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[Serious] Need Help Getting Closure After Bad Games

SteelMankind·11/26/2016, 9:26:26 PM·3 votes·435 views

Not sure how to start this, but I guess I should say first of all that I'm sensitive. When I lose a game due to teammates feeding, myself feeding, myself being fed but not actually carrying, or even winning but getting carried myself, I have a really hard time accepting that it happened. I have never been able to get myself to see losses as a chance to improve and reflect on my mistakes, because I become very depressed if I dwell on my losses. I suppose I have this fundamental notion that, when I'm playing a video game, I'm entitled to have fun and enjoy myself.

When I'm staring at the post-game lobby "Defeat" screen, I can't simply just click "Play again". I need to do something else because I can't accept that sometimes, bad things just happen. One thing that used to work is never playing the champion I just played again, but I quickly ran out of champs I haven't yet lost on. Now when I play them, I'm constantly reminded of the last crushing defeat I experienced on that champion.

As a last resort, I started reporting the players on the enemy team who carried. I hate myself for doing this, but I simply NEED to do something to be able to move on from the defeat screen. This became somewhat of an addiction, and now I report 3-4 innocent players every game.

If you're read this far, you might be wondering how reporting players who did nothing wrong, and giving up on champions even though it was just one loss can possibly help my issue. I'm not sure myself, but I think it has something to do with either the resolve that's involved with both decisions, or me creating a consequence for a bad game (because I can't just accept that bad things happen).

If you've read this far, you have my thanks. I need help with this issue, as it's unhealthy and unfair to those I play with. Any suggestions?

8 Comments

Zaryelle11/26/2016, 11:19:13 PM2 votes

It's hard to accept it, but there is a great degree of randomness and questionable matchmaking that makes winning/losing somewhat random. Your skill definitely impacts it, but you are only 1 out of 10 players who can negatively or positively influence their team's success.

The hardest defeat to accept is when you play really well, but 1-2 players on your team were just completely outmatched and you had no chance.

This becomes even worse when I see low level matchmaking. It can be really really bad.. when I first started playing a lot more pvp at level 20-30 I was instantly matched with golds and even sometimes plats. Before I even checked their rank there was obviously something very imbalanced going on. 1 Player on the team going 20/0/5 while everyone else in the game has scores like 1/5/2, no surprise when I check later, it's a platinum against unranked players.

Supposedly the bad matchmaking doesn't happen as much in the higher ranks, but I occasionally hear about gold/plat players getting unranked players in their team who inevitably go scores like 1/14/1. It's actually my theory that this is why people complain about 'feeders' so much, a lot of is because the matchmaking is horrendous. That, and duoing for ranked games with two players who are more than 2 tiers apart in rank should not be allowed.

ReadyxPlayerxOne11/26/2016, 10:41:03 PM1 votes

Don't agree with your solutions. But there needs to be a LOT more done about 1. horrible play 2. reporting to players about how many people their reports ban.

It's simply not enough to report and move on. I want to see I'm getting results. Because the status fucking quo is so bad I don't even want to play anymore.

Dominick Destine11/27/2016, 12:24:18 AM1 votes

Inb4

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