This is one of my pet peeves, but I think it will help people keep perspective
One of the things that rustles my jimmies is when people try to take the moral high ground and then proceed to use it as a blunt force object to the feels whether it be something pressing like social issues or mundane things with internet behavior. A common tactic in this language is to put the sentence into subjunctive mood or similar phrasing. Examples:
I shouldn't need to... Why do I have to... You've forced me to... I should be able to...
I personally don't like the phrasing because it's wordy, but it also implies that the speaker has no agency; it's all on someone else. My tip is, whenever you type something or say something, remove the "should have"s and the "have to"s and the like and see how it changes the meaning of the sentence. For example:
"I should be able to convince my teammates that we should surrender without immediately being reported."
When you take out that "should be": "I can convince my teammates that we should surrender without immediately being reported."
That statement is fine, but why would you say that unless the situation was contradicting that statement? So you are able to in general, but for some reason can't this game. If you can't do it, then there's no point in fretting over it; just move on. However, if you simply haven't but still want to keep trying, then perhaps the reason is the way you have gone about convincing. Change that method, and your chance of success will surely rise.
This is why I try to be mindful of these kinds of statements. If I say the above example, that means I have implied that I normally function fine but some system of group of people is keeping me from having the desired outcome i.e. it's not my fault, it's theirs.
This is my personal technique to remaining level headed. It probably won't work for everyone since not everyone values their agency equally, but I'm hoping this will help someone who sometimes feels angry or drowning with no control over their games or arguments.