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Sexism vs Racism in League of Legends.

Freevageeter·6/7/2018, 7:07:52 AM·5 votes·2,520 views

Being a female, I get told to do this and that in the kitchen, as well as being told that men are the superior gender daily when I play this game. Now, explain to me how that's any less sensitive than calling someone the N word? The way I see it, I can't fucking say the damn word AT ALL even though I wasn't directing it at anyone at all, just using it as a means of explaining how toxic someone was being. It's a "you say the word at all, regardless of the circumstances, you're just banned on the spot". But it's ok for men to deliberately belittle me because of my gender? How is that any different? I don't see players getting instantly fucking flagged for demeaning me because I was "unlucky at my birth". I report these type of players constantly, I look at their fucking profiles, and they're still playing 3 days later. I even go the extra damn mile and send a support ticket, but that shouldn't even be necessary at all. They should get the same treatment as the N and F-Bomb's.

But who am I kidding, I'm just a stupid ass female who's only good for a piece of ass and a home cooked meal. Silly me.

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TheUrbanKitsune6/7/2018, 8:15:31 AM14 votes

As another female who enjoys video games, let me give it to you straight. I don't know what your clan tag is or how it gives away your gender, but honestly what gender you are has no place in this game, or most any for that matter. Your job is to work as a team to destroy the enemy nexus, and what gender your teammates are shouldn't really be a point of conversation because quite frankly it has absolutely zero impact on the game. People shouldn't be looking at your tag and harassing you for it. And you shouldn't have to change your tag just because some immature 12 year old boys want to make an offensive or inappropriate joke. But I'd suggest if this problem persists that you consider switching to another club tag, because obviously the one you're using is making you a target. The unfortunate reality is that it's a lot easier for Riot's system to detect someone using a trigger word (such as the 'N' word) than to detect someone being sexist, as a lot of sexist remarks may not use any buzzwords. After all, as common as it is to insinuate that women belong in a kitchen, it would be problematic to flag the word 'kitchen' for obvious reasons. It's a regular word that people use outside of a sexist context. Sexist remarks suck, and I've seen my fair share, but I'm not sure what else can be done about it besides reporting people who break the summoner's code.

P4ppino6/7/2018, 7:54:46 AM7 votes

So what would be the trigger words for a ban? Kitchen? Girl? Whore, skank? See it's not that straightforward as is the case with racial slurs, therefore it's classed as regular toxicity most of the time, in which case report, and move on. Although if you are serious about the last part of your post, then I don't know what to tell you.

Sir Prepuzius6/7/2018, 7:11:40 AM6 votes

just stop saying "hey guys look at me, i'm a female!" in the chat? i mean how do they even know you're female? change nick or somethin dude

SSmotzer6/7/2018, 7:29:25 AM6 votes

Wait, were you told to get back into the kitchen because you are a female gamer, or the character you were playing was female? Because there isn't really a way for your team to know you are a woman unless you tell them. Like, if I play Sinful Succulence Morgana, the likely hood of someone tell you to go back to the kitchen dramatically increases, as oppose to playing Darius. Regardless if I am an actual boy or girl. The likelihood of being called gay dramatically increases if I play Taric or Ezreal. The like likelihood of being called a troll dramatically increases if I play Teemo. The likelihood of being called Draven is 100% if I play Draven.

Like, your username and clan tag could be kittynekochan♥♥♥ Femgam4lif and I would still have no idea if you are a dude or a chick. Sure I could guess from their username, but if you're playing Gragas, I am still going to call you a fat neckbeard.

SSmotzer6/7/2018, 7:38:40 AM6 votes

Wait.. Freevageeter... Free... Vag.... Eater? That does not sound like a girl's username. Are you sure you're a female?

MrHaZeYo6/7/2018, 7:57:02 AM6 votes

You know what I also though was weird? We tell women to go in the kitchen and make us a sandwich but 80% of cooks making food in restaurants are male.

It sucks you get a lot of sexism but why take it so serious? Tell them to go mow the lawn or something, throw it right back at them.

Men are Superior on average in certain things while Women are superior in other aspects on average, that's just kind of part of life.

DODGEORLOSE6/7/2018, 8:25:51 AM6 votes

my club tag is literally $15BJ and I never get anyone saying anything about it you lucky fuck

Kaioko6/7/2018, 5:41:11 PM5 votes

The only thing that's stupid is that you're drawing attention to the fact that you're a female which has historically been used negatively. I've played this game since 2010 as a female and I've never once had an issue.

Arsinik6/7/2018, 7:20:07 AM5 votes

Yeah I agree I mean I dont think I've ever had a scenario in a league of legends match where I had to specify my gender. So I'm a little confused to how this is a constant for you. If it's really bothering you then mute them.

What you dont know won't hurt you in this case.

Warlord Rhinark6/7/2018, 8:22:51 AM3 votes

I'm pretty sure they DO get the same treatment.

But I'm not sure they get the same prioritization.

breakordoom4446/8/2018, 5:05:33 AM3 votes

also, you are the one who decided to show you clan tag, you need to know that not everyone is "mature" like you.

DontTouchMyBall6/8/2018, 5:38:02 PM2 votes

Whoaa, look at you girl, you're so lucky! I couldnt type in the kitchen, there is no wifi connection there in my house.

[sg-miss-fortune]

Now srsly, LoL players can be a lot of things, but the the amount of scenarios this happens are close to none specially if you're not blatantly admiting to be a girl which no1 should do that either being men or female. I call this playing the victim card.

Galiö6/8/2018, 1:36:47 PM2 votes

Sexism is bad and people are toxic to each other but more so towards women. How do they know you're a female however? Most people are sexist enough to only assume boys play this game (which is another issue). I'd just keep spamming reports if I were you :) lol

DoktorKaiser6/8/2018, 6:15:04 PM2 votes

I have been playing for 7 years and I have never encountered a situation where someone stated their gender, I could have played with hundreds or with none, I wouldn't know. I have seen sexism and racism but never against a specific person. So I will assume that the problem here is you and you alone.

TrulyBland6/7/2018, 7:22:10 AM1 votes

Short version: Scanning for a word is easier than scanning for a phrase.

It's not okay for them to do what they're doing, it's just more difficult to detect than a slur. If somebody gets told to go back to the cotton farms because they are black that's likely also going to go under the radar, despite the N-word being insta-bannable.

dnsup6/8/2018, 10:58:31 PM1 votes

You... you sure about that?

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Just got out of a 7th month relationship with a 23 year old. Had our own place together, she had a kid which I went out of my way to try to make best with, teaching her the rights and wrongs, etc. Taken, this is the first time I've really dated to this degree, with me living with her, paying our own bills, etc. It's always been "I live with my mom and can visit her 2 times a week", so me being around her with her kid ALL THE TIME just really made things a ton worse. I think the bigger reason why I'm so torn about this, is because how attached I became with the kid, and how attached she was with me. Growing up fatherless, I just know how hard it is, which is the bigger reason why I took action in the relationship to begin with.

I don't know man, I seriously don't get what I did wrong here. Maybe I was just too nice? I honestly couldn't tell you, and I'm not one of those "I refuse to believe that I was the issue". I just need advice is all.

breakordoom4446/8/2018, 5:04:30 AM1 votes

hi /muteall

Lincoln Hawk 6/8/2018, 9:27:21 AM1 votes

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Being a female, I get told to do this and that in the kitchen, as well as being told that men are the superior gender daily when I play this game. Now, explain to me how that's any less sensitive than calling someone the N word? The way I see it, I can't fucking say the damn word AT ALL even though I wasn't directing it at anyone at all, just using it as a means of explaining how toxic someone was being. It's a "you say the word at all, regardless of the circumstances, you're just banned on the spot". But it's ok for men to deliberately belittle me because of my gender? How is that any different? I don't see players getting instantly fucking flagged for demeaning me because I was "unlucky at my birth". I report these type of players constantly, I look at their fucking profiles, and they're still playing 3 days later. I even go the extra damn mile and send a support ticket, but that shouldn't even be necessary at all. They should get the same treatment as the N and F-Bomb's.

But who am I kidding, I'm just a stupid ass female who's only good for a piece of ass and a home cooked meal. Silly me.

I call B.S. ..

Jamaree6/7/2018, 7:24:28 AM1 votes

Not saying it is ok, but that is gonna be a thing that happens for a while. Some guys are just assholes, mute, report, move on.

dnsup6/8/2018, 9:35:38 PM1 votes

I find it really, really... _weird _? that you framed all of this in the perspective of "sexism vs. racism." Frankly, it's the kind of thing that certain people (on certain internationally-distributed shows, on certain network news channels) say when they want to defend something they've said that is racist.

In particular, I'm wondering about this part:

explain to me how that's any less sensitive than calling someone the N word? The way I see it, I can't fucking say the damn word AT ALL

It's a "you say the word at all, regardless of the circumstances, you're just banned on the spot". But it's ok for men to deliberately belittle me because of my gender?

Are you here because you got banned over something you said?