The Sports Analogy, and Why It Is Wrong
People love using these.
'You don't get mad at your coach for cussing you out after a bad play' 'Teammates don't get mad when another teammate cusses them out after a bad play'
Very untrue on both counts. While this may have been true in old days, positive reinforcement is better for everyone involved. Better coaches practice alternative methods to aggressive berating, because it creates a defensive mental state. However, you are also agreeing to let that coach teach you, and some teach by negative reinforcement, usually with a physical exercise as that punishment. This works for some. Phil Jackson focused on creating a positive state of mind instead of a negative one. Regardless.
You are not my coach. You don't know me, you don't have the time and experience to judge whether or not I need negative or positive reinforcement. Nor did I agree anywhere to play with you as my coach.
But the second point is more critical.
You are Crazy Legs O'Maley. The first quarter is over and you gave up six bases in a row because you couldn't get your head in the game. Play is continuous, there are no breaks(there are no breaks in league). You know you did poorly, so you vow to shape up and do what you can to come from behind. Your teammates are feeling a little down, but they are ready to continue.
But the quarterback, Outhouse Murphy, starts berating you from the 3-point line. Now Outhouse is distracted from play because he feels the need to point out O'Maley's failed plays earlier every time something goes wrong. You are distracted by this and defensive. You start cussing him out from across the field. Now you don't have your head in the game AND you are distracting yourself from the game.
Further more, your teammates are getting angry because the constant arguing is a distraction. Already behind, you give up two more touchdowns and three free throws, causing more arguing. It then becomes a negative spiral. Now, this is assuming you are playing pickup in some field somewhere. If you were on an organized team, you'd either get thrown out of the game or ejected from the team afterwards.
