I get perma'd on all my accounts.

Bababoski·Oct 26, 2017·1 votes·948 views

I like playing League of Legends, i've been playing since 2011(my freshman year). But it seems i have an anger issue when it comes to dying in video games. Overall i can't convince myself to calm down even though its just a game. Gaming use to be a stress reliever but now it stresses me out unless i'm winning or playing well. I cant seem to control myself and i've have 4 or 5 accounts banned just recently in the last month. Anyone with tips or advice is welcome this is just a post, a cry for help. I just can't seem to stay calm while playing in video games. ;(

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Telephone BoothOct 26, 20174 votes

So what do you do when you get mad? I don't get it. Does your anger manifest in a way where you insult others for your shortfalls? I think counseling would be your best bet. We aren't psychologists. Or just mute all, but like you said, you get upset when you mess up, not specifically when people in chat upset you.

The best thing I could try to do is to open your eyes to how douchey it is to act that way. I'd probably get banned from the forums (again) if i really told you what I think about people like you that lash out at others because of their own mistakes. To put it as nice as possible, it's insecurity plus ego. Don't be an insecure little douchebag with a keyboard. Be comfortable with yourself and your own skill level. It's just a game. You don't have to be godly. It's funny being bad at a video game. Have fun with it. Idk.

I grew up stomping every one of my friends in video games. I was always the best and a bit of a natural. A friend could own a game, and I come over playing it for the first time and end up crushing him by the end of the day. So I had a bit of an ego coming into league of legends. (Also placed top 3 in several starcraft dream tournaments in my teen years). I quickly learned that I ain't shit. I can't even get out of silver, the second lowest tier of players in the game. So I don't get mad when I lose and fuck up anymore. I've fucked up enough to realize I'm just garbage at this game, and guess what? It doesn't affect my life AT ALL. It's a fucking game.

Arakk01Oct 28, 20171 votes

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So what do you do when you get mad? I don't get it. Does your anger manifest in a way where you insult others for your shortfalls? I think counseling would be your best bet. We aren't psychologists. Or just mute all, but like you said, you get upset when you mess up, not specifically when people in chat upset you.

The best thing I could try to do is to open your eyes to how douchey it is to act that way. I'd probably get banned from the forums (again) if i really told you what I think about people like you that lash out at others because of their own mistakes. To put it as nice as possible, it's insecurity plus ego. Don't be an insecure little douchebag with a keyboard. Be comfortable with yourself and your own skill level. It's just a game. You don't have to be godly. It's funny being bad at a video game. Have fun with it. Idk.

I grew up stomping every one of my friends in video games. I was always the best and a bit of a natural. A friend could own a game, and I come over playing it for the first time and end up crushing him by the end of the day. So I had a bit of an ego coming into league of legends. (Also placed top 3 in several starcraft dream tournaments in my teen years). I quickly learned that I ain't shit. I can't even get out of silver, the second lowest tier of players in the game. So I don't get mad when I lose and fuck up anymore. I've fucked up enough to realize I'm just garbage at this game, and guess what? It doesn't affect my life AT ALL. It's a fucking game.

Asshole, this is the game where you get told you're a shitty person for calling out someone intentionally ruining your game and taunting you about getting away with no consequences. By Riot. After they ban you! The real insecurity and ego comes from Riot- they're incapable of admitting their player discipline mindset is imperfect, so they taunt and belittle players who have been unjustly punished. The people who are supposed to protect us from toxic players are the most toxic of all- and that's why it's stressful. When you play a game and your idea of fun is a 5v5 contest of skill, then it becomes numerically skewed in the opponent's favor because of one asshat intentionally throwing your game, the fun is ruined. That's a person, choosing to destroy your experience, and it should piss you off. There's nothing wrong with that. Instead of acknowledging that, Riot prefers to cast blame on you for being angry about that. To do otherwise would acknowledge imperfection in their system and a basic misunderstanding of how psychology and discipline work.

TL;DR: He's stressed because his anger is righteous, and Riot is calling him a steaming shitheap over and over- but he can't escape the cycle.

Telephone BoothOct 30, 20171 votes

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Asshole, this is the game where you get told you're a shitty person for calling out someone intentionally ruining your game and taunting you about getting away with no consequences. By Riot. After they ban you! The real insecurity and ego comes from Riot- they're incapable of admitting their player discipline mindset is imperfect, so they taunt and belittle players who have been unjustly punished. The people who are supposed to protect us from toxic players are the most toxic of all- and that's why it's stressful. When you play a game and your idea of fun is a 5v5 contest of skill, then it becomes numerically skewed in the opponent's favor because of one asshat intentionally throwing your game, the fun is ruined. That's a person, choosing to destroy your experience, and it should piss you off. There's nothing wrong with that. Instead of acknowledging that, Riot prefers to cast blame on you for being angry about that. To do otherwise would acknowledge imperfection in their system and a basic misunderstanding of how psychology and discipline work.

TL;DR: He's stressed because his anger is righteous, and Riot is calling him a steaming shitheap over and over- but he can't escape the cycle.

Okay. I get mad and tilted at people who intentionally throw games, too. If your response to someone trolling you is to berate them (something they couldn't care less about and actually enjoy) you're just playing yourself. The reaction to trolling by being angry is completely natural... recognizing their motive (to piss you off) is smart. You give them what they want by going off in chat on them. Seriously, people do it even when punishments aren't at stake. They just want to upset you, and your reaction is to show them how upset you are? Enjoy falling into their trap over and over again.

I will give you that Riot needs to step It up on their troll detection... but until then you gotta cope with what we got. Also, I usually only play with friends, so I don't get as mad as the solo player who's in their own head, with no one to keep their anger in check or make jokes with, where the game almost becomes secondary to just having fun chatting n shit.

ShinkoMinoriOct 27, 20172 votes

Go see a shrink

LitAFOct 26, 20171 votes

./muteall You're welcome

StanleyuUcHOct 27, 20171 votes

you can easily purchase a lvl 30 account so honestly don't worry about reforming

VoIdymortOct 27, 20172 votes

[slayer-jinx-unamused]

Arakk01Oct 28, 20171 votes

OP, my advice, see a therapist about breaking your attachment to this disgusting game. It used to be fun, but your intensifying stress is directly related to Riot's policies about punishing people who react to harassment. It's never going to get better- Riot fully supports the people who are having fun with ruining your experience.