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Need to ignore all-chat for good

SneaselSawashiro·12/26/2017, 9:31:48 AM·2 votes·842 views

Aside from me just getting suspended once more on my new account....

One of the most consistent problems is me trying to deal with all-chat.

Normally, my team's chat isn't enough to do anything to me; but it's my foes' chat.

Everytime a game goes badly for me, one part of my head desperately wants to confirm if my foe is that of the usual contempt-minded against the losing team.

Everyone knows these guys. They say stuff like this: "kys uninstall you fool I'm crushing you gg ez"

And since it's not your team saying it, you don't just feel sad, you feel ANGRY as hell because your opposition is mocking you outright and is threatening to as I would say: assault your mother, burn your house down or cutting off one of your body parts just as proof for them deserving challenger.

DESPITE me turning off all-chat in games and ALWAYS remembering to disable the cross-chat in interface, this problem has come back to bite me SEVERAL times because I've cared WAY too much about what others think of me. Whenever I've started to feed like an r-tard in lane, I turn on cross-chat because I basically have stopped caring at that point like many low elo players who focus on wanting justice sorted out in the chat.

Hence why my old account on top of getting suspended, was also banned because I wanted to not be bronze. I cared far too much about labels and how much my play was in front of others.

Even if people in general tell me to just stop typing and play the game, I've stopped trusting myself 100% to the point where while I would still pull some of my weight, it feels like it won't matter since as a former low elo player, it's expected that I wouldn't be able to instantly know how to come back from my position.

I honestly wish that it was as simple as "muting all chat", but I still get so mad at my inability to not look like an idiot in front of my foe whenever I'm so tilted and behind.

P.S. Yes, I'm a horrible person for both being an idiot and bad at this game. If you have any contempt and troll comments to spew to me, say it now, like a man. I know how much you'd want me to die for being a typical low elo player out of many, since no one likes weakness.

8 Comments

Falkentyne12/26/2017, 5:19:20 PM1 votes

Listen, dude. Why do you care about what someone who you will never meet has to say about you? I think you need help outside of this game. Counselor or therapy of some sort. How old are you? High school? JHS? I tried to help some depressed kid here and he turned out to be a complete jerk, whiny, entitled and very mentally unstable so I don't bother adding or trying to make friends with league players anymore. But at least I'm taking the time to say: get therapy. this game simply isn't for weak minded people. They wind up either quitting or getting banned. Try some RPGs or JRPGs, or try PUBG or Warframe or something. And if you're in school, go talk to a counselor about your security and mental issues. None of us can help you here. I already tried and got burned so you're on your own. Good luck and hope your Christmas was decent.

BlueThingamajig12/26/2017, 6:08:09 PM1 votes

There's a way to disable all-chat.

In the Options Menu --> In-Game / Interface --> Chat --> [ ] Show All Chat (Matched Games)

Wolfenstin12/27/2017, 7:18:26 AM1 votes

I actually have the exact same problem, only difference being I never follow through. Allchat has been disabled since I started the game and the only time I've ever turned it on was to watch a replay where I won.

It's buried so far in the options, you can mostly ignore it. Least for me anyways. It might help because I'm just a lowly support main who only plays normals and has decided ranked isn't for me unless I happen to have a group to play with (which I don't regularly, but I digress).

Point is, you have to assume the person on the other side doesn't care about you personally, you have to dig your heals in and think/believe it to be true. Hell, they COULD be a total fartnugget that's saying "GGEZ" before the game's even over, but it's not over until it's over. You have to adopt that mindset, and believe me doing so in the moment is a struggle I face every damn day, every damn game. It's why I can't play Dark Souls at all because I feel like there's some invisible peanut gallery throwing shade at me and laughing at every death, "Haha, how dare this noob try to play our hardcore man game!"

What I try to do is think from my own perspective. What would I think if I was crushing a player in lane? Would I feel bad for him? Would I not care and think indifferently? That second one I try to hold onto. I imagine that player as an average Joe who really doesn't give two shits about me. In about twenty minutes, he'll forget I exist and we'll both go about our ways. Even if he's spamming taunts (in which case, roll your eyes and mute that SOB) but imagine he's only doing it to get under your skin, not because he personally despises you and wants to bully you into submission. Maybe he thinks the taunt is funny, maybe he just enjoys the sound of the champion's laugh, it's all possible.

Point is, you have to not assume the worst of people and imagine them as just like you. Even the shit stains of league are only human, not as monstrous as our minds make them out to be. The sooner you stop fighting the 'bad guys' and just start playing the game, the easier it will be. Can't guarantee success, but this is what I've been practicing. I've managed to keep my anger out of chat, but I know I get fussy really quick, real easy. So don't sweat it, practice self control, and realize that no logical person truly, personally, wants to belittle you into dust. If anything, they just want to tilt you for a win. I think that's disgusting, but that's about where the level of interaction typically ends with people on this game.

o brigid o12/29/2017, 1:47:18 PM1 votes

Lack of will power is a poor excuse.

Honestly it sounds like this game does more harm than good for you.

In a completely different way, I have also recently come to understand it wasn't good for me either. As I'm choosing to do for myself, I strongly recommend you take an extended break from League. I'm talking weeks; not days.

Take some time to really understand that, for starters, literally no one cares about your status when you're bronze (and even silver really)... except for other low elo players. And even then, someone playing against you at your level doesn't account for much. They clearly haven't climbed the skill ladder any better than you have even if they happen to have a good game against you... so let that soak in until you're able to tell yourself "f what they think"

I also agree that it sounds like you've got some serious underlying anxiety and/or anger issues. I can't imagine it's only manifesting when you play League. I hope you consider talking to someone who can help.