Defining Toxicity

How do you define toxicity?

Depending on who you ask, this can have very different answers.

My personal view of toxicity, is the kind of person who ping spams, feeds, orders the rest of the team around, tries to surrender at the first sign of resistance, or goes afk because they didn't get the role they wanted.

To most people I've asked, they agree to this, and usually add their own complaints to the list.

But, it seems, there are people who seem to have a very different definition.

locked in and called mid. Alright. Waited a bit, then pointed out they still had smite active (exact words: "uh hey you still have smite on"). They said they know and changed it, then said "next time stfu."

I asked them if it would have been better if I had said nothing and they had forgotten. They then said "stop being toxic or ill report you."

(unrelated, mostly anyway, one of the other players started spamming TOXIC in the chat.. dunno if he was calling me toxic or what)

Righhhttt.. Anyway, cut into the game and he's struggling really bad in mid. He fed the enemy mid a lot, and couldn't hold him back alone. Bot was doing fine, so I told my ADC I was going to go up mid to support him.

Once up there, he started ordering me around like a servant constantly pinging me and telling me to place wards in places I had already placed. I said "Focus" because there were 2 midlaners now since I helped him push back the one, and he was standing under the turret typing orders that I was either already doing or couldn't do (no I can't place another ward again I just placed one).

He.

Flipped.

Out.

He typed in caps "DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO PLS" and then left me in 2v1 mid to go top because I was "ordering him around." And then tried to surrender (all other votes were no) because "we can't win." To be fair, was pretty big thanks to his feeding, and if he catches me off guard I was almost certainly dead, but he wasn't oneshotting anyone but , and the rest of his team crumbled easily.

Meanwhile, bot is suffering due to my absence, but I cant leave or we'll lose the tower.

Thank god the jungler took over mid for me and I teleport back to bot and help ADC take the towers. We won, and I forgot to report that twisted jerk, but his.. interesting version of toxicity stuck with me. He was probably a kid but that's no excuse.

Is my version of toxicity not standard or what? If I'm being toxic I actually want to know because if I am I need to know so I dont get banned or something.