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I'd like to Improve my Mental State for this Game

Ethan Hannum·6/5/2017, 5:14:10 AM·3 votes·958 views

Hello, I am Ethan Hannum on the NA server and I'd like to discuss something very important

As of today on Sunday June 4th, 2017, I have been banned for excessive toxicity, and I completely understand that it's my fault. I've tried numerous times to reform, but I fail in the end, flaming someone who is inting on my team, or has engaged in a toxic battle with me.

So I want to ask what can I do to reform, and are there any games that I can play that could maybe reduce the amount of harassing things I have said to people in the past. I'd ask for anything that can help take me down the reformed path.

If anyone wants to know why I am very toxic and what had lead to my ban, here it goes.

I've been playing ranked quite a bit, trying to get out of Silver 4. My buddies have been climbing into gold and platinum with ease, leaving me behind. I know I have the potential to be a Gold player, and have shown that skill level multiple times, having carried with Varus, a very team reliant champion.

Now you're probably thinking "Oh you got full of yourself and thats why you were toxic" That is true. I want to be the best I can be, I want to be good, and show people that I'm not just a bad player who is hardstuck silver. Its like Dardoch getting tilted in solo que. I get tilted quite easy, but its not like I always go to flaming right away. I first ask my jungler for help. I sit back and farm, but my support and I are mis-positioned and get ganked, meanwhile our jungler is farming at krugs. Thats when I get tilted, asking the jungler for more help, overpinging. I never flame the support, unless on rare occasions that they are engaged in a verbal war with me. Because I know that if the support loses lane its also the adc's fault in this current meta. Then it escalates. Theres no option for me to restrict what I say. Which numerous times I've explained would help me improve. I don't like the mute button, because that person you're flaming or is flaming you, could make an amazing play that gives your team the win. Though I have some suggestions, I still ask for some ideas that'll help me improve my mental behaviour of this game.

  1. Put a chat restriction button in the game. Kinda like the one you get when you're toxic. Once turned on you can turn it off, but it will not be turned off until the next game, so you can't just turn it off and flame someone on your team immensly.

  2. A option that turns all curse words into something positive. This is a good one, because if they were to make it that once you pressed this thing on, you could never turn it off. I'd love it so much, and a certain population of people might too, some wont though and thats the problem.

  3. Since pinging has improved a lot, just disable chatting in general, and the same thing as #1, you can't turn it off until the next game. This is if you can't trust yourself in improving your chat behaviour at all, so you can rely on pinging mechanics.

  4. Something like the level 20 challenge. I know it was a failiure in the past, but if it is brought back, even if a ton of toxic players fail, its an amazing idea and could change the tides on the fields of justice.

Now I ask what are your suggestions? I understand that once you're permabanned you can't get it back, theres no lift. You're done. The one thing I'm really upset about though is that I can't get my NME 2015 icon back. Its gone for good. item 3070

Sincerely, A toxic Varus main with 231K on Varus. I will be using this account for the forums, because I'm not a very toxic guy when it comes to forums.

26 Comments

Crappedmyself6/5/2017, 7:32:59 AM4 votes

The bans happens because its a way to generate new revenue. They are literally stealing from people knowing they will just start new accounts and buy more rp. I mean they have a mute function but still ban people, it doesn't make sense. This game is ran by a cesspool of anti-free speech advocates and Social Justice Warriors. Last season they removed wine from Chogath, Graves cigar, and The Declaration of Independence from Uncle Ryze just to appease Communists. I mean the DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE.

Silly Neeko6/5/2017, 5:31:27 AM2 votes

https://boards.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/c/player-behavior-moderation/2AYywuAv-psa-how-to-deal-with-the-stress-of-toxic-players

A post i made that has some suggestions people found helpful or agreed with.

BlueThingamajig6/5/2017, 11:20:59 AM2 votes

When it comes to mentality, there are two sayings I enjoy sharing.

  1. Hanlon's Razor: Do not assume malice for what can be adequately explained by stupidity.

In other words, most people aren't trying to troll you. It's better to assume the player is having a bad game than view the actions as trolling. I might be exaggerating here, but the two most common 'i got banned' threads are 'I was calling out a troll' and 'I was defending myself from flamers'. Notice how that represents both halves of the story, and neither one believes they are at fault.

  1. Enchiridion, by Epictetus: You cannot control what other people do. You can only control how you react to their actions. (Paraphrasing)

This takes many forms such as 'mute, report, and move on', 'you're responsible for what you said, regardless of context', etc.

I genuinely believe that the perception of league as a toxic community does more harm than the actual toxic players (see #1). It's a game. Stop worrying so much about your MMR. You aren't under attack. Recognize that you can't win then all. Strive to succeed, but not to the point of stupidity.

This Is Your Dad6/5/2017, 5:28:38 AM1 votes

Regulating speech is your job and to take freedom of expression from people, however negative it may be would not change the intent. How long do you think it would take for someone to figure out how to curse at you without it triggering the positive word? If people want to flame they're going to flame, whether it be by cursing or by trolling. I had an adc that flamed me as the support, and when even the enemy team and my whole team said he was the problem he resorted to buying 6 kindlegems and running it down mid. Chatting is a form of venting frustration and if you take that away from people they're just going to troll. People that rage don't like people telling them what to do, which is why they rage at your mistakes and shortcomings in the first place. They're intolerable. Using chat to vent is what toxic players do, and the moment they remove that, they will be in a state of mental instability that rivals that of a 5 year old on a sugar high.

Edit: As a suggestion for your declining mental state, stop playing ranked. Play aram, normals, the fun game modes, and take it easy. Winning doesn't matter in those modes. Focus on the fun, and then come back to ranked after a few aram games or whatnot and you'll feel significantly less volatile and you'll win more.

khorney6/5/2017, 5:34:39 AM1 votes

really banning or permabanning are stupid punishments. riot can careless about people just know that for starters. i can think of a number of ways to make it better but riot does not care. blizzard does it right as far as punishing people, also why do people report other people why do they care so much or better yet why are they sensitive people to begin with? permanent chat restriction out weighs 14 day ban, if it was me any time there is no warning just bam chat restriction not hey eveyr one has bad days sort of crap because i am permabanned and no i didn't say anything toxic or cussing people out. Like in heroes of the storm any dodges of any kind automatically have to do 5 qms or normal matches on a prisoners island. Which is you que and the people that you get matched up with are leavers and afk people

røckstãr6/5/2017, 5:41:59 AM1 votes

Rip sorry about ur icon.