Questions about community standards

There have been on many occasions players will make bad decisions and instantly turn on me (or another player), saying 'why didn't you help', or 'you suck', because I (or someone else) decided not to run in and die with them. I understand the game is competitive, however, is it not considered 'flaming' to blame other players? It's a common tactic by players I've seen in league very specifically, to instantly turn on their teammates in order to, what i can only assume, is make themselves feel better about their bad decisions. In a most recent aspect, the tendency to blame another human for ones own actions is little more than egotistical narcissism, is it not? Where are the lines drawn on this? How far does someone need to go before they're crossing this imaginary 'line' for 'flaming'? What, if any, are the guidelines we can follow or steps we can take to avoid players like this and make this community better? I want to enjoy this game more, and though it's an ancient game by this point, there is some soundly great enjoyment for making fun out of this somewhat aged game. The code itself is decidedly trash compacted together, and there are so many imbalances because of the sheer amount of things in the game, (items, champs, strange ability interactions, etc.), though when I'm playing with teammates that enjoy the teamwork and comradery that comes with playing a team game, even the silly bugs and imbalances become little more than an annoying fly to the wonderful mechanics brought forth by working together as a team to just simply ENJOY PLAYING THE GAME. There is a lot to be said for how terribly childish and narcissistic this community seems to be, not as a whole, but there are more than a few to be sure. I would enjoy some insights into how and what Riot is doing to actively engage in creating a better community beyond the 'honor' system, which even if a high level honor player can falter sometimes by typing a 'key' word or whatever other mysterious nonsense happens to cause someone to lose all that built up 'honor', leaving I'm sure, quite a few dumbfounded individuals pondering what preposterous thing they could've done to incur the wrath of the ban hammer and/or chat restrictions. I'm asking this, because I see people often asking about how the ban system works and how the interactions of Riot Games to player are seemingly dismal at best. I would welcome an honest, and wholesome community that engaged positively and with some humility that I often get from other high end competitive games (like starcraft), not that other games aren't without their 'bad eggs', but league seems to be notorious for its, for lack of a better word "toxicity". Where do others stand on this topic, and what, if any, have you encountered while playing/interacting with others, and what have you done that has helped improve your overall enjoyment of the game. I for one, have /all chat turned off permanently because there's no reason for me to see the other team talking ever. This has helped me tremendously, it also prevents me from engaging 'trolls' and their ilk. However, this has done nothing for the tremendous amounts of mean spirited players that I get paired with that really remove my enjoyment of the game. I have taken to clicking mute whenever an interaction bothers me in a negative manner, and this has changed so much for me, but I don't want to resort to that, and I would love to hear about how others are promoting good behavior from their teammates and what you've done to help make things better for each other while playing. I enjoy being a leader, and I love helping others improve and play better as a whole, there is something to be said for when you're having a rough game, battening down the hatches and helping guide your teammates to a comeback and win. So the more ammunition I have in my arsenal to improve as a player myself, and help others improve, would make this game so much fun all the time, even in bleak terribly one sided games, I have had moments where my teammates just played to enjoy the game and try to win all the same. <3 Make League Great Again (^^)/