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Having issues with a toxic family member...

DarkerIntentions·1/28/2019, 10:43:10 AM·1 votes·3,472 views

My brother plays league just as much (if not more) as I do. It used to be kind of fun. We would dream of a time where we would both have a computer (we've never had more than 1) and we would duoq and all that shit. He even used to be a pretty nice player. We started playing (and were forced to quit because of technical reasons) 2 years ago. We recently managed to get back on around December with a new laptop. I thought things would be fun again but they were really just the opposite...

Now as a person who's played league, I understand how frustrating it gets. The losses, the bad team mates, your own misplays, all of that just piles on and you eventually get frustrated. My brother is one of those people who takes it to a new level though. Ever since we got back on, he has become one of the most toxic players I've seen. Especially if he's not playing well. He becomes one of those players who knows they aren't winning because of their own bad playing so they will take it out on the rest of the team. I would have no problems with this since there's always going to be that one toxic bumpkin who acts like he's gods gift to League but secretly feels miserable about themselves. What has started bothering me though is that he often goes out of his way to make games as terrible as possible, including throwing. Here is a list of what he does when things dont go his way in a game -

  • He will straight up buy items that don't work with his champion to prove some sort of point.
  • He will start borderline hate speeching the jungler for not ganking enough.
  • His favorite thing to do is to just stop trying and relentlessly either feed the opposing laner and/or doesn't help in team fights.
  • His second favorite thing to do (usually chained with the last thing) is to act like a new player to start off with but will drop more and more hints that he actually knows better, hoping to get a rise out of someone.

Now don't get me wrong, League has put me in some pretty good shit shows and/or bitch fests in the past. League DOES tend to do that to a person. But I have never gotten to the point of uncalled for toxicity or blatant game throwing. His behaviour has also affected our relationship, as he tends to get snappy and agitated with me every time I try to help him out in a game he's losing and that just results in us getting in a heated argument that can last half the day.

I've already reported him once or twice for leaving games on purpose and they stopped him from doing it but I don't know what to do about this. I've told him I'll report him but he just doesn't care. He had 2 accounts as well and I'm sure he'd make another one if both of the other 2 were banned. I really don't want to get IP banned because of his behavior as that would lead to me suffering just as much as him. I can't exactly put a password on the computer though or even try to limit his league play because its his computer by money (he bought it) and he would be more than sure enough to get me in some deep trouble for doing so. What should I do here? Should I have a sort of "league intervention" by switching up passwords on his league/computer account so I control his use, get him banned, what? I really need advice here since I neither want him to get worse nor our IP to get banned. Thanks. (sorry for the long read)

13 Comments

insomniacjezz1/28/2019, 10:54:19 AM5 votes

Riot doesn’t do IP bans for exactly this reason, so you’ve nothing to worry about there.

Kei1431/28/2019, 11:58:33 AM2 votes

Go online and find some tutorial videos (that apply to you current level) and watch it together. Tell him to get in game and try those concepts together. After the game, review it together with the replay, and see how well the concept was applied.

The process of improving can keep a player from being toxic towards others as it help them keep the focus on themselves. It may work.

I normally recommend trading stance.

https://youtu.be/iko2tqmDpJQ

Aladoron1/28/2019, 11:27:00 AM1 votes

They do not hand out IP bans. You have nothing to worry about (as far as i know).

Let him be, if he wants to be toxic, let him be toxic. If he doesn't want your advices, do not give them. I guess, he is a fully grown man, let him be....

Email Support 471/28/2019, 11:54:33 AM1 votes

I wouldn't call him "toxic" that word is so over used in this community, he's just being a little shit with a bad attitude.

Reporting your own brother is a dick move, especially when he hasn't learned from multiple account closures. The only way he will learn is if you talk to him or get your parents to have a word if you're still living with them.

I would bet this behavior goes beyond League of Legends and into other games/ real life.

Midg3t1/28/2019, 3:51:43 PM1 votes

Are you the older or younger brother?

enejlah e40001/28/2019, 10:52:06 AM1 votes

Does he realise his winrate would be likely 5% higher if he wouldn't be toxic? Maybe making him realise that might work out.

If it doesn't, maybe make a bet with him if he's not toxic for a month you give him $20 or something.

Or tell your team to mute him at the start of the game.

BoAeXtRiKtOr1/29/2019, 4:31:19 PM1 votes

Imagine having such a weak bond with your own brother you get into fights that actually last over a video game.

ModBianca Colt1/28/2019, 11:10:53 AM1 votes

His behaviour won't get him far, unfortunately. He's breaking the rules on so many fronts, all whilst projecting his anger onto you. The best way to avoid confrontation is to simply isolate yourself from his League life. If he's not willing to listen and take your advice, don't push it. There's only so much you can do with an extremely adamant person.

If he has anger management issues, that's something that should be worked on **outside **of League.