Ban me or teach me not to be toxic.

Radio 4Head·12/14/2015, 5:12:42 PM·4 votes·1,517 views

I can't help it sometimes. My most recent match http://matchhistory.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/#match-details/NA1/2037946901/49650117 is a perfect example of when I want to be super toxic and tell people nasty things that I wouldn't normally say. Someone help me not be toxic? Its not as easy as people say. I've tried muting everyone, I've tried being polite, I've tried turning off ping sound, I've tried turning off all chat, I've tried everything I can think of. I'm gonna go crazy one of these days and get myself banned unless I get some help. Its bad.

I appreciate all the positive feedback guys! I'll keep most of these suggestions in mind! Thank you all for helping,

-Kinda toxic league player.

30 Comments

Hunts and Dips12/14/2015, 5:22:09 PM3 votes

Nobody can "teach" you how to not be toxic. It comes from within. It's about self control and being a mature, respectful human being.

How about instead of becoming a keyboard crusader and typing to your team mates, try these methods:

Scream into a pillow.
Yell out loud.
Tell off your pet chinchilla.
Punch a hole in a piece of Styrofoam.
Pop some bubble wrap.
Stab a watermelon.
Call a random phone number and rage at them.
Pretty much do anything but type because that will make you lose your account.

I could go on and on about ways to deal with your stress, but if you want to not be stress at all then that comes from within yourself.

You have to remember that league is just a game, it might be competitive but you are ultimately playing for enjoyment. Try playing some arams or Legend of the Poro King and try to have fun with it.

Zielmann12/14/2015, 5:25:13 PM2 votes

If using chat is your problem, then don't use it.

That's really about all I can give you, cause it sounds like you've tried a lot of the common solutions to help with this. If you're still having trouble with that, that's a matter of self-control, and there's no magical solution for learning that.

It's a good sign that you're here and asking now, instead of waiting for your permaban to then come and complain and ask why you were banned. You're a step up on most of the problem players, really. And I think you know what you need to do (or rather, not do). It's just a matter of holding yourself to that.

Maximum Morde12/14/2015, 5:28:51 PM2 votes

Step one is to stop using Xx in your names. Other things that are off limits include but are not limited to yolo, swag, 420, 360, noscopes, and any form of leet speak. This simple step is guaranteed to reduce your toxicity by at least 15%.

Barkhoof12/14/2015, 5:36:45 PM2 votes

Inherently, why are you typing toxic stuff? I mean that honestly - is it to tell off other people? Relieve aggression? Are you trying to show people the error of their ways? Do you want people to know that they have done bad and that they should feel bad?

You need to answer that question and come up with something to cope. If it's aggression or to tell someone off, take it out on an enemy (via gameplay, not typing out toxic stuff, that defeats the purpose) or say it out loud instead of typing. The minute you feel angry towards someone, mute them so they can't fuel the fire. Sometimes people don't listen but if you make your calls firmly but without insults it has a better chance of succeeding (IE: "Dragon. Now." as opposed to "Trist, dragon. Stop farming idiot"). If you want to emphasize to someone that they've done bad, just say it out loud. They probably know they screwed up.

Another thing I've found eases tension slightly is humility. "Sorry, I screwed up" goes a long way. Someone pokes fun at you for saying that? Mute them. You don't have to win pissing matches over the internet; like you said, if you're focused on getting better, make sure that you don't give them any reason to thing you aren't the best player ever.

Skadeglädje12/14/2015, 5:54:29 PM2 votes

Your title raises a good point. Riot puts a lot of effort into prohibiting negative behavior and rewarding reform/positive behavior. But so far I have seen very little in terms of resources and support to players trying to change their behavior. This isn't as trivial as "just don't type in chat" or "take responsibility".

(I still think Riot is miles ahead of the competition in this regard, just pointing out where they need to go next.)

As to your problem - some other forumers pointed out that you need to find out why you show negative behavior. There are tons of possible reasons and it's very difficult to offer sound advice without starting at the root. Perhaps you could try to think about a few things:

What's the situation preceding you going off on a rant/start flaming/trolling/some other negative behavior? Examples could be that you feel that someone is rude to you in chat or that a player on your team makes a bad play.
What do you feel in that short moment between situation and response? That short window where you have been frustrated but not yet started flaming etc.

Ruin Lance12/14/2015, 6:07:57 PM2 votes

here are a few ways to stop yourself from being toxic in game

if your teammates are raging at you, you can either • acknowledge your mistakes if it's your fault • if it's not your fault, respond with something like ":^)" or "same"
if the enemy killed you and • if they told you that they outplayed you or they suck, respond with something underwhelming like "ok". this isn't the response that they want you to give, and will probably stop being toxic or stop saying things after that. • if you're mad you got killed in a bs way or whatever then a way of calming yourself down is just thinking of the ":^)" face. this can calm you down at any time and not just when you get killed in a bs way.
if your teammates are feeding tell them to play safe and let the enemy push so a jungler can gank or another lane can roam.

that's all i can tell you because sometimes im toxic but i've avoided being toxic by doing these things. also if you think this is a joke it's not just try it

shyv12/14/2015, 8:44:31 PM2 votes

Not really sure why this is being downvoted when this guy is here putting effort into becoming a better player.

I'm in the same position. I just got off ban and I also have really bad self control when it comes to these things, not being an asshole on league is not as easy as everyone says.

My advice? Pretend the threat of permaban is hanging over you like it is for me. I know that if I fuck up my account is going to get taken away forever. It's possible for you. Most of the time they do a 2 week ban as a warning, but if you're incredibly toxic, they can permaban you right away. If thinking about your account getting deleted doesn't make you want to be a better league player then I don't know what will.

You don't have to care about their feelings. You don't have to be nice. You just have to shut up every once in a while. That's all I'm doing.

Awkward Couch12/14/2015, 7:06:29 PM1 votes

A couple things that I have found that help me:

Play with friends, especially those who are better than you
At the first sign of people being toxic, mute them
Record your replays, be critical of yourself, you are the only player you control in this game.
We all have bad games, just shake it off and play the next one. One bad game will not tank your MMR.
If there is someone trolling in champ select, dodge. The first dodge is a 5 min wait and a loss of 3 LP. That's a lot better than a 35 min game where you are raging the entire time and you lose 25 LP.
If you feel yourself getting salty, take a break. Chances are, you don't want to que up with the people you just played with, if you take a break you will not be qued with them again. And if you take a break you can cool off for a bit, you'll come back ready to play better.
If the above strat doesn't work, just stop playing for the day. Playing while angry is only going to get you into trouble. Come back the next day and play again. You will have a clearer head and hopefully you can play better.

That last one helped me a lot. After I started doing the things I mentioned above, I climbed from Bronze 4 to Silver 4 in 2.5 weeks. I hope this helps. Best of luck to you on the Rift!