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Banned for joking with my duo friend in ARAM

Layorz·9/19/2017, 10:41:53 PM·2 votes·590 views

So here I was playing an aram with a friend. We joke at each others expense, we mock each other, we have a sense of humour that is pretty typically boyish, we rib each other and just have a laugh.

Early on, like 2 minutes into the aram, I was throwing some pokes, and I ate a few skillshots, so my mate started pinging me back. Being that it was my mate, I just said "kys" to him a couple times jokingly. Of course, the Nasus on our team was telling me to back too and immediately said "reported" and then said he muted me before I could say I was talking to my friend that I was queued with. I had no chance to say "Hey sorry but I'm talking to a friend". The guy muted me instantly upon incorrectly thinking I was mocking him. Throughout the game I then had little interaction with anyone, beyond the occasional message to my mate, such as laughing about a few of our bad calls and deaths. I called our nasus "poor susan" when he got caught and I couldnt save him, and he then said that he muted me at the start and that he would report me again, to which I said to my friend "you reckon he muted me after I said susan?". The enemy EZ tried to make a move and Nasus absolutely deleted him, so I said EZ got fucked up. After that I said nothing, and we played for another 10 minutes or so before the game ended. I said nothing in the lobby. Not even 20 minutes later I receive a ban with this game and the dialogue from it being the only thing on the reform card. I mean, the actual "offensive words" I said were "kys" twice to my friend, and "fucked" when referring to ez getting wrecked. Nothing else I said was negative, and I wasn't talking to anyone else except my friend in the game with me.

I honestly feel like this was a case of someone just being a tad sensitive and assuming that I was being toxic to him, when I was just playing a fun game with my friend. I spent the whole game just playing properly and if it weren't for my mate playing with me, I would have honoured NAsus because of a few sick plays he made. The guy muted me from minute 2 for something I said to my own friend, and I still enjoyed the game with him. But he's just completely victimized himself here at my expense, when all I was doing is joking with my mate the same way I always have in every game, and had Nasus even once asked if I was talking to him, I would have said no. But I didn't get the chance.

I know what kind of sympathy I'll get for posting this, but I've been waiting 11 hours so far. So I'm just sitting waiting for a ticket response, expecting to get told there's nothing that can be done. I think it's a bit rough to have essentially had someone mistakenly take offense to me and get me banned when I wasn't even talking to the guy. This guy didn't clarify who I was even talking to, and then muted me removing any chance of me explaining that I'm just talking to a friend. I wasn't attacking anyone, I wasn't being toxic to my team mates, I wasn't insulting them, I didn't ping spam, I wasn't even talking to the guy that's reported me. My reform card, which I can post later (at work atm..) has like 8 lines of dialogue, and once you have the context that every thing I said was directly to my own friend with no attempt to insult or mock anyone with any kind of toxicity, I just don't see how this warrants such a heavy punishment - especially as I've made a lot of effort to be a better player since I last got a reform card in april 2016.

33 Comments

Chermorg9/19/2017, 11:08:51 PM5 votes

Just how you don't go to the store/movie theater expecting to have to hear a couple loudly shouting offensive things at each other, people don't play league to see the same. If you did it in a store/movie theater, you'd be asked to leave by a manager - it's not anyone's job/responsibility to first ask you to change. It's your responsibility to be considerate of the public environment you're in and speak accordingly.

As others say, you should utilize private forms of communication (PM in League, voice chat, PM off-game, texting/phone call) to talk to your friends if you think what you're going to say could be construed as offensive.

Mizuki Zahra9/19/2017, 11:55:59 PM4 votes

Suicide isn't something to make fun of it has no place here

Imperial Pandaa9/19/2017, 10:50:29 PM3 votes

Here, I will reveal the secret of jabbing at your friends and not getting in trouble for it.

Ready?

Use a voice comm. Not like there aren't plenty of free ones. Use discord, don't type the jabs at them.

Icy Hot Shoto9/19/2017, 10:57:33 PM3 votes

Then you'll want to talk to them through the private messages while in games with them if not a 5-man premade.

Telling people to kill themselves isn't tolerated, which you've now just learned.

Timethief499/19/2017, 10:47:24 PM2 votes

Except of when you are 5men premade you should other Communication Services. Other players might Not be into the same Humor or See ist as Humor and Report it. If you want to discuss if the punishment was justified either Post your chatlogs here or write a ticket to the Riot Games Support.

SavageConcordia9/19/2017, 10:57:06 PM2 votes

start the game by sending a message to them using the "/w(their name)" command and then every time you want to talk to your friend just reply back and forth with the "/r" command.

Squidwards House9/20/2017, 1:10:02 AM2 votes

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Beas7ie9/19/2017, 10:59:03 PM1 votes

"KYS" is taken extremely seriously and even if "joking" you're still going to get hit with the harsh 14 day ban. Even if you're just joking the system doesn't know or care. Think if it as one of the things you don't joke about.

Kind of like how it's a bad idea to "joke" about bombs at an airport unless you want to be locked up in a back room for a long talk with security and police.

zPOOPz9/19/2017, 11:03:14 PM1 votes

There is a time and place for such "jokes" with your friend(s), namely in the privacy of your personal space. However, when you share a public space with other people (e.g. the in-game chat) who are not your friend(s), there is an unspoken etiquette that you don't cross the line into unacceptable territories (vulgarities, sexism, racial slurs, excessive cussing, etc.) with your jokes where others (not your friend(s) had to read/listen to them.

Just because you directed your jokes/toxicity at someone else still mean you are creating a negative gaming experience for everyone who had to read it. Next time, use private chat or private voice comm (the keyword being PRIVATE).

In any case, you may find some leniency with support ticket if you have a clean history. Good luck! You give me the vibe that this is unlikely to be repeated in the future.