The problem with KYS logic

So the number 1 argument I see on the boards in favor of letting people tell each other to kill themselves is that no one ever does it, and if you do it, you need to seek help. If you are offended by it, you need to grow thicker skin and use logic (the mute button) instead of emotion (the report button) -insert some political garbage here-

So here we go:

Telling someone to kill themselves over a free to play online game usually doesn't get typed in a game you are winning or a game that you are happy being in. It doesn't start and end at that one phrase. And it usually occurs when the person you are targeting is playing poorly or getting beaten. If you are playing to the best of your ability and you get told to kill yourself, your general reaction as a flamer yourself would be either A) Run it down mid or B) start typing worse things than them in chat.

Funnily enough players that recommend the mute button to others as a means to allow them to continue flaming often don't use it themselves; rather, it facilitates an excuse and a shift of blame from the violator to the victim.

So basically the two functions of play following verbal abuse are running it down mid and saying worse things. Running it down mid in response to flame is a weapon people often use to get back at players when just words are not enough to irritate them. It completely ruins the game for all involved and is the common talking point of people who get banned for hate speech. But why is it that statistically flamers tend to have more cases of intentional feeding on their side?

Using this prized logical, non-emotional response, people play around the team. If they don't like the team, they lose the desire to try to win, they can't coordinate and they can't read chat because of all the useless vulgarity getting tossed around. Logically there is no gain in telling someone to kill themselves. It will never help you win. It will only make you feel better.

Instead, calling people fragile snowflakes because of their response to a demoralizing bit of text and telling them they're not in control of their emotions and that makes them weak is actually ironic, because the other argument toxic people use is that the flamer can't control his/her emotional response to flame/bad plays. So, logically we can assert that the flamer is now putting all of the emotional stress and toxicity on the victim in order to cope with his/her inability to control their emotions themselves.

Thicker skin argument:

Yes, growing thick skin is awesome, and being able to ignore flame is super great. BUT, it is still annoying. It's not offending me in the sense that I'm going to go cry in a corner. It's more akin to a fly in my room that I want to swat. In the workplace, the highest level of productivity is seen in places where employees get along and talk to each other. Bullying, berating and criticizing employees leads to lower quality and more accidents, and a higher turnover.

Applying this to a team, it is hard to focus with spam pings and flooded chat, and the incentive to win is literally only the lp. Lp is like cash. I sure as hell won't work a really crappy job full of abuse for petty cash. I'll find a new job. Most people have thicker skin than you think. Most likely if the world's problems seem to fall on you at every step and you're just drowning in the agony of having to deal with people, you might need to grow thicker skin yourself.

The mute button is a tool, yes, to filter chat. But it is not a crutch to be used by people who lack the emotional discipline to talk strategy with their teammates. Pushing the burden onto every other player except yourself for your losses and your punishments is not how you survive in a civilized world. And trust me when I say, an uncivilized world is not one you would want to live in, even if you think being tough is cool.

Sure, hardly anyone ever kills themselves because you tell them to. So logically, why are you asking them to? Stop trying to admit that it's a logical response to bad gameplay, because it isn't.

Thanks for reading, and I'd like to end by saying this isn't just a hate on flamers message. I'm trying to provide reasoning, without including too much emotion, so that maybe you can understand why it's such a big deal.