Looking for advice on behavior.

Po3t Smurf·2/21/2018, 4:47:59 AM·2 votes·440 views

I am trying to stop being toxic at all in games. Its gotten me in trouble in the past, and I legitimately would like to be able to point out things to players in a way that isn't toxic. So far, even when Im not toxic, people get pissed if you say anything. You still get reported by people for saying simple things like "Maybe we could get a dragon." or "you cant beat him in a 1v1, just try farming." I'm a hot headed Irishman, and sometimes it gets the best of me. I try to communicate, and I try to be a team player. I have never once int'd in my life, and as far as I can remember ever intentionally did bad to make my team lose. I want to win, I want to help teammates, I want to succeed. What practices can I use to communicate effectively and not piss off a teammate? I can't help but take competition seriously, perhaps thats my problem. Idk. What do you think?

6 Comments

ModPeriscope2/21/2018, 4:59:48 AM3 votes

Well you're looking for advice, so you're at least on the right track. I don't think the statements you've mentioned can possibly get you a ban.

Avoid insulting teammates, or even enemies for that matter
Stick to talking about objectives.
hit the mute button when you notice someone consistently being toxic.
If you feel like you're on tilt, play a different game or at least, a different game mode
Realize that you likely won't see many of these players again, so there's no need to insult them
Play with friends.

If these don't help you, you can always avoid chat and gradually work back to using chat. Use /mute all or /mute full to block others chat, but realize that this does not prevent them from seeing your chat.

Ekitaih2/21/2018, 5:06:04 AM3 votes

What I do is I play with friends in a voice chat. If you have to get something out, it's better said than typed out. I also play with music, it really helps me feel pretty good. Making suggestions is good, just leave it at that though. Avoid arguing as it will only cause problems. If they come back with some kind of retort you don't like, mute them. You won't have to see it anymore. If someone is spam pinging you, mute their pings. I get spam pinged sometimes and it can really tilt me. So I try to mute the toxic people. I'm glad to see people trying to better themselves rather than seeing the "MAN, I GOT BANNED FOR BS" etc. The first person to post here really laid out some good rules to follow to keep you on track. So hopefully we can come together and help ya out. [slayer-jinx-wink]

Love Dramatic2/21/2018, 8:05:58 AM1 votes

Remember that you are playing this game not only for its competition, but also for fun. you come back because you want to have a good time playing (aka hopefully stomp a team)
Focus on laning. My low elo experience with tilt is that you start to look at mistakes of your teammates instead of laning which can really hurt how you perform.
Mute if you want to, very good suggestion from everyone above.
The moment you queue up, you automatically should expect someone to be toxic as well or feed. Be prepared for the flame and don't let it get to you.
If your teammate is being extremely toxic, just stay silent, Toxic players hate the silence of their prey more than anything. This will lead to less flaming (unless if they int)

accept that not everyone can climb elo as fast as people like Rat IRL or Apdo. Grinding is a part of climbing and is a necessity if you are legit climbing and not smurfing.

              overall, Focus on laning and CSing, mute if you want, always expect a flamer/feeder, toxicity breeds more toxicity; be silent and they 
                            will not speak usually. 
  gl in reforming like Tyler*[slayer-jinx-wink]*

Drugoth2/21/2018, 8:27:51 AM1 votes

In my opinion the best way to communicate in game with others is the smart ping system. Forget the chat, it's slow and can get you killed. You'd be surprised how much information you can convey just through smart use of pings. Give it a try sometime.

Also, if you forget to mute all because you get triggered by what others say to you, you can always just drag the chat box off the screen. Chat box position saves, so you'll never see any negative word that may tilt you.

Ph03n1xb1rd2/21/2018, 12:15:19 PM1 votes

Go play Dota2 or HoTS, far better community, same competitive style, better gameplay. Have fun!

Po3t Smurf2/21/2018, 1:29:26 PM1 votes

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To repurpose my comments on this from an old thread:

Two suggestions.

The first is to try not typing anything not purely factual and purely in-game. No "that Akali is fed," no "you should have ganked," just things like "top is gankable" or "dragon in 0:50" or "coming mid. Prep for gank." Check EVERYTHING before you send it, and don't send anything you're not CERTAIN is acceptable.

The second (and the better, more long-term approach, in my opinion) is to start playing TWO games. The first is League mechanically -- don't play with winning in mind though. Play with IMPROVING AS A PLAYER in mind, whether you win or lose. Don't let your teammates words or in-game performance keep you from quietly trying to play the best game you can. Remember -- if your MMR is accurate, you'll lose about 50% of games (and sometimes it won't be your fault -- but sometimes it will be your fault). If you can't find joy in a losing game this may not be the game you want to play.

The second game I'd recommend playing? That of creating the best team environment you can, whether you win or lose. It DOES help -- this is often my goal, and I seem to run into a LOT of great players as a direct result. Sometimes you get players who can either tilt, or be great teammates and fun people -- and how you treat them and how you react to them makes the difference between those two states. It also can bring victories in bad situations as the team actually WANTS to work together and see each other succeed.

Thanks for the responses! This is from a guy named Djinn in another thread, It has helped me tremendously. Especially in stating only purely factual things. If people get mad and ignore it, thats on them. It's still frustrating to lose because people don't play objectives and think this game is Call of Duty, but at least you're doing everything you can to win. If I was a dick, and argued, we'd still lose, and I'd be even angrier.