passive aggressively call them bad or something. So, does anyone have tips to help this? Trust me, I've tried. I've told myself to go the whole game without saying anything in chat, but I just can't stop myself. It's very difficult because this game pisses me off sometimes. I need help not being toxic. I know it might sound like a personal problem, but many people have gotten punishments and have reformed. So what did you do to help? Thanks.

21 Comments

Roam Support3/29/2018, 4:05:18 AM3 votes

It's not what you say it's how you say it keep that in mind

redniwediS3/29/2018, 4:05:31 AM2 votes

If you can't hold yourself back from responding at all mute everyone at the very start of the game, so you don't get tempted.

If you can hold yourself back for a little while, or a game or two, make sure to take breaks between your games. You don't want to carry any baggage from one game to another.

Kyaza3/29/2018, 5:05:23 AM2 votes

For me, a couple things that work are remembering to breathe, if I start to focus on that then I find I can focus back on the game. another thing you could try is everytime you want to type, use an emote instead, that way you are not just instantly typing whats on your mind

ZaneShadow3/29/2018, 3:51:18 AM2 votes

Hmm, well, here's a tip I got from someone else: If you've had 2 bad games in a row, or just one really aweful game, call it quits for the day. Because your frustrated already from those games, your just putting yourself in a bad place and making it harder on yourself. If your an alcaholic, dont go to bars. If you struggle with being toxic, dont play while tilted. Ones a much more extreme example than the other, but the underlying principle is the same for both. And I'm assuming your desire is not simply to avoid being toxic, but actually be able to use chat constructively/for fun.

Now during those first few games that haven't gone bad or good yet, there's only so much I can recomend. Id say make sure to just play a relaxing Norm's game first, something your not taking seriously. Play a low ranked champ you enjoy and just keep in mind "I'm just here to have fun". Ignore what happens in other lanes and do not look at the score lines. Dont look at the tab menue.

After the games over and you feel suficently warmed up and relaxed, then enter the grind of a ranked game. Going in relaxed and at least partially still in the fun seeking mindset should help. Really avoid looking at score lines except to think "I should gank for them if their behind" or "My {incert lane here} is fed, lets gank their lane once and put a nail in the coffin of what their setting up". If either of those things go bad, let your mind go blank. You'll instinctually want to blame someone. Its better to just give yourself a second before that happens. That moment of to take a breath.

By trying to control what your thinking before the actual typing happens, you'll give yourself much better odds of avoiding saying anything toxic. It's not full proof becasue even my words outpace my brain at times. But as you practice this rotine, it helps.

As a closing remark, if someone's typing stuff that's annoying in chat, just mute them. The danger of losing your goal is much worse than what minor information a player like that would provide. Same way your avoiding putting yourself in those situations, don't let others drag you into them either.

Hope that helps and good luck. [poppy-wink]

Sp33d Zer03/29/2018, 3:59:49 AM2 votes

Unbind your enter key

AeroWaffle3/29/2018, 6:41:09 AM1 votes

All the recommendations to unbind the enter key is fine and all, but I believe you need to fundamentally change your perspective on interacting with other people over the internet.

If you attempt to just put a bandaid solution on the problem by just imposing a self chat ban, you're still not fixing the core problem. You only are limiting one avenue of your behavior. Chat is not the only outlet of poor behavior in this game.

Toxicate133/29/2018, 9:38:01 PM1 votes

I don't want to reply to all the comments for the sake of not flooding the comment section with replies, but I really want to thank everyone that is actually trying to help and not just downvoting my post or calling me a toxic asshole. I really, truly appreciate your constructive comments. Thank you.

fatherdarius3/30/2018, 1:14:17 AM1 votes

1 - /fullmute all 2 - Zen

Shukr4n3/29/2018, 3:50:57 AM1 votes

Dont use chat forc thatc purpose Dont tell teammate anything but positive stuff. Dont flood chat Noone cares about you in chat. Write something to get your point, then dont write it anymore. Don t comment the match in chat Dont parroting bad behaviour.

Consider next time u use a minimal offence and get reported u will be permabanned. So grow up and understand that world doesnt rotate around you or prepare another account.

Mordius3/30/2018, 1:46:07 AM1 votes

Take a break from the game. Atleast a month. Try out a Co-Op game like Warframe where you aren't directly competing against other players. The community is different, And it will give you a different perspective on team play, so when you come back to league, you will have a clear head and a better outlook on how you view team based competitive games

Gall3/29/2018, 5:10:49 AM1 votes

Spam ping the question mark

LegendaryKnight03/29/2018, 5:16:10 AM1 votes

Riot's system is over sensitive only people who can't see it are fan boys simplest thing just buy a razer mouse and touch the key board don't type anything in chat just stay out of it and use discord or some chat feature not riot's premade crap one. I won't even type in chat anymore a rioter literally told me that intent behind what you say doesn't matter only the words lol. Over sensitive people now rule an over sensitive system best just not to type an beat players ass in game

RenekTonsOfDmg3/29/2018, 6:12:37 AM1 votes

https://boards.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/c/player-behavior-moderation/ghKQoeu8-how-to-unbind-your-enter-key-to-prevent-inadvertent-toxicity [slayer-pantheon-thumbs]

Ben SwoIo3/29/2018, 6:26:48 AM1 votes

Take breaks, play a little less, and do not log on to play if you're in a bad mood / tired / irritable.

Mute all at the start. Trust me, there's nothing of value that anyone is going to be typing. Pings are plenty enough for communication. Just focus on playing and having fun. If people spam ping on a mistake, immediately mute that too.

Try to say your complaints out loud, that might help you from wanting to type negative shit to others. Or you could try typing it out but instead of hitting "enter" just delete it. Might be a bit of a release in doing that.

Most importantly, try to remember it's JUST A GAME. Have fun man. If it gets to the point where it isn't fun, then take a break or find a new game. Video games aren't supposed to constantly piss you off to the point where you damn near have a stroke or are negative towards others. Play to enjoy, win or lose.