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Guys how do i stop being toxic and control my anger? actual question, I want to improve

Do It For NA ·5/1/2016, 6:48:23 PM·5 votes·3,222 views

Please don't just say the usual " HURR STOP TYPING HURR MUTE EVERYONE" Muting everyone does not make them play better or stop feeding, it just prevents you from seeing what they say. I rage at my teammates when they feed or lose lane and then it makes it harder for ME to win the game. I also get pissed off when people say " it's just a game! chill omg !" or " its just normals stfu!" League of Legends is a competitive game where one side loses and the other side wins. Just because I want to win more than you do, does NOT mean you should ruin the game for everyone else by trolling, afking, or not trying to win. This makes me mad as f when people say this and I just want to know how can I stop being toxic/raging while conveying my message. I don't want to get banned, but I don't want to lose either.

Please help me, and give me useful responses not just " mute everyone" or " stfu" because that doesn't help me carry the jungler who DCed and lanes who are losing. Thank you

32 Comments

Zoeeee5/1/2016, 6:54:56 PM4 votes

Learn to lose? I've heard in other competitive games ppl can avoid tilt (poker, chess) by getting used to losing or being less emotionally connected to the game. Constructive criticism always ends in a flame war.

Ozag the Mighty5/1/2016, 7:02:44 PM3 votes

Trying to carry a game on your own just isn't viable, some people are just better than others and that's a fact.

Nothing you can do about a DC, maybe report them but with recent server issues that wouldn't be viable either.

As for people feeding, there's a thin line there...intentional feeding is obvious when it happens, other times it just comes to the match up between two champs...say your playing, I dunno...nasus top, and the opponent picks Quinn/Jhin top...their poke (espessially Jhin) will literally keep you on the other side if your turret. Thus causing a definite lane loss, nothing you can do about that except hope to god your jungler farms the top.

As for you personally about your anger, like others said...stress toy, music (you said it lags you so maybe not) but the only thing YOU can do about yourself is self control, if you can't control your own anger, maybe a game like league isn't for you. Not trying to rile you up, but it is what it is.

Hope some of this helps.

mærk5/1/2016, 6:50:33 PM3 votes

Step one: Put on some music. Step two: Say good luck, have fun. If not and you're a Phreak. Say Have fun. Step three: Don't respond to them; /mute all. Step four: Play and focus on your own game not theirs.

Marshbouy5/1/2016, 6:54:49 PM2 votes

Just always remember its just a game. type out what you say but dont hit enter. play norms for fun and dont take ranked overly seriously. mute people if you need to. http://forums.na.leagueoflegends.com/board/showthread.php?t=3813596

Photos of Ghosts5/1/2016, 8:26:24 PM2 votes

Unbind enter key in your menu, use only pings.
Laugh at misplays instead of getting mad, just take the whole game as a huge joke.
Get a teddy bear (or a lover, but that can cause pain) and hug it.
Fall in love with silly smileys. Like, a Lenny Face always makes my day better ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

PabloMaster543215/1/2016, 6:52:06 PM2 votes

Using a stress toy wouldnt be too bad, since you can take it out on it, and if you are mad at riot chances are you might break it.

EndlessSorcerer5/1/2016, 6:56:44 PM2 votes

It helps to realize that raging at allies only decreases your chances to win the game. Raging at allies (whether or not you believe it is justified) only screws whatever is left of your team's morale and gets everybody distracted by typing and/or following the conversation.

They are random players at a computer who you will likely never see again. Quite frankly, while you can be annoyed by them, you really shouldn't care about them or what they do.

Honestly, I've found the best way to deal with trolls is to just ignore them entirely. They are immature idiots who only want to provoke a reaction from the other players for their own amusement and ego; don't give them that satisfaction.

I have had players on my team troll early in the game only to give up on it when they realized that nobody cared about them and that they were just playing around them.

Heck, I had a game like the last night where a two-man premade decided to troll and intentionally feed after I banned one of their preferred picks (I dislike having Yasuo's on my team unless they are Diamond; I find they tend to feed and rage). We just ignored them and hard-carried the game to victory.

The Leblanc (mid) and Urgot (support) were the duo-queue who decided to troll, beginning with a level 1 two-man invade while we were all pinging them back and the Urgot both intentionally feeding and screwing up last-hits for our ADC.

ImAHeroForFun5/1/2016, 10:17:49 PM2 votes

First you need to throw out your current mind set about how league is and should be played... completely.

Then you play every game to improve, NOT to win.

Lastly learn to laugh at yourself and others instead of criticizing. If you see someone do something stupid. Laugh imagine thats a challenger player who just made a really stupid mistake.

In the end this is all easier to say than it is to do and that's why the first step is so important... Something Ive learned in my life is that you can learn something from anything. It has everything to do with how you look at it, and unless you get rid of your preconceived notions you'll never see it differently. If you see every game as just a win or loss than you will always look for a reason as to why you win or lose instead of just trying to improve your game play... as your game play improves so will your ranking, and skill.

An example of why this is so important.

Lets say you lose a game and all your teammates went 0-13 0-12 and so on. If you are focused on the fact that you lost the game then all you are going to see is you're positive score line and their negative, and an obvious result of that is being frustrated on your teammates play.

However, if you are focused on improving Instead of focusing on why your teammates went 0-13 0-12 You can focus on what you could have done to better help them not feed. Maybe you could have placed more wards? or better wards? maybe you could have roamed and counter ganked more? or maybe you could have stomped your lane and brought more pressure to your lane so that your teammates were able to do more in their own lanes. Im not saying you need to self hate just that there is always room to improve, and if thats your focus instead of winning or losing it makes it a lot easier to keep from tilting off the face of the planet.

SwagathaChristie5/1/2016, 7:02:24 PM2 votes

K let me lay it out for you bruh. So if someone is fucking up try saying some constructive shit. Instead of stop feeding say, hey man it looks like he is building all damage it might help if you build some armor and hp. Or if someone keeps diving in on shit they shouldn't tell them the enemy team is too strong for us to dive them, let try to poke them first or catch them when they have people in other lanes etc. Never make your comment about blaming someone. Then when mistakes are made focus on you not them. Every game you did something wrong and there is something you can improve, so do your best to figure out what you could have done better because your team mates play cannot be changed but your own can be.

Complexly5/1/2016, 6:52:57 PM2 votes

You should just know some games you can not carry

EL HAMSTERO5/2/2016, 3:00:43 AM1 votes

study matchmaking. that is all you have to do.

in a matchmaking system like LoL's you will only be able to win around 50% of your games no matter what you do. that means every time you win you will have to lose for it later on. and every time you lose you will get a win for it.

so if trolls are making you lose then they are also helping you win a future game. this actually is how it works. look at it that way and you can feel a lot better about losses.

Void Nargacuga5/1/2016, 6:50:26 PM1 votes

First off: Go listen to some music for a moment, or find something to help you calm down. Once you are calmed down comeback and we can try to help you. Honestly: I ain't perfect either.

Mr Rontastic5/1/2016, 7:07:49 PM1 votes

Flaming a feeding isn't gonna help and if someone is trolling just ignore them and report them after the game (trolls just wants attention)

This vid will explain to you why you shouldn't flame a feeder: https://youtu.be/WNEuli_dM68?t=10m34s

ApollyonBainer5/1/2016, 7:08:32 PM1 votes

I would say just work on getting better and improving yourself. Because you can't lose if you carry and win. I would focus more on personal victories like winning your lane, doing the most dmg, having a good kda ratio. Because that just gives your team a better opportunity to win.

Randomonium5/1/2016, 7:11:00 PM1 votes

Try to put it in perspective.

The person is intentionally trying to troll, AFK, etc. You raging at them is exactly what they want. People troll because they want the attention. They want to spam "U MAD BRO" over and over in all chat and laugh at you being pissed off. So don't play into their hands. Don't give them what they want. Stop feeding the trolls. On top of this, do you really think they care what you say? Its a complete waste of time to rage at them or try to argue with them.
The person is just having a bad game. You raging at them doesn't help them. If anything its going to put them on tilt and cause them to play worse. You can give them advice but there's no point in raging at them. On top of this, you raging puts yourself on tilt which makes it less likely that YOU will carry the game.
Yes this is a competitive video game but ITS JUST A VIDEO GAME. Why freak out over something that's supposed to be fun? We've already established that raging doesn't help regardless of whether the player is playing bad intentionally or not intentionally. If you play a sport with your friends do you freak out at them when they do bad? If you're doing a school project do you freak out at someone when they are struggling? Then why do it in a video game?

Dehitay5/1/2016, 7:16:01 PM1 votes

If somebody is making mistakes, tell them how to avoid that mistake in a way that doesn't involve insulting. When people start raging at you, the ideal thing to do is to ignore it. But if you can't ignore it, just sarcastically give them what they want. Pretend to cry. Tell them that they're hurting your feelings. Say this is the kind of thing that increases your depression. The stupid ragers will end up taking it too far when they get the reaction they want and then you can report them and see that stress relieving player got punished message.

aj502 Oneill5/1/2016, 8:29:37 PM1 votes

It's just your mindset...Probably the one you carry IRL...If you're always looking to "blame" someone when something goes wrong, or intolerant of other people's opinion - especially when they don't agree with your own (see internet) - then you'll just be a rager...

Look at it this way - when someone "bitches" at you for whatever reason, do you take that positive? Do you "do" whatever you got bitched at for better?

Seriously folks, it's natural human reaction and even simpler, just common sense.

Fuck the "blame:...If someone sucks, they pretty much know it - no need to rag on em...If someone is trolling, you taking time to rage at 'em certainly isn't going to make them stop.

Plus, all that bullshit you type is fucking up YOUR game, and prolly other people's as well. Ever get "caught out" because that one quip you just HAD to type let someone snipe you?

Mute or no mute, it don't matter...Do what ya can and if you just HAVE to type something, don't sound like an asshole when ya do...If ya can't manage to not sound like one, just don't type it...It ain't gonna change the world...

Again, people...Common sense...Just because someone like me can't knock your teeth out because of the safe internet, don't mean you SHOULD say shit like that.

Common sense.

Kei1435/1/2016, 9:53:46 PM1 votes

Realise that 40% of the games you'll get wrecked, 40% of the games you'll win no matter what, and 20% of the games you'll have some control over with your decision making / communication skills.

If its one of those 40% games that you'll loose anyways, just accept that you'll loose anyways and take the pressure of winning off yourself. You now can focus on other things such as map awareness, landing / dodging skillshots and other mechanical things.

Realise that most the time you are concerned about defending yourself, where most people have already mad their mind and no matter what you type, it doesn't matter.
Seek spiritual growth. I'm not kidding on this either.

xShadowBlade5/2/2016, 2:49:48 AM1 votes

To stop being toxic theres nothing you can do in game, or about the game. Its something you are as a person, you have something wrong in your life that makes you take out your anger in league, maybe you come home tired and stressed from a job everyday and any little thing that goes wrong irritates you in the game. No matter what any one tells you, even if you dont act like that in life and everyday interactions, its in you somewhere buried. Only you can determine why it comes out sometimes, and only you know the reason and the way to fix it. You have to do some soul searching and change as a person.

My best advice? turn off your phone, your PC, and sit in silence, think about your life, and ask yourself if what you know about things like politics, religion, inter/intra personal relations is true and is right, can it be wrong? if it is wrong what is right? For better effect, set up a safe campfire, and stare into the ebbing and flowing flames and later at the coals that will do the same thing. With technology people sacrifice conversation for connection, that includes conversation with one self.

worm5/1/2016, 6:48:51 PM1 votes

sit on ur hands