addicted to flaming.

XRISOS IPOTIS·May 14, 2018·4 votes·4,332 views

NO HATE PLS

i have started playing lol since season 3. and i had a few accounts until today propably 6/8 and i have banned all of them because im toxic ! and i want to stop that beeing toxic because i'm going to ban this account too! i already have 25 games chat restriction after that 14 days ban will hit if i still flame and after 14 days Permanent ban! that means i have 2 chances! but i know that i will still flame and i have seen on youtube how to stay positive during games and other lots of things that dont help me at all! im still adicted at flaming ! do you guys have some serius advices for me?

thanks for yr time

45 Comments

Quiet DudeMay 14, 20188 votes

Buy a cheap hand mirror from a grocery store and put it near your computer desk. When you feel the urge to flame, before you do so, look the mirror and repeat this:

“Hi my name is (your name), I like to get angry and yell at little boys in video games. Aren’t I special?”

If you still think flaming is worth it after that, hand in your man card.

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=0000,timestamp=2018-05-14T19:30:20.506+0000)

Buy a cheap hand mirror from a grocery store and put it near your computer desk. When you feel the urge to flame, before you do so, look the mirror and repeat this:

“Hi my name is (your name), I like to get angry and yell at little boys in video games. Aren’t I special?”

If you still think flaming is worth it after that, hand in your man card.

Do you do this? lol

Quiet DudeMay 15, 20186 votes

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=00000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T00:30:08.887+0000)

Do you do this? lol

I'm never toxic. Getting upset about a video game is juvenile. But I love pointing that fact out to people who do get toxic.

[sg-lulu]

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T02:16:43.610+0000)

I'm never toxic. Getting upset about a video game is juvenile. But I love pointing that fact out to people who do get toxic.

[sg-lulu]

Playing video games is juvenile. So is talking to people about how they react to video games.

Quiet DudeMay 15, 20185 votes

There is a difference between throwing a temper tantrum over a game and pointing out how much of a dumbshit thing it is to do. What kind of grown ass man gets upset and makes rage posts, or posts complaining over e-consequences over said temper tantrum? Take people who make complaints over account bans. Can't even own their actions or accept the fact that losing an account is a reasonable punishment. Lawl. Kids these days. Amirite?

[sg-lulu]

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=00000000000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T03:01:14.906+0000)

There is a difference between throwing a temper tantrum over a game and pointing out how much of a dumbshit thing it is to do. What kind of grown ass man gets upset and makes rage posts, or posts complaining over e-consequences over said temper tantrum? Take people who make complaints over account bans. Can't even own their actions or accept the fact that losing an account is a reasonable punishment. Lawl. Kids these days. Amirite?

[sg-lulu]

What kind of kid talks down to people, acting like he is all high and mighty by assuming people's age, and then saying what is and isn't appropriate conduct for games and forums? Sounds like a pretty judgmental attitude bud. Also sounds like a pretty "holier than thou" attitude as well. Maybe you could try being less toxic and condescending to people you know nothing about?

Quiet DudeMay 15, 20185 votes

Sounds like I hit a sore spot.

[sg-lulu]

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=0000000000000000000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T03:07:11.157+0000)

Sounds like I hit a sore spot.

[sg-lulu]

Are you trying to hit sore spots? If that’s the case, you could try not doing that, bud.

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20182 votes

Take your own advice. You fired the first shot. Everything they said prior to this comment of yours was tame.

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=0000000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T02:50:06.169+0000)

Playing video games is juvenile. So is talking to people about how they react to video games.

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

Take your own advice. You fired the first shot. Everything they said prior to this comment of yours was tame.

Take my advice as well. The first shot? Quote for me the first shot please. Do you know who this guy is that I was responding to? Are you his friend or something?

What was tame? What did I say that wasn’t tame? What does that even mean dude?

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20182 votes

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=0000000000000000000000000000000000000001,timestamp=2018-05-15T19:59:16.753+0000)

Take my advice as well. The first shot? Quote for me the first shot please.

I already did.

Do you know who this guy is that I was responding to? Are you his friend or something?

Nope. I just stand up for people you pick fights with.

What was tame? What did I say that wasn’t tame? What does that even mean dude?

The dude was obviously making jokes. You somehow took said jokes personally and then made a passive aggressive comment implying that the other poster was juvenile for saying what they had said. Jokes are tame. Petty insults aren't.

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

I already did.

Nope. I just stand up for people you pick fights with.

The dude was obviously making jokes. You somehow took said jokes personally and then made a passive aggressive comment implying that the other poster was juvenile for saying what they had said. Jokes are tame. Petty insults aren't.

If you say you, “stand up for people I pick fights with,” that means you don’t care what anyone says to me, you’re just here to bother me with your virtuous “standing up for people.” You didn’t answer my questions, as I expected. Nothing about what he said was obvious, he was talking down to people who “get upset about a game,” saying they are juvenile.

I stand by what I say, because this Quiet Dude tries to annoy me, and clearly others too.

Petty insults? This guy was insulting people. I didn’t make an insult, just said what he said. Unless you’re saying he is making insults?

If you just hate me, I get it man. Get in line.

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20182 votes

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=000000000000000000000000000000000000000100000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T20:19:00.290+0000)

If you say you, “stand up for people I pick fights with,” that means you don’t care what anyone says to me, you’re just here to bother me with your virtuous “standing up for people.” You didn’t answer my questions, as I expected. Nothing about what he said was obvious, he was talking down to people who “get upset about a game,” saying they are juvenile.

I stand by what I say, because this Quiet Dude tries to annoy me, and clearly others too.

Petty insults? This guy was insulting people. I didn’t make an insult, just said what he said. Unless you’re saying he is making insults?

If you just hate me, I get it man. Get in line.

Perhaps it was poor word choice to say "you," because I just stand up when I see someone going after others, regardless of who it is.

Nah bud, not just you. Anyone who picks fights that way.

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

Perhaps it was poor word choice to say "you," because I just stand up when I see someone going after others, regardless of who it is.

Nah bud, not just you. Anyone who picks fights that way.

This guy and I have a history. He says stuff like that to a lot of people trying to annoy them, which is why all I asked him was if he did what he said, which was hold up a mirror and turn in your man card, basically calling this guy a woman if he gets upset during a game, which to me and most men is an insult. That’s why I didn’t shoot first, his comment did.

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20181 votes

Edit: copied and moved, we're out of reply space.

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=00000000000000000000000000000000000000010000000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T20:44:09.258+0000)

This guy and I have a history. He says stuff like that to a lot of people trying to annoy them, which is why all I asked him was if he did what he said, which was hold up a mirror and turn in your man card, basically calling this guy a woman if he gets upset during a game, which to me and most men is an insult. That’s why I didn’t shoot first, his comment did.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WefqSN8dqOU

Similar to Ryan Reynolds, what the other poster did here was give ridiculously absurd advice knowing it would not be taken seriously.

Ah so your original reply to them was actually the first shot. I see. That doesn't make you look better though.

Quiet DudeMay 15, 20181 votes

https://i.imgur.com/ix8swOm.gif https://i.imgur.com/XK7kVSw.gif

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=0000000000000000000000000000000000000001000000000001,timestamp=2018-05-15T20:53:50.002+0000)

https://i.imgur.com/ix8swOm.gif https://i.imgur.com/XK7kVSw.gif

Alright, you got me with the M Bison quote. That was pretty funny tbh. And you like good street fighter movies that are cheesy. Maybe you’re not as bad as I thought. Lol

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=DBS Ronovon,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=00000000000000000000000000000000000000010000000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T20:44:09.258+0000)

This guy and I have a history. He says stuff like that to a lot of people trying to annoy them, which is why all I asked him was if he did what he said, which was hold up a mirror and turn in your man card, basically calling this guy a woman if he gets upset during a game, which to me and most men is an insult. That’s why I didn’t shoot first, his comment did.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WefqSN8dqOU

Similar to Ryan Reynolds, what the other poster did here was give ridiculously absurd advice knowing it would not be taken seriously.

Ah so your original reply to them was actually the first shot. I see. That doesn't make you look better though.

Edit: You said earlier that you and this guy have a history, and that he says things to try to annoy you. Did you ever consider that if you never commented in reply to him in the first place no fight would have been had? Starting a conversation with someone who annoys you is like asking to be annoyed. You instigated this, so take a chill pill.

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WefqSN8dqOU

Similar to Ryan Reynolds, what the other poster did here was give ridiculously absurd advice knowing it would not be taken seriously.

Ah so your original reply to them was actually the first shot. I see. That doesn't make you look better though.

Edit: You said earlier that you and this guy have a history, and that he says things to try to annoy you. Did you ever consider that if you never commented in reply to him in the first place no fight would have been had? Starting a conversation with someone who annoys you is like asking to be annoyed. You instigated this, so take a chill pill.

Take your own advice much?

You instigated our conversation, call the kettle black much guy?

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20182 votes

Ah so now you bring the word choice back, even though I already told you that I do this regardless of who it is that is picking fights.

Also this isn't annoying for me, so... ok?

But yes, please go on about how I'm being a hypocrite instead of noticing the actually valuable information provided to you. It's such a good use of your time.

[sg-miss-fortune]

DBS RonovonMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

Ah so now you bring the word choice back, even though I already told you that I do this regardless of who it is that is picking fights.

Also this isn't annoying for me, so... ok?

But yes, please go on about how I'm being a hypocrite instead of noticing the actually valuable information provided to you. It's such a good use of your time.

[sg-miss-fortune]

You lost me.

report yasuoMay 18, 20181 votes

Dipshit all you are.

report yasuoMay 18, 20181 votes

No you legit are toxic af just read wtf you're saying like hello????

GloricMay 15, 20181 votes

[{quoted}](name=Quiet Dude,realm=NA,application-id=ZGEFLEUQ,discussion-id=R1vypiAB,comment-id=000000000000,timestamp=2018-05-15T02:16:43.610+0000)

I'm never toxic. Getting upset about a video game is juvenile. But I love pointing that fact out to people who do get toxic.

[sg-lulu]

You're probably one of those dense fucks who equates being frustrated with teammates the same thing as throwing a console controller in some kid rage, right? You certainly seem like you're one of those dimwits who generalizes everything like that.

And since you're never toxic (or I would say, you don't give enough of a shit), how about you don't give tips to people who are/do.

Like a life-long non-drinker giving tips to a life-long alcoholic on how to deal with their urge to drunk, you haven't got a clue.

Quiet DudeMay 15, 20185 votes

http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/915/152/aed.jpg

report yasuoMay 18, 20181 votes

This comment is toxic dude you're so dumb.

redniwediSMay 14, 20187 votes

There are no tips or tricks that will help you here. This is a you problem, and honestly I'd recommend taking a step back and avoid competitive games while you figure this one out. Emotional control is something some people have to work on, and constantly putting yourself in a high emotion situation is not going to help you.

iGaveUpAtLastMay 15, 20183 votes

Have you ever thought about why exactly you flame so much and if you are toxic from the getgo or need a trigger? I mean this as a serious question because it seems like you're not the typical "I throw a tantrum over a video game" type of flamer. Do you flame because you get angry at your teammates when they mess up? It's normal to get annoyed and some people feel the need to become verbally toxic because of that but if this scenario is the case and it's really as severe as you say it is then you're probably having anger issues that need to be solved via a therapist or anger management. Do you flame because you enjoy the drama? I know somebody who LOVES to create drama between people so he becomes super toxic just because he indulges himself in negativity. It's like a thrill to him. Or do you flame because you like to debate? I'm not trying to sound therapeutic or anything but maybe you need to find out the cause for your toxicity first in order to be able to fix it. For now the best thing you can probably do is step away from League for a while.

A Cynical AsianMay 15, 20181 votes

{quoted}

Have you ever thought about why exactly you flame so much and if you are toxic from the getgo or need a trigger? I mean this as a serious question because it seems like you're not the typical "I throw a tantrum over a video game" type of flamer. Do you flame because you get angry at your teammates when they mess up? It's normal to get annoyed and some people feel the need to become verbally toxic because of that but if this scenario is the case and it's really as severe as you say it is then you're probably having anger issues that need to be solved via a therapist or anger management. Do you flame because you enjoy the drama? I know somebody who LOVES to create drama between people so he becomes super toxic just because he indulges himself in negativity. It's like a thrill to him. Or do you flame because you like to debate? I'm not trying to sound therapeutic or anything but maybe you need to find out the cause for your toxicity first in order to be able to fix it. For now the best thing you can probably do is step away from League for a while.

Nothing wrong about being therapeutic. Reading this was weirdly very enjoyable for me.

XRISOS IPOTISMay 15, 20181 votes

I'm like this only at league and i get mad when my team messes up when they don't think what they're are going to do or blame you for their problems

iGaveUpAtLastMay 16, 20181 votes

Okay so the first thing I'm going to say is probably the most generic answer ever: /mute all at the start of the game, it REALLY helps. If you don't want to hear them blame you for their mistakes then get rid of the chat. Mute pings from spam pingers, mute emotes and what I did was mute champion voices as well. And yes, I'm one of those pathetic people who get annoyed by taunts etc. so I just got rid of all that stuff completely. If you're one of those people who can't keep the chat muted and turn it back on then you probably need to work on your self-control outside of the game. Also, why not fight fire with fire? You say you get angry at our teammates when they fuck up, so why not look for somebody you're not friends with and who's objectively speaking to a certain degree better at the game than you and have them flame you for every single mistake you make? I don't know your rank and I won't bother to look it up because it doesn't matter but doing so would probably make you realize that you do just as many mistakes on average as your teammates. Mind that I did not say this to offend you in any way, I'm super objective and accepting when it comes to reasonable flamers who want to improve but the sad truth is that said flamers just have a god-complex in most cases and act as if they're entitled to flame others because they're better when they're actually not. I've raged a lot in the past and I still sometimes do but never in chat. The worst thing I've ever said was "stop talking to me" before I muted the chat. I usually just yell at my screen but I stop relatively fast because there's no reason to do so. Nobody can hear what I have to say so I realize it's useless to say unnecessary stuff and give up which makes me be able to focus on the game more. Another thing is that I'm usually just angry at myself and not at other players.

XRISOS IPOTISMay 18, 20181 votes

Thanks for time writing this comment i feel special

Zane ZephyrMay 14, 20182 votes

It sounds like you need therapy or something. Because if you're doing it on here it also means you're probably doing it in real life too.

XRISOS IPOTISMay 15, 20181 votes

Nope in my school with my family and real-life im good only at games especially league

Sir PrepuziusMay 15, 20182 votes

before giving proper advice i need some information: age and occupation mental or physical disorders of any kind?

but aniway, do some pushup/pullups/punching bag sessions between games to unload your fury fitness solves 90% of your problems

A Bad NasusMay 15, 20181 votes

If you can't imagine yourself saying these exact things to people in real life then you should probably stop, but its ok though, some people are just born for the sole purpose of supplying humanity with their seemingly infinite reserves of salt through a video game.

Best Vi EarthMay 15, 20181 votes

idiots wont stop playing the game. feeling the need to type to those idiots is a urge really. personally i lost my flame for this game because of them. so once that happens youll be less likely to flame because you just dont care anymore.

HalcyonDwellerMay 15, 20181 votes

It helps to remember that it's not our place or right to punish our fellow players, that's Riot's job. So if your teammates do something stupid, instead of trying to make a snappy insult, just talk about what can be done next time to prevent the problem.

For example: Instead of, "WFT you idiot you pushed without vision?" Try, "if we ward next time they won't be able to catch us unawares." by using the future tense, it will keep the person focused on what needs to be done. The less you argue about something that is already done and can't be changed, the better off you will be.