The Punishment

I want to share my experience in 2 of my games.

The first one is, I was adc and the rest are from the same pre-make group, and they constantly stealing my cs. We end up with 6/30 and they still didn't surrender, I went afk before I'm going to flame. In the end, i got reported for afk.

The second one is right after the first one, I was still titled and auto filled to a support role. I intentionally stole a lot of cs from my adc, but we were behind a lot of cs anyway, so i'm like half my adc cs. (my support item is not for sharing cs) But somehow my team trust me it's because i was defending the tower while adc is gone. My adc was so pissed, flamed a few words (all key words). In the end, she got banned XD.

So my question is, who is the one should get punished, the one who provocate by action, or the one who triggered and type.

I mean, for the second game, I didn't break any rule in the game, I was just trying my own stuff, I didn't steal other's role either. Even if I want to try something new and go very badly, my team still have to play with me and talk to me nicely by rules. But my adc said bad words, she broke the rule, she deserves her ban. Everyone should have control their words no matter what because everyone should be polite to each other by rules.

Does anyone know what I truly mean?