Has anyone had IRL friends bully them over a match?

TeCoolMage·11/6/2016, 3:06:54 PM·3 votes·877 views

I've spent most of my time playing solo queue norms but my friends IRL decided to constantly ask me to play ranked with them. I agree and join a discord server, as I never got much time to hang out with them. The first few games were alright or I didn't remember any problems in particular, but eventually it started to get worse.

Once I got in game, I proc my egg as Anivia and get a kill, but suddenly everyone's pinging missing on me as if I just gave first blood or something. Every time I die, walk towards an enemy to stun or place down my ult, or even clear the wave, someone's pinging missing/danger on me. Eventually it gets to a point where I'm 5/2 (there's 1 guy more fed than me but he went AFK) and one shotting the 11/1 MF who hasn't bought MR yet, so I approach her right after she gets a quadra when everyone stands inside her ult with no CC on them, but everyone starts pinging me like crazy even after I kill her and die in the process due to having the screen covered in pings. Eventually we lose but it's apparently my fault and I was being carried by the AFK even though I tried my hardest. I took it as a joke or something at the time and didn't think much of it, as another group of friends that I had a similar situation with would constantly speak about how I made a mistake with positioning and how I was never listening to them, so I assumed I just wasn't really good at the game.

I never see any pings or criticism being thrown at each other, and I'd always have 3 out of the 4 other players looking at my lane and either typing in chat or saying in the voice channel asking why I I'm standing in a certain spot, or why I placed a ward there. If I got fed no one would mention a thing (though if they got fed and won, we'd all compliment each other on a game well done), but if I fed, there'd always be constant pinging and questions thrown at me, even if someone else was a similar score, or even worse, I was playing support and only had assists.

It was fine at first, but eventually I started noticing my performance getting worse, I started constantly questioning myself in important moments and got killed for not doing anything, and my desire to get better and win more at league just to get approval from these guys started to affect my study and sleep, and I'd always be stressed whenever I met them in real life and they started to talk to me about the game. They also started being more explicit and told me outright "you're bad" and "we're not letting you play x role again", and any complaints otherwise would be brushed off as me being stubborn and refusing to 'learn', or something like it being a joke even though I've tried the same things and had the reply, 'stfu' multiple times.

Now I think I should just address the problem, write it down somewhere (here) and just stop being around these people, I've gotten tired of pretending the fact the people around me were basing their respect purely on how good I was at a game wasn't a problem at all, and that these people were actually my friends to begin with. Even though most of it's been in discord and not in league so they can't really get banned and posting it here won't help, typing it up and admitting something was wrong did help. I plan on simply being around these people less unless I really need to.

Have any of you guys had similar experiences? If so, what did you do to solve it?

10 Comments

Russian Doll11/6/2016, 3:35:19 PM3 votes

I'm not bullied, but I cant play with my boyfriend anymore, he just turns into a monster and yell fucked up things at me like 'kys', lol. (funny thing is, he's bronze and I'm plat, rofl). So i stopped playing with him, if I'm not having fun with ppl I dont play with them and thats pretty much it

Weathered11/6/2016, 3:12:03 PM2 votes

Online games bring out the worst in people. I'd either tell them to chill because its annoying af or find others to play with.

OneMustFall11/6/2016, 4:07:09 PM1 votes

We'll talk a lot of shit to each other sometimes but it's all in good fun. If people are bullying you and obviously making you uncomfortable while playing a video game, they're not really your friends. I'd tell them to kick rocks and not play with them again.

ShinkoMinori11/6/2016, 4:44:21 PM1 votes

You live in OCE. Don't play with friends you wanna keep.

Shuten Ðoji11/6/2016, 11:14:34 PM1 votes

A couple years ago I was dating someone, and we'd oftentimes play league together, especially bot lane. Normally, he wasn't too toxic but if he was in a bad mood or something, he'd become so vile towards me and only me. We oftentimes used to play with our friends, and one of them could go 0/25 and he'd never say anything to me but God forbid I ever miss a skillshot or something.

Eventually it just got to the point where I told him I didn't want to play with him anymore, and when if did I refused to go bot lane with him. I guess after a while he felt bad about it because he stopped making overly-negative comments about my play.

dominusx11/6/2016, 3:09:25 PM1 votes

i'm always the one bullying them so yeh ehhheheheheheheheheheheh and i bully them for days not just after the game. But we have fun doing it both ends. Just like people would sometimes joke with me if i got nutmegged during our footbal match. I got a question for you tho. How old are you?

Dracocrash11/8/2016, 4:32:36 PM1 votes

I know these kind of relationships. You are just the scape-goat of the group. Trust me, leave them and find new friends. I was actually bad and faced theese kind of problems, one day I just stopped playing with them, unless they called me 3-4 times and I got decent at the game and made new friends. I don't know what changed, but they started treating me really nicely, suddenly

Or get a higher ranking than them. Theres no argument if you get a higher ranking :).

Starbòy11/6/2016, 3:34:51 PM1 votes

even if we argue in games we are chill & cool when we meet in rl, we jk about games, it would be stupid to end a friendship with someone only because you are bad on a game or you played bad a role.