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Criticisms and today's Toxic mannerisms

YokoNomi·4/5/2017, 5:28:32 PM·1 votes·299 views

So, the more I find myself cycling in Bronze 2, quite literally going full circle with my lp for some reason, neither gaining nor losing more than what I'd had to begin with (relatively), I've found myself offering more and more advice to my fellow players. Now, I am generally blunt with my words, and I'm not one to beat around the bush. If there's a problem, I tell you what it is, and I tell you how it could be fixed. The reason I bring this up however, is because nearly every single time I do, they immediately act as if I'm blaming them for this or that. At first it didn't bother me, but it has happened frequently enough that I'm honestly genuinely concerned of just what the toxicity in Lower Elo games has done to a great deal of players.

Yes yes, I also realize that toxic behavior exists in every tier, etc, etc. But seriously, I feel like I'm looking at a beaten dog with how defensive they become when I try to be helpful. Is it just me, or is this a problem? Like, I don't recall it ever being this bad before, least not when I tried to seriously climb up a couple of seasons ago.

5 Comments

Leaf on Bush4/5/2017, 6:37:31 PM2 votes

Please built soon , we need it to have chance against

and the answer

STFU YOU SUCK

HalcyonDweller4/5/2017, 6:32:29 PM1 votes

People are insecure, myself included.

After so many times of dealing with others harassing them after mistakes. They expect it too much, and any mention or reference to their mistake will trigger them.

It's no fault of yours.

If you want to get through to them, you can try being subtle or overly polite. But I understand for most people that's too much effort / irritating to have to do.

What I've found works most often is stuff like, "Hey, it looks like you are having a frustrating time in bottom lane..." and then saying something about what might help, or promise that help will come if they can hang in there and play safe until then.

La Belle Sauvage4/5/2017, 6:42:29 PM1 votes

The issue is Unsolicited advice. Only give advice when asked. And for that matter direction too. Also, remember when communicating without the benefit of sound and physical presence makes comprehending tone and meaning even harder. This doesn't even begin to cover cultural differences or regional dialects, which often add to the complexity of successful communication via text.

Often people claim the want to help and I understand that, but if help wasn't asked for, it rarely is appreciated let alone accepted.

You may try qualifying your advice/instructions with "May I offer a piece of advice?"

MisterSki4/6/2017, 6:14:22 AM1 votes

Feeding causes people to be toxic.