How Toxicity can effect a player.

Yeah. It's not fun. I remember when I was learning to last hit and because I zoned out and didn't let him last hit the cannon, he'd literally sit there yelling at me and then leaving the call because he was childish.

I've met quite a few people who are single now but once were in the same situation. I'm not going to tell you what to do but I do hope you are careful. You are worth more than petty arguments over a video game that doesn't effect your life in anyway, sweetheart. If he can't see that, then I do wish you'd take a moment to really think if it's worth it.

When I came to that point, I sat down and I wrote a list of the good and the bad. I eventually wrote him a long letter. I told him that he may not want to admit it to himself because he doesn't like abuse and abusers, but that's what he was. He was emotionally and mentally abusive and I didn't want to deal with it anymore.

No one in this world should have to deal with feeling like they're the mess up because someone else can't own up to their problems. We're worth more than that.

at start words does matter when someone insults you for the first time it hurts a little you argue you curse them back after 3 years of fighting back i realize that words are literally meaningless you can insult me how much you want i will insta mute you no point to argue no point to talk to you if you don't give advice to improve and only talk trash then its 100% pointless in the big picture i think that words has no power at all and its all matter of perception and personality

I used to have a toxic duo, he was never toxic to me but would flame everyone else who made even a small mistake. I got so tired of it, I hated every game we played together. Eventually i started reporting him when he was too toxic. Call me a backstabber, but he needed those chat restrictions if he would ever stop. Eventually i just stopped duoing with him, and i guess we both moved on. These days i do my best to compliment teammates on their plays and encourage them when they make missteps. Also, not playing ranked but sticking normals has made the game so much more enjoyable for me.

Thank you. It means a lot. But I honestly wouldn't change a thing. An experience is something to learn from and I've learned a lot from it. I just wish I didn't become like him when it was all said and done.

And yeah. I used to love this game. The first champion I played was Lissandra on free week and I was like "WHAT DO?"

Now I'm trying to farm level 7 on champions I know I'm good with because, while others believe that Level 7 is something simple and doesn't show your skill with the champion, I see it different. Because how you get the token is based on skill and improvement. You have to be better than you were, and I find that enjoyable. I have 7 champions down so far.

Basically, my enjoyment now comes from trying to do what I can to get better. I try to have fun and fool around every now and again, though. ALL YORDLES TEAM? HELLO?

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I don't know why but earlier I couldn't comment. Now I can, though I can barely remember what I said.

However, what I do know is that regardless of who's being toxic, you shouldn't purposely ruin the game because of other players. That IS reportable. The best thing to do is mute and ignore them to better calm yourself so that you take yourself out of that tilt because thats you being better than them, being better than what you could be. You know? That's why a lot of the times I don't type in chat unless I'm being silly with the other players or whatever.

No response is the best response. If you don't give them one, they give up.

Trolls are toxic players and they are just as wrong. But that wasn't the point I was making in what I said. I was pointing out, as someone who's been through it, what can happen from it. It wasn't so much insulting as it was just being an asshole. It's when people constantly poke at you, it eventually gets to you. Like if a Mother sat there complaining and saying her child "isn't worth shit". It eventually gets to that child and later in life, they have low self-esteem. This IS real.

Now if you're done being childish and assuming this is some kind of complaint, I'd really appreciate it if you tried to understand someone elses view outside of your own.

Honestly, your ability to communicate isn't your fault. You did a wonderful job conveying your feelings to me. The problem with this is that communication works both ways. The part that's failing is your teams ability to listen and think about what they're doing before they do something. And unfortunately, as a jungler, you're going to get blamed for most things. TRUST me, I've been there. Everyone gets there. But if you ever find you need help, do feel free to add me! I'd love to be of help.

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As someone with Asperger's syndrome, a relatively moderate case at that, i can't say I've not lashed out many times at people. Most times justified, but not really warranted. Sure, people can be twats and they don't deserve the best, but that's not up to me to decide. That's up to riot's boundaries and trigger words.

I've stopped trying to communicate with my team for communications sake. Which, leads to my chats just being small talk or saying how absurd a burst was, which often triggers the hell out of people. Its a pain, every day, having people shouting at me for "not taking draft pick (not even ranked) seriously"

I get it, chat's there for communicating logic with your team, but as someone who was unlucky enough to be born with communication issues, that's just it. I can't convey strategies well enough to people by the chatbox. Most times i don't even use it, but even if i COULD say what i wanted to say, the right way, i still wouldn't.

why's that, you may ask?

People don't listen. NORMAL people don't listen. That's what i don't understand. I suppose i'm just in a low MMR, i only joined this year, but every time I've TRIED to communicate, people ignore it. Pings? Nope. Saying "BARON BARON BARON" in chat after getting a low-casualties ace, and all their carries will be down? NOPE!

Try as i might, trying to talk for ANY reason, with people here in bronze, is impossible. Most times you get toxics who start flaming because you're just chatting with the other teammates, telling you "Shut the fuck up and play" even when you're dead or AFK-walking to lane.

The other people will ignore pings or map awareness, and flame you for nothing. I've been playing Vi jungle, and in one game i was botside, clearing my red buff. My top laner starts pinging the flag for help, then dies, and says "WHAT THE FUCK, JUNGLER?"... i was literally mid red-buff and about a 1 and a half minute walk from top.

I start heading top so when he gets back we can plan an ambush, i take my blue as he walks up, then suddenly PING PING PING from botlane. Christ almighty, it was like running a daycare...

We won that game BARELY, but i got 0 honors, iirc. I did a lot to try and snowball and carry that game, and didnt flame back when the others were trying to goad me, which was tough enough. that was just the icing on the dirt-flavored cake.

Long story short, toxic people exist everywhere. I've been trying to get my friend into the game but the community is just too bad, he doesn't really want to only because of THAT

thank you for your reply. Yes you guessed it I have asperger's syndrone too but it's far worse. I sent you an add in league if you don't mind. thank you.

I don't know why but I can't get to that point where I just don't care. It's hard for me. So I just mute them. If I need to communicate, that's what pings are for. I just.. I dunno. I think what makes it worse is that people spend so much time pointing out everyone elses mistakes that they fail to recognize their own. I have a friend (whom used to be an Udyr main, then a Kat main, and then a Kayn main, and now seems to be hella playing Kha) who, despite what everyone else says, sits there and believes he's right. You could present him absolute facts and he will tell you you're wrong. He believes he's worthy of Gold and his excuse is that he "doesn't play that often" when its brought up that he isn't.

But the reason he isn't is because he plays for himself. He plays for himself and gets toxic in chat to teammates and purposely tries to tilt the enemy team. It's always you did this and you did that instead of "I could have done this" or "should have done that".

One time we had an argument. I was playing jungle and he was mid. It was the first minute and 30 seconds. When I play mid lane, I sit in the river bush or near river to make sure that no one invades because I'd like my jungler to be able to do his first camp safely. He disagrees saying that it's stupid and wastes his time and that he wouldn't have been able to get to lane on time.

It takes but a few seconds to walk from beside river to the mid lane. Not only do you not miss anything, but you're assisting your jungler. And he refused to accept that it wasn't a big deal.

We lost that game because the enemy jungler kept invading my jungle and he never came to help. Yes, I warded and I did everything I could to farm and help but I was so behind and he was tilted because he got camped.

lol what? This post isn't about you....

For me, its anything competitive outside MMOs. I love MMOs. They keep me relaxed. I recently started playing DC Universe Online (my first real mmo as a kid) with a bunch of friends so it's kept me off league a bit.

When I play league and someone is being rude to me in text chat, I try to speak as politely as possible and if they're still going I mute them. When I'm alone, I play the game really quiet and I focus on myself. When I do bad, I'm the one beating myself up about it so I don't need comments from the peanut gallery (i.e the Kha'Zix I was talking about). But when I'm in voice call, especially one with my current boyfriend, I go off. I go off on him like my ex did to me and it hurts me. It hurts me to the point where I debate if I should leave him because he won't admit this isn't healthy and I know it isn't and then he calms me down and relaxes me and tells me it's okay.

So what I've been doing lately is just muting my own mic. My friend said that this doesn't work and he swore he's been in game with me without a voice call and I'm still toxic but he never has. When I know my mic is muted, I go back to that calm and polite state I'm in when I'm playing alone. I don't really talk in the chat unless I need to say something to respond to the VC but otherwise, I'm getting focused.

If you want, we can try some technique's together. Feel free to add me.

You don't sound superior, you just sound like someone trying too hard to sound superior.

Instead of making fun of people for sharing their experiences how about you share some of yours in turn?