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Is it a bad thing I get mad at my parents for disturbing me when playing?

Ao Dracona·6/23/2019, 3:52:14 AM·4 votes·5,668 views

So like my parents ask me to do a lot of things when I’m playing league and essentially playing league is my only break time as I have summer classes and summer swimming which both take a lot of time out of my day so I’m pretty tired and stuff after doing them. Whenever I’m about to play league I always tell my parents that I will be playing for awhile and I keep telling them not to call me/disturb me while I’m playing as I want to just relax and have some alone time. They also insist I do the same after they are done working and I give them all the time and space they need to rest but they don’t give me the same respect when I want it.

For example I’d be playing a game of league and as u know playing one game takes a lot of determination and attention and they’d call me to do stuff like fill our dogs food and water which in fact they can do it themselves because literally the dog stuff is near the couch and they usually spend their time there so they could like move a little bit and just do the dog stuff themself like why must I get off my game to do something they are too lazy to do themselves? They ask me stuff like get them a water bottle get them some food like come on they are near the things they want to do. Eventually I just started ignoring my parents requests as I find it disrespectful that they don’t acknowledge my leisure time and tonight I just snapped they kept calling me and calling me and I just yelled “LISTEN IM TRYING TO PLAY A GAME LEAVE ME A LONE AND RESPECT MY TIME” so yea stuff like that :P

Am I in the wrong for not getting off my games to do their requests, ik they do a lot for me since you know they are my parents and all but it really frustrates me that I have to be called a lot when I want some alone or gaming time and for other ppl who have this issue I wish to know on how u handle stuff like this.

18 Comments

GatekeeperTDS6/23/2019, 4:03:24 AM7 votes

Try psychology - before you sit down for a few games, ask them if there's anything that needs to be done, or keep yourself a list of things you know they're going to ask you to do every day. You get bonus points for taking initiative, and they're less likely to interrupt you.

Imperial Pandaa6/23/2019, 4:01:26 AM6 votes

It is an inherent risk when you are living rent free with parents. You are expected to do chores and requests in a timely manner. Been there, done that. You can ask them to wait while you finish your current game, and give a fair estimation of time left in the match.

Granted it may not change anything as all parents are different, took ages to get my mum to understand that online games can't be paused, but eventually she gathered and would ask "When that match is done, would youbplease take care of this?"

Tldr: if you aren't paying rent, frustration is expected, but real life responsibilities come first.

Sona Ping6/23/2019, 4:53:47 AM4 votes

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So like my parents ask me to do a lot of things when I’m playing league and essentially playing league is my only break time as I have summer classes and summer swimming which both take a lot of time out of my day so I’m pretty tired and stuff after doing them. Whenever I’m about to play league I always tell my parents that I will be playing for awhile and I keep telling them not to call me/disturb me while I’m playing as I want to just relax and have some alone time. They also insist I do the same after they are done working and I give them all the time and space they need to rest but they don’t give me the same respect when I want it.

For example I’d be playing a game of league and as u know playing one game takes a lot of determination and attention and they’d call me to do stuff like fill our dogs food and water which in fact they can do it themselves because literally the dog stuff is near the couch and they usually spend their time there so they could like move a little bit and just do the dog stuff themself like why must I get off my game to do something they are too lazy to do themselves? They ask me stuff like get them a water bottle get them some food like come on they are near the things they want to do. Eventually I just started ignoring my parents requests as I find it disrespectful that they don’t acknowledge my leisure time and tonight I just snapped they kept calling me and calling me and I just yelled “LISTEN IM TRYING TO PLAY A GAME LEAVE ME A LONE AND RESPECT MY TIME” so yea stuff like that :P

Am I in the wrong for not getting off my games to do their requests, ik they do a lot for me since you know they are my parents and all but it really frustrates me that I have to be called a lot when I want some alone or gaming time and for other ppl who have this issue I wish to know on how u handle stuff like this.

Your parents are supporting you so you can take those summer classes and supporting you for your swimming which is your benefit. Meanwhile, are you paying rent? Are you paying your 1/3rd, your 1/4th, whatever it maybe, are you paying your share of the cost to live there? Are you paying your fair share of the water bill? Are you paying your share of the electrical bill? Have you been paying on the city sanitation bill? Why are your parents having to ask you to do chores like taking care of the dog and feeding him? Food, have you been buying the food all this time, or are your parents providing that and preparing it as well? Who has been paying for and providing all the miscellaneous household necessities, whose cost really adds up?

I don't know the specifics of your household situation and the breakdown of everything, but you are talking about "respect" when your parents are probably are probably also tired from going to work to provide all of this and when they ask you to do some tasks to return the favor, you yell at them to leave you alone and call them "disrespectful" and "lazy" for interrupting you while you kick back and entertain yourself on their dime.

KFCeytron6/23/2019, 4:10:35 AM3 votes

Are you new to having parents?

Pandemic Punch6/23/2019, 5:10:07 PM2 votes

I wouldn't know. My father would have just picked me up by the throat and throw me toward the requested task if I didn't immediately obey. Then probably sell my PC

Pika Fox6/26/2019, 5:21:41 PM1 votes

Parents need to learn that children are not slaves, that school is work and that they are entitled to the same benefits of relaxing they should have. If you go and ask your parents to do something, do they do it immediately, even when theyre in the middle of relaxing? No? Then you also deserve the same respect.

Kei1436/23/2019, 11:26:19 AM1 votes

Back in the days, I let them know I'll be gaming and want to be uninterrupted for 1 hr unless it's for emergencies.

If they call you for non-emergency matters, I used the "in 15 minutes later" response. When the game ended, I'll do everything they said and asked if there was any thing else they wanted.

This way, you get points for keeping your promise and initiative, in return, you ask for another hour of uninterrupted time.

Rebel 9866/24/2019, 4:10:29 PM1 votes

Do u get mad when they disturb you when cleaning ur room? vacuum lol