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I Need Help With my Mentality

Míni·7/8/2018, 7:40:16 AM·4 votes·4,039 views

I used to have so much fun playing this game, climbing, and trying to become better. But suddenly I get so mad at every single loss and blame everyone BUT ME. I learn NOTHING from my losses because I am too mad to see past it all. Even in games I perform bad in I just get annoyed and try to surrender and blame people and make everyone mad. Which turns the game into a toxic cesspool where there is no hope in winning because I turned team chat into a war. I really really really enjoy the game. I love it so much but it's impossible for me to not get mad at it and rage to the point where my blood is boiling and I end up with a headache and even yelling at people to leave me alone IRL. I know it's a me problem but I don't know what to do. This is just on my mind so I'm sorry this is such a mess.

Edit: I'm not a terrible person I don't think. But when I become aggravated, I'm suddenly a whole different person.

Edit: 2 days later I got that sweet 14 day ban. lol xd

23 Comments

ı Sona ı7/8/2018, 7:55:40 AM3 votes

Take a week off from playing league. That will probably fix it.

HandsomeStreamer7/8/2018, 10:57:05 AM1 votes

Wake up at 5:30 everyday, make breakfast. Make it, don't just go find breakfast. Start an InstaGram account, with a full body pic of yourself, with whatever amount of clothes you feel comfortable with. Your content will include Riot merch and you wearing/using it whatever... Go work out at the gym between 9:30 and 2pm, if you don't have a job. If you do, fit it in after work. Alternate muscle groups, and get to the point where you can lift your bodyweight with one hand (each). Take pics for IG progress tracking Meet people at the gym. Network with them. Go do cool s%#! Play some league. Watch some league. Stop getting mad, and build yourself, as well as an audience. Thank me when you make a passive income and have more time for league + working out.

I AM VBAD7/8/2018, 11:16:43 AM1 votes

study how matchmaking works. wins/losses it makes no difference they all balance out in the end. thats what made me stop caring

Kei1437/8/2018, 12:40:03 PM1 votes

if you want to be less mad, get good at the game, cos you know you are good and you'll end up climbing in the long run regardless of how bad your team is doing.

Maybe get a coach or something?

Best Vi Earth7/8/2018, 1:36:42 PM1 votes

im the same way. but in these low elo games i legit can only learn weird interactions between abilities and characters. honestly i dont think you need to change. just get to the elo where you can learn again. strive for that top stop. that where eagerness will reutrn

Kamikaze7/8/2018, 2:04:38 PM1 votes

stop smoking weed

W01fedin7/8/2018, 2:25:11 PM1 votes

Take some time away from league for a while, calm your mind and find a new hobby for a while. Relax your mind for a bit, think about things that are not about league. When you feel like you’re feeling better, try playing league again. Play from less of a competitive stand point and more of a relaxed standpoint. Hopefully this helps? ;)

Ifneth7/8/2018, 5:08:41 PM1 votes

You are, in some sense, a terrible person. Your anger scares me, and that you’re aware of your bad behavior makes it no less culpable. You should probably see a therapist: I doubt that you react like this only to League.

StillHittinLicks7/8/2018, 5:29:31 PM1 votes

Honestly, you're just gonna have to make it an effort to not get tilted. I used to get tilted but then realized and said to myself "Why am I typing so vigorously to people I don't know nor really care about? Just a waste of time and I look like some loser keyboard warrior". After that, I stopped getting tilted, and even if I did tilt, I didn't type because it made no sense to. Also, realize when you've made a mistake, don't be one of those annoying scrubs that always blames their jungler because they don't ward and get cheesed. You'll feel a lot better when you know you can't tilt and just say "ggwp" at the end of a game and move on.

TaniaTasia7/8/2018, 7:17:28 PM1 votes

If you want a sincere answer, /mute all at the beginning of games is probably the most efficient way to rank up and/or become better at the game. Nothing your teammates can say will make you a better player, and the more time you spend typing is less time spent focusing and fixing your mistakes. There's a lot of doubt that goes into muting everyone every game, so much so that I've actually opted to disabling my enter key in league using another program just so I can read chat, but not feel inclined to type, though this mostly has to do with toxicity issues, and letting myself talk every several games to which I still eventually got perma'd on my other account for saying "so I'm gonna get spam pinged all game by the zil who never hit a stun in lane, give me a fucking break," while some guy yelling racist anti-american insults in all chat in all caps three days ago (which I submitted a ticket about immediately and still haven't gotten a response back) still gets to play the game.

This "chat war" problem will continue existing at every elo, and one of the most important things to remember is that the only variable in your games that is under your control is you. Another thing is that you are, for the most part, guaranteed to lose 33%-50% of all of your games regardless of your input, only due to the fact that the enemy team is statistically better than the rest of your team and not much else. At higher elos team composition does come into play, but in this meta and at lowerish ranks picking any of the handful of pick/ban champs will put you in a decent position, or try to get a small pool of champs with drastically different playstyles for whichever role you play, which will both give you at least one good option to counter whatever the enemy team picks (or what your team needs the most,) and it will also help you play better against those types of champions.

In the long run, as long as you're winning arbitrarily more games than you're losing you will eventually rank up, but I completely understand how the inclination to wage a war in chat feels and attempt to surrender at 15 minutes. I won't tell you that surrendering early is either right nor wrong, because some games you scale better and can outfarm the enemy team from behind, and some games the chances of winning from behind are slim to none. Being able to interpret which of these two categories you fall under based on team compositions will not only make you a better player as well by encouraging you to play to not only your champion's strengths and weaknesses and those of your laner(s), but also to the strengths and weakness of both teams as well, not to mention you'll often save yourself the hassle of playing an extra 15-20 minutes of a lost game.

I'm not sure how much of this advice will prove useful, but I hope I was at least helpful in an emotional/technical way. While I can't bring myself to do it myself, both out of doubt and sheer laziness, try a few games of starting off with /mute all and see if that improves your winrate at all, and at the very least if it doesn't seem to help you win more games, it'll make you more aware of your own mistakes and help you become a better player in the long run.

fatherdarius7/9/2018, 4:01:40 AM1 votes

My personal opinion is that this is caused by going into the game 'expecting' to win.

Instead, try going into the game 'hoping' to win, but 'plan' to have fun - even if you don't win. Be glad you're participating in an activity you like.

I like racquetball. It's fun even when I lose. Why can't League be the same?

Play to win, sure, but don't ONLY play to win. Play to get better. Play to relax. Play to hang with friends (or make new ones). Or play to watch other people (see what they do that works and what doesn't).

Change your expectations, and I promise your attitude will surely follow.

Also, try setting realistic goals for yourself.

If you die all the time, try your best to play defensively - set a minute limit, such as "I'll try to stay alive for 5 minutes" or "until laning phase is over", etc.

Can't beat your lane enemy? Try for a stalemates instead.

Creep score always low? Practice that last hitting, and aim for a little higher CS than usual.

Feel every game is the same? Change it up a little. Decide you're going to try to make 'one good play' this game. Or decide you're going to focus more on map awareness or ward placement.

Bored with your champs? Try doing something a little "off meta". A little. Don't overdo it. If it works, branch out a little at a time. Playing max healing/shielding power on Lux

Lux (item 3174 item 3107 item 3504, etc) can be fun and helpful.

Whereas stacking mana items on Garen

Garen (item 3070 item 1027 item 3048 item 1056) is NOT.

You can also create 'missions' for yourself. They don't HAVE to be in the little mission box. Decide that the next game, you're going to secure 2 dragons for the team. Ward. Watch. Try to coordinate and make it happen. If it doesn't, try it again next game.

And if you need a reward, then reward yourself in your own way. Finally got mastery 5 (or 6, or 7), or finally broke 300 cs (or 200, or 100)? Buy yourself a skin. Or a chocolate milkshake. You got an S+ on Alistar and were honored by your whole team? Take a break and have an alcoholic beverage (or blaze up, it that's your thing). Reward yourself with whatever motivates you.

And last but not least - above all, it is a 'game'. It isn't work (unless you're a pro). If you're not having fun then find something else to do that you enjoy. There's nothing wrong with stepping away from the game (or anything else that isn't required in life). Take an hour or a day or a month or whatever. League will most likely be here when you return.