How to not feel so fucking chokingly angry at all times if you're not quitting?

ryona·3/19/2018, 5:53:10 PM·1 votes·549 views

I chickened out and couldn't quit so I was pulled into trying to queue one game.

But anytime I do something with this game at all anymore, I feel murderously angry in reality even if I have the restraint to not channel it in-game. I frequently scream profanity at the mistakes of other idiots in person and keep smashing my glass table with my fist when (frequently) pissed to where I feel like I might break it based on how I bruised my hand a while ago doing so.

What probably pisses me off most is how much I feel people can get away with wronging me and there's nothing I can do about it but spam reports and how they're fully aware they will never pay any consequence for screwing with anonymous people.

4 Comments

fatherdarius3/19/2018, 6:15:53 PM1 votes

The hardest thing to learn in life is that ultimately you can't change people. The only person you can change is yourself.

Others will make mistakes. They aren't TRYING to ruin your game (well, usually not).

Sometimes it just takes a shift in perspective. Try focusing on what you can do right, instead of what they are doing wrong. If they ask for help assist. If they ask for advice, then advise. Else, just play the game.

Also: Go into the game hoping to win, but not 'expecting' to win. That just sets you up for disappointment if you lose.

Sportswriter Grantland Rice once wrote, “Failure isn't bad if it doesn't attack the heart. Success is all right if it doesn't go to the head.”

Further paraphrasing Mr. Rice¹, "It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game". Yeah, it sounds corny but it really applies - even to League of Legends. I'd rather lose with good and friendly teammates than win with a bunch of jerks. Same applies to professional sports and e-sports. Remember Tom Brady and "Deflategate"?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deflategate

People ruining the game based on their attitude and breaking the rules can get penalized, suspended and/or banned, fined, etc. The rules apply to things like cheating (deflating a football, hacking, illegal enhancement on your vehicle in NASCAR) as well as 'behavioral' rules / rules of sportsmanship (personal fouls, badmouthing in League of Legends, mean comments or physical assaults in NASCAR, talking back to a referee, etc).

Karma Karma says she always catches up to you in the end, right? Try to be the kind of team-mate that YOU hope you'll get in your games. The more positive your attitude in-game and outside it, the more it will become a habit and the easier it will be, and hopefully that positivity will spread to others.

That's all I'm trying to do as well. Spread the positivity. :D

See you on the rift, maybe.

¹ “For when the One Great Scorer comes To mark against your name, He writes - not that you won or lost - But HOW you played the Game."

"Alumnus Football” ― Grantland Rice

Awf Meta3/19/2018, 9:41:13 PM1 votes

Buddha says:

Hatred can never cease through hatred in this world; through love alone they cease.

MunchyManifesto3/20/2018, 1:39:50 AM1 votes

I agree, the game CAN be pretty frustrating at times... but it's just a GAME. Maybe not the game for you, if you're that mad about it. Try something more PvE based. You might have more fun, frankly.

Telephone Booth3/20/2018, 5:05:47 AM1 votes

That sounds like therapy level of anger. We cant help you. You need a professional.