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How Do YOU Stop Yourself From Becoming Upset? :)

Best Ekko NA·11/17/2016, 12:37:21 AM·3 votes·1,152 views

I am a calm, relaxed, and kind individual in person, but for some reason when I play League I can't help but feel irritated and sometimes even upset a great deal of the time. This game makes me feel like I'm drunk and messed up on drugs, when I do neither.

Even after years I can't figure out what it is about this game that makes me feel this way. I don't know if it's because I don't understand how to deal with others or some other reason, but I know that this game is the only one I've ever played that gives me these terrible emotions. I've played several hundred games in fact, with a great deal of time spend on some 80-90 of them, and this game is literally the only one that makes me want to go SSJ4 on people that I'm playing with.

For the most part I've learned to keep myself in check while playing, although once in a while I slip and say things to people when I can't bear playing with them any longer (never because they are bad, only when they blame me for everything and I go to long without muting them). League shows me a side of myself that I hate, it makes me feel ashamed of myself. I love playing this game, but it really brings out the worst in me.

A big part of myself despises League but my love for many of the champions prevents me from quitting indefinitely. I really wish I was a bit more unresponsive and emotionless to this game but I really can't even pinpoint where it comes from to being with. I never really "tilt" while I am playing this game, taking a break doesn't really help at all. Maybe I'm a bit bi-polar in a sense but I can play one game and feel like pulling my hair out and then be perfectly fine the whole rest of the day. It's so hard for me to figure out what flips my switch, so to say..

How do you relax and become [more] carefree when playing this game? I really dislike muting teammates and mostly ignore chat as much as possible but man, it's so freakin' hard with how much attention some of these people demand when they are offended and don't like you.

24 Comments

Anomander11/18/2016, 1:52:38 AM2 votes

I don't. I just stop my self from typing by saying it out loud. Although I have had to explain to my wife that the words coming out of my mouth had nothing to do with her........

After a proper explanation she put down the cast iron pan that was about to have a dent resembling my head.

DemothHymside11/17/2016, 6:09:25 AM2 votes

By not caring, because it's a video game, and no one in my life gives a shit if I win or lose. It honestly doesn't affect anything.

Best Kog NA11/17/2016, 12:44:01 AM2 votes

By typing out everything that you want to say to them and then deleting it without sending it

Telephone Booth11/17/2016, 6:05:52 AM2 votes

I think of the pathetic scenes of people raging at their computers and slamming their keyboards over a game, laugh at myself, take a deep breath and bam, not frustrated anymore. I will not be one of them.

Big Lincoln11/17/2016, 4:48:05 AM1 votes

i don't

i get mad and make them aware of it

gotten me to plat 2 so it must be working

Packun Flower11/17/2016, 5:10:12 AM1 votes

First and foremost. Turn off all chat. The only thing all chat does is promote bad manners and toxic shit talk from the other team which can trigger you. All chat is so unesscerry for this game i cant ever undetstand why its a thing to begin with. You dont ever need to hear what the enemy team has to say. Be it good or bad or toxic, anything they have to say can be said in the post game lobby.

Mute buttons. They work wonders. If you mute someone who is triggered or your whole team is being toxic it feels like your playing vs bots and you calm down pretty quickly. I am really amazed more people dont do this.

Finally, shrug off the loss. Whatever the outcome of the match, understand that for the most part you will probably never see those players again, unless match making really hates you. But once its over its over for good. Kiss those players good bye and move on.

Fairyfleur11/17/2016, 4:00:04 PM1 votes

I cry and don't stop myself

Bídoof11/17/2016, 8:21:39 PM1 votes

I take my meds before I play and i space out

SennaMain Bun11/18/2016, 12:27:07 AM1 votes

lol Tattooed salt on my wrists... Now oddly I don't get upset as often. I also have a few accounts, if I feel like my games on one are not going well, it's a lot less stress for me to know I can have another chance to not eff up my ranked promos. Then it's a lot less pressure. I mean, and it's a game, what's the point of raging at a bunch of kids online?

LegendaryLemur11/18/2016, 12:46:35 AM1 votes

If someone is raging at me i try to picture them as my teenage son/daughter or as my pyschiatric patient. If i can attribute their emotional lashing-out to teen angst or mental imbalance in my mind, or as some kind of defense mechanism (even if that's not what it really is), it helps me to look on them with pity or empathy instead of anger.

Generally when i do get mad i find its attributable to something going on in my life outside of the game and after i've addressed that issue i no longer get mad (plus i have better focus so i play better).

Primaquarius11/18/2016, 12:47:25 AM1 votes

"This can't happen all the time"

BBW Slayer 6911/29/2016, 4:13:13 PM1 votes

listen to music and make the chat really small when you play house is pretty good for staying calm

Z Statistic11/29/2016, 6:12:34 PM1 votes

Lots of practice, self-reflection, and therapy.

Criminologists will point to the following to explain criminal behavior: rationalization, opportunity, and pressure. I think these can be generalized to most if not all of what we don't normally want or care to do, not necessarily crime.

People wanting self-mute want to get rid of the opportunity aspect, while others have focused on the rationalization. I've focused on pressure and rationalization but mostly pressure. Communication in and of itself is a game where the goal is to accomplish something, and what or how is simply moves with varying effectiveness. Ranting does not help both through experimental and my own anecdotal evidence. So, there really is no rationalization for stabbing myself in the foot.

Of course, that goes out the window if one gets mad. So the way to get rid of pressure is to realize that it's honestly just a game. Nothing bad will happen except for feelings. Feelings aren't pleasant, but they don't mean that it's bad. Just because something feels bad doesn't mean it is bad.

Once you get to that point, you can have someone 0/12 feeding in your 2-2 promo match by 15 minutes and be pretty chill.

IsoVhell11/17/2016, 12:41:26 AM1 votes

Mute and ignore works amazing. Then a deep breath knowing they are just looking for the wrong type of attention as they did when they were kids! Because to be honest most of the worst toxicity comes from adults in this league. Which is extremely sad and they should get a life.

ADC5LUT11/29/2016, 6:32:19 PM1 votes

Mute everyone and split push to victory.

oSEXYPLATYPUSo11/17/2016, 12:43:52 AM1 votes

you have to just not care... its a video game meant for fun and enjoyment... we all want to win... but you can play a good game and have fun and not win...

im not saying to troll or feed, dont try ... but you need to look at it from the experience of the game and enjoy the game and not caring about the bs

Niyumi11/17/2016, 12:50:14 AM1 votes

Honestly, I don't. In person I'm the nicest guy you'd ever meet, but when I play League I get really mean and yell at my screen. xD

But, my story is a lot like yours. So if you find something that does help, let me know. :P

xNakali11/17/2016, 1:28:44 AM1 votes

Play a real game instead of this joke of a community. It has been 6 years and Riot still cannot get control of their game it is honestly sad.