How do I not be toxic?

Tominatooo·5/19/2017, 3:22:13 PM·4 votes·3,806 views

Ok, before you go into the comments and say "ITS OBVIOUS NOT HOW TO BE TOXIC GO UNINSTALL KID," hear me out. I have recently gotten a 14 day suspension (without any chat restrictions before, but whatever). I am very close to being unsuspended, and I have heard that 3 months after you get unsuspended, if you get punished in any way, you get permanently banned. I have spent much time and quite a chunk of change on this account, so I really do not want that to happen. I told myself "ok, ill just stop being toxic!" Well I created a smurf account while I am suspended, and I realize that I slowly am going back to my old ways. I have several mental disabilities, so it is hard for me to hold back what I am saying. I would play league without talking, but communicating is the most fun part of league! I just want some tips on how to hold myself back from being toxic.

18 Comments

ModThe Djinn5/19/2017, 3:40:55 PM7 votes

To repurpose my comments on this from an old thread:

Two suggestions.

The first is to try not typing anything not purely factual and purely in-game. No "that Akali is fed," no "you should have ganked," just things like "top is gankable" or "dragon in 0:50" or "coming mid. Prep for gank." Check EVERYTHING before you send it, and don't send anything you're not CERTAIN is acceptable.

The second (and the better, more long-term approach, in my opinion) is to start playing TWO games. The first is League mechanically -- don't play with winning in mind though. Play with IMPROVING AS A PLAYER in mind, whether you win or lose. Don't let your teammates words or in-game performance keep you from quietly trying to play the best game you can. Remember -- if your MMR is accurate, you'll lose about 50% of games (and sometimes it won't be your fault -- but sometimes it will be your fault). If you can't find joy in a losing game this may not be the game you want to play.

The second game I'd recommend playing? That of creating the best team environment you can, whether you win or lose. It DOES help -- this is often my goal, and I seem to run into a LOT of great players as a direct result. Sometimes you get players who can either tilt, or be great teammates and fun people -- and how you treat them and how you react to them makes the difference between those two states. It also can bring victories in bad situations as the team actually WANTS to work together and see each other succeed.

Brutalitops015/19/2017, 3:24:01 PM5 votes

I find it helps to say what you're thinking out loud instead of typing it in chat.

ModPeriscope5/19/2017, 3:42:41 PM2 votes

You came to the right place, fwiend. I think it's a good idea you made a smurf to start your reforming, but you are avoiding the 14-day ban. No one's gonna punish your smurf, but the thing is you probably need time away from this game to cool down. League is pretty competitive, and anyone can lose their cool when they don't take enough time in between games. At any rate, you can try these tips out:

Use the mute button. Riot also recently implemented muting pings. But every toxic player reaches a point when they're not going to change what they'll do in game, at which point you should mute them. You can also hit /mute all or /mute full to start a game off without anyone's chat.
Keep the amount of time you play league set (I struggle with this, too).
Convey useful information: MIA pings, objectives, and strategy are definitely good things that you should convey when playing

As I was typing these things, I found a cool Foxdrop video (albeit old) that would help many a leaguer out. Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcJg6MkHGMM

Best of luck in your quest of reforming. YOU CAN DO THIS.

GULAG 4 U5/19/2017, 10:20:53 PM2 votes

Unbind chat.

PunBrother5/19/2017, 11:46:56 PM2 votes

Don't let your disabilities slow you down. Learn from your mistakes. It helps to acknowledge them and to understand how you can fix them.[slayer-jinx-wink]

SecondAirbane5/21/2017, 12:58:15 AM2 votes

i am in your position i have succumb to my old ways however i give a tip: do it in postgame chat vent your anger there

Karn Bishop5/21/2017, 1:44:11 AM1 votes

Play a single player game, you have already stated you do not have the will power to not be a bully so just play single player games, then again you do have the will power to not do it other wise you'd be in the hospital every other week from people beating the crap out of you for insulting and threatening them.

In short if you can be nice to people in real life but cannot in a game you are making a willful choice to be a terrible person because you know that your nice and safe in your chair and they can't ever meet you physically.

Kei1435/19/2017, 3:53:04 PM1 votes

the simple way is to pluck the enter key off your keyboard or put something over it so you can't press enter.

Mental control can be developed, but you need to just focus on yourself and not worry about the fault of others. There are bad people in every game, you getting angry at them won't suddenly make them less bad.

Also, the 3 months is an approximate timeframe for you to drop a punishment tier. There has to be games played and you can't just let it sit and decay. You'll need around 9 months of playing to have a clean account.

Aptest5/19/2017, 3:59:37 PM1 votes

My advice to you is this:

whenever someone says anything that you feel compelled to reply to in any unsavory manner, you mute them immediately. It is a lot harder to control yourself when you are already exchanging obscenities with trash. This way, you just need to stop yourself from saying one line, and instead you mute them and following that you don't have any more urges to bash them in chat because you can't see any of the junk they spill into the chat box.

Jo0o5/19/2017, 5:06:34 PM1 votes

IMHO, you need to internalize that this is just a game and not worth being upset over. Trolls gonna troll, noobs gonna noob, but you're only doing yourself a disservice by letting that impact your enjoyment. Obviously it's more fun to win, but even so, you're gonna lose about 50% of the matches you play, so you need to accept that.

I find it easiest to relax and respect people with some booze in my system. Dunno how old you are or if that's something you'd be interested in, but it has helped me in the past.

AgeOfTheMage5/19/2017, 6:11:26 PM1 votes

I mean, I try not to focus on the failures as much as the victories, I play to enjoy myself, I do get angry(usually against certain champs) then proceed to make a salt post on the boards(don't) but you could make a salt post, but add reasoning and such, by the end of it you could've calmded down. Also just by coming here and asking how to not be toxic shows you're taking a step in the right direction, good luck and have fun on the rift!