How do you deal with it?

tad·May 31, 2018·1 votes·2,074 views

How do you deal with your own toxicity? I've been struggling with this myself lately. It takes me awhile to build the patience for the players I get queued up and I noticed that I'm doing good for a little bit then I end up relapsing, reverting to being toxic towards to players who pulls stupid stunts or plays. What really triggers me the most is when people literally start pinning down the blame on me when they are clearly at fault. So it brings me to this question: How do you deal with it? I want to take these things that helps you out and try to apply that to myself. I want to get better for myself and for the community I play with.

tl;dr: How do you deal with your own toxicity and improve yourself?

7 Comments

Umbral RegentMay 31, 20182 votes

Well, the best way I find for dealing with my own rage and vitriol is primarily to put it towards better ends than what first come to mind. For example, I could get pissed and lash out at my jungler for completely ignoring my lane and letting me get beat down to a 0/4/0 KDA, or instead I could use that anger to fuel an effort to bounce back. Take a few jungle camps, farm as much as I can, avoid fights, let it simmer until I get the opportunity to really let it out and reclaim a spot of relevance in the match.

Sometimes that anger can be channelled a little more directly, like, having a particular disdain for the one AP Champion on the enemy team who's actively becoming a threat, so you turn that anger into slight tunnel vision and focus him out first and foremost.

Remember; anger is natural, and, while it can't be completely controlled or held down, you can at least redirect it to something good.

Alternatively, if I find myself unable to readily redirect my anger, I just try to calm myself down in some small ways. Shouting, practicing breathing exercises, slamming the table, etc. - anything I can think of to vent it out and help me regain focus.

tadJun 1, 20181 votes

I tried the muting option, it doesn't work as well as I would hope it would be because I rely heavily on communication with the team. If it gets really bad then yeah, I'll end up muting them or using the /muteall command.

Take a few jungle camps, farm as much as I can, avoid fights, let it simmer until I get the opportunity to really let it out and reclaim a spot of relevance in the match.

This is something I do pretty often, even as a top laner or a jungler, but people always threatened to report me for the following reasons: Intentionally throwing/griefing, AFK (Farming), or negative behavior for "giving up", or proceed to talk shit to me post-game chats. Sure I report them as well, but it just doesn't feel justified to me.

If I want to vent out my anger I just go watch Netflix. I watched so many series out of anger and bitterness towards to the game...

ChooyoglowyJun 2, 20181 votes

See. the problem is that trying doesnt matter. Trying to play safe doesnt matter when your entire team simply wants to fight despite an obvious gold deficit. When they want to play street fighter 8 with their lane opponents and keep dying, when they have an innate desire to rush into 4v5s then blame you for not being there, when they just care more about ruining your fun than having any meaningful experience of their own. It. Doesn't. Matter.

I recently got chat restricted in a game where people have told me to kill myself and called me retarded, saying I gave up because I just tried to farm peacefully and at one point I just lost it and got mad at the fact that my support hadn't been near my lane for half the game, and that the entire team obviously, on purpose refused to ever peel for me. I didn't flame anyone, I just got mad that my team clearly doesn't want ME to succeed and would rather lose the game and blame me for it than win it with me.

LeivveJun 1, 20182 votes

When I was younger I had anger problems, because I didn't know how to properly handle my emotions. Now though I know that getting worked up over. I just go full asshole and consider the toxic players beneath me, and the as a mighty lion the woes of the pathetic sheep don't mean anything to me.

Also focusing on playing well, will mean that your teammates that recognize you aren't "useless trash," will stand by you when the ADC decides to flame you again for not peeling when they flashed forward to initiate the fight.

The Nocturne GodMay 31, 20181 votes

Realized it doesn't help. If my team mates are bad they are going to continue to be bad no matter what I say. Better to just take the loss and not lose account or rewards, so I just mute people.

tadJun 1, 20181 votes

Muting people doesn't feel worth it to me, esp when I heavily rely on communication. I've turned many games around solely on communication itself, so I'm conflicted about it.

Lost RJun 2, 20181 votes

It helps that in real life, I once said something to someone so horrific that it instantly and utterly destroyed them in body, mind and spirit. They retaliated by trying to choke me to death while screaming at the top of their lungs, and then smashed my head into a dumpster. I don't have any feeling in my forehead anymore.

Now I don't say so much as a "hi" to anyone without it going through the most extreme censorship and editing.