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Needing help coping with a ban

LLW9N4CcHS·3/5/2016, 11:34:03 PM·3 votes·820 views

I originally posted this on reddit, but I don't know how they would take it, so I'm posting it here in hopes I can get some advice here and maybe if I'm lucky the attention of someone I can actually talk too.

I come to you guys in search of help and advice of some stuff regarding a permanent ban I have, and well I'm just trying to cope with it and maybe try to find a solution to get back into the game. I can cry about how much this game is involved with my social life and how much money I put into the game, but the ban was justified as I haven't been the nicest player in the world. There are excuses I can throw out for why I was behaving the way I was, but the truth is that I sometimes don't know how to keep my mouth shut and play this game as an 'escape from stress', when really its rather terrible for doing so. I sometimes realize my behavior is wrong after I burst out something, and then I jump back in to say 'sorry', but sorry doesn't cut it when you drop the moral of the team and already stain a bad mark onto the game. I'm just sort of asking for advice on how to cope with this and what to do. League has been my primary game and source of entertainment for a while now, and without it; it just kind of hurts. Its going to sound sad when I say this, but a lot of my social life does have activity in regards to this game and without it I just feel empty. I want to ask the League community two things, and thats how do I deal without playing this game? And is there any way I can make an appeal? The games in question where I was 'toxic' were not "go kill urself get cancer" it was more so me whining about stuff like fed yasuo, the team got udyr, or the most recent one was me dragging on a complaint of me hating premades too much. I know the old saying of "its just a game, don't take it too seriously", but this made me break down man, like I'm still shaking over it and its been three or four hours. I'm just looking for some support here from others that have been in the same situation. Thanks to all,

-Rose (Aradia Megido (NA))

I'm really trying to find the right forum for this, I really am trying to seek out help; even if its just someone to talk too. Im not sure this fits in with the rules here, but this is a player calling for some help from others, and even though I'm not entitled to anyone helping me, I really would appreciate it.

18 Comments

Dominick Destine3/5/2016, 11:41:17 PM1 votes

is there any way I can make an appeal?

No, you were toxic and therefore the ban is justified.

The amateur dramatics are meaningless because we know they are only crocodile tears.

Kei1433/6/2016, 12:42:00 AM1 votes

if you are having trouble not have LOL in your life, you can play another game to destress.

alternately, you are free to start another account. if other people's speech is part of the stresser, an instant mute (don't even bother responding to them) will help alot. if their actions are stressing you out, scream at the screen instead of typing it out.

finally realise that 40% of games you'll stomp. 40% you'll get stomped instead. and the remaining 20% of games you have influence over with your ingame decision making.

Ben Sharpio3/6/2016, 9:16:44 AM1 votes

This post was similar to my feelings for the game. I love this game so damn much, even through the "toxic" community and what not. There's something oddly satisfying about this game. I would come home and be excited to play my favorite champion. Sion. Unfortunately, a couple of months ago, ( I think two now), i was given the temporary ban of 14 days for intentionally throwing a game. During the 14 days I was given plenty of time to think about my actions, and how i could become a better player and have less of a negative impact in games. During the 14 days, i was playing on a smurf account, literally not saying a word in-game to practice better morals, and develop a better sense of tolerance. But, without a doubt, it felt really unsatisfying not playing on my main account. After i was unbanned, i played many games without receiving a single report. I would be pissed off, but i had the **self control ** to stop myself from typing it. There would actually be times where i would be halfway through a disrespectful comment, and i'd cancel the message because i understood the risk of my account being banned permanently. In a situation like this, you should do what i did, and quit the game entirely. I stopped playing video games entirely on the 11th of February because i was literally addicted to League of Legends. I didn't really get much accomplished during my time playing the game. Now that it is the 6th of March, i still have the urge to play, i really do, but it's just another one of those sacrifices that you NEED to make. For the first week that i stopped playing the game, i couldn't stop thinking about it. But now that it's been a month, even my friends have noticed and have implied that i'm less of an asshole, i get more things accomplished, and I am more calm and more sociable. I think that your ban may serve as a lesson. Maybe you should take a break from League of Legends and focus more on other things. Maybe you like music, maybe you're like me and like to draw. Now that i think about it, as much as i "enjoyed" myself playing league of legends, i spent a lot of my time pissed off. Now that i've stopped playing I enjoy doing other things, but i still watch League of Legends videos just to...i don't know... stay updated on one of my favorite games. I think that if you choose to take a long break from the game like i am doing right now, you can develop the courage and trust in yourself over-time to make a new account, and start with a completely new mindset in the future and learn from your past mistakes... I don't know if I should get back into the game again though...

Grindy4083/6/2016, 9:54:07 AM1 votes

Honestly, it seems to me that you depend too much on a video game. As far as making an appeal, I highly doubt that you will be unbanned, regardless of whether you change. My advice is to simply stop playing for a while. While I haven't ever been banned, there were a few times my laptop had to be fixed and I didn't have access to play video games for 3 months. Yeah, it sucked not to be able to play, but it was also very refreshing in a way. If you insist on playing, then create a new account and start from scratch, and be intentional about being a friendly player.

WinBoat3/7/2016, 1:58:06 AM1 votes

Alright bro, I myself am pretty toxic, or was at least on my other account. My other account got over 6 back to back chat restrictions. I'd be getting off a chat restriction only to be reported again and placed on another one. I ended up being 14 day banned and that is far as it went for me as I soon made a different account which is this one. So yeah I risked being ban permanently.

Trust me, I know how you feel. I hate feeders too, I hate people who refuse to communicate, and people who intentionally pick bad champions like Bard, Shyvanna and Warwick and and most of all, I hate losing. However, losing happens, and that's the other side of the coin. You can't win them all, nor should you expect to. Nor should you expect the other players on your team to be good either.

Those excuses you said you have aren't really excuses, some are legit. I mean people baiting you to become toxic is a thing here, it happens everywhere, even in real life organizations and stuff like the Donald Sterling thing from the LA Clippers, and the Hulk Hogan racist rant and stuff. There is people out there who will try to piss you off. There is also people who play this game that don't care about winning, so they don't perform their best because so.

I think for me, it was about admitting "ok, I'll never be lcs cause I'm not fortunate enough to be matched with the right people to move up in ladders, and meet the right people in life". Also knowing these trolls, feeders and people who piss you off will never make challenger and stuff too is a good feeling, so they're going nowhere either and will remain at a low elo more than likely.

Just face it, you're going to lose some games no matter what. You're also going to win some games. Also use the report button honestly, just remain quiet, and just report these trolls, and yeah I'll call them trolls, even feeders, and not so skilled players who should really stick to playing bots until they are completely sure they are capable of playing against a real life human being, or just go play ARAM where it's "fun".

Sometimes badmouthing someone hurts their feelings, as I said I was so toxic, I nearly made someone quit the game right after the match cause he added me to tell me how hurt he was and that he was going to leave and never come back to league again cause of me. So I told him sorry and apologized completely to him and stuff, and told him I would try to better myself and not go crazy on future teammates who screw up. So he stayed thankfully, but I don't want to be the person to make someone quit league, i wish they could just improve and stick to bot games tho or ARAM matches, and especially never play rank with a champion that isn't level 4 or higher.

You can't have what want always. You should realize its not about you and your expectations, but more so about you trying your best and that's it. You can't really judge someone else honestly, people have bad games, I have terrible games and I consider myself the best player on this region and realize that not everyone will do as good as me, especially in this lower elo even where all my diamond friends are struggling to get out of bronze. yes a group of diamond players can't make it out of bronze.

So you shouldn't feel to bad, you could be a lot worse off, just make a new account, don't hold the high expectations anymore, don't even say much because I used to be so fricking talkative and stuff, just try your best. If you don't win, move on, you'll eventually win, the losers on the team will not go anywhere, so no need to badmouth them. Some people will acknowledge your performance. I have games where I lose but carry so hard the whole other team gives me honors....

If someone tries talking shit to you, just ignore them and report them. That's what they will do to you if you say anything back, so don't let them have anything to report you again. Yeah it's lame, you cant say anything cause Riot wants you to not defend yourself but only with the report button, but you are playing on their terms.

Lastly, take a break for a month or so, wait until Aurelion Sol releases later in march then come back on a new account. I think there is more than just League, it shouldn't control your emotions. Go play something else, read some books! You don't want to be the person to hurt someone so bad and make them quit league or even worse harm themselves. Just remember by you being toxic could impact someones life in a negative way, if they suck ass at the game, just report them for intentionally feeding, or whatever. Don't become the puppet again and give in and lash out. Remember you'll get reported again and again and face another perma ban. Not worth it bro.