What's the point of being positive?

Nightmarekiller6·Apr 4, 2018·0 votes·1,036 views

Honest question, why bother being polite or saying things like "gg" when all you're met with are things like "ez" "lol noob." and the general consonances that if you mess up then your entire team pretty much labels you as nothing more than a bronze idiot who's better off just shutting the game off over and over and over again.

Honestly I've lost the point of caring what I say, I only focus on winning and have lost the drive to even say gg or compliment the good work from team members. Gotten so bad that I rightfully got a temporary chat restriction in place. That said I just don't understand why people want to have fun or stay positive anymore, even in normals I just don't feel like having fun, all I want is to win at almost any cost (Not to the point of cheating mind you) and I just see that being harsh, showing the ugly side, it just makes things feel a lot easier.

12 Comments

REDfohawkApr 4, 20183 votes

You need to just play with friends if that's what you're looking for. While I agree with you that the attitude of a lot of players in solo que suck, you have to realize that pretty much translates to any online competitive game. If it bugs you enough that it interferes with your performance, just mute all as soon as the flame starts.

Nightmarekiller6Apr 4, 2018

I understand that, but at the same time I just don't know what else I can do besides muting every single person but the in game taunts, the constant idea that you have to prove yourself I'm just not sure how most can handle still being positive even with friends. It just kind of gets to you after a while you know.

Kei143Apr 4, 20183 votes

Being positive accelerates your honors progression and keeps the team morale up, so you can get people out of tilt more. It can lead to winning more games when your tilted teammate is making better decisions.

Being neutral (gl hf & gg included) is slow progress to honors progression and leaves your team mates hanging when they tilt.

Being negative kills your honors progress, tilts your teammates even more, sets you up for behavioral punishment.

Keep in mind being positive is not just "gl hf" and saying "gg" at the end. Being positive is about uplifting others, giving advice and protection when they can't. GL HF and GG are just neutral comments that doesn't do anything.

BloopyLadApr 4, 20182 votes

Remember that it is a "game" Games are supposed to be fun If a game isn't fun - then it shouldn't be played - Something that makes you feel worse even when it's supposed to cheer you up clearly isn't working Take a break - try something else Come back and approach with a viewpoint of having fun and try to see the funny side in things going wrong - Ranked doesn't help with this - normals are good because nothing matters

Nightmarekiller6Apr 4, 2018

I suppose that's true enough, maybe a break is what I need at this point. Regardless of it's ranked or normal the taunts, the negativity, all of it just gets to me. And I'm not saying that people should be always negative or always blaming others, I understand that the need to be positive is what drives people...it just sucks that something that's suppose to be fun and enjoyable can all of a sudden turn you into the worst kind of person.

BloopyLadApr 4, 20181 votes

I understand your point - Stuff like "ez" or "noob" aren't exactly insulting but it still gets to you when you just lost a close game or maybe you died once and that decided the result - I took a break for a week - just didn't enjoy getting annoyed every game - you miss it a bit and realise that it doesn't matter and you come back with a positive viewpoint and stuff like "gg ez" just passes over - If it really gets you then there is always /mute all You'll always get people like this - some mean it as a joke and others do it purposely to annoy others - Rise to a level where you can just ignore stuff like this and focus on having fun Try some weird builds or non-meta champs - Friends can help with this cause you can get away with whatever since you won't get reported I tried full crit Ivern mid once - It was terrible but hilarious - It was just funny to even get a kill - knowing an opponent just died to an Ivern with IE Different ways help different people - you just have to find yours :D

NocturnalSheildApr 4, 20182 votes

Im nice 100% and i rarely get toxicty.

I dont think ive had a personal attack in over 200 games.

All i do is never use chat and only use pings and i find my games quite chill.

I give players 1 chance the second they go "bot lane cs better" they get insta muted and i dont tell them.

My games are extremely quiet and stress free.

MíelláApr 4, 20181 votes

There is a point of being positive. Not always to your teammates. Nor to the enemy. In my opinion, there are 2 extemes that you'll meet or probably have met already. The obnoxius positive people, that tilt you even more with naive thoughts. And there are the toxic scrubs, that flame people because of their radical believes. You should always stay in the middle of those extremes and balance it out. Be toxic, but not to toxic and be friendly but not to friendly. I'd actually recommend being more often on the toxic spectrum, as trashtalking is fun.

If you ever see a toxic player or a player that is just annoying, mute them, do what you think is good (not flaming) and go on. If you have no fun playing the game anymore, take a break or play with friends. Playing with friends is the most chill part of league of legends, if it isn't ranked.

MíelláApr 4, 20181 votes

as trashtalking is fun.

But please, only to the enemy. You sure want to win, don't ya?

P3rspectiveApr 4, 20181 votes

I find that, in situations like this, it's best not to say anything, and completely ignore the people that chat like this. I personally haven't played league in well over a couple months myself, for personal reasons(one of which being just how boring I find the game anymore, even if I win most of my games, I just don't find it fun), but I would recommend taking a break from league, assessing the situation at hand, and find some more relaxing games to play in your spare time, perhaps pick up a new hobby, anything to help put your mind at ease.

Hope this helps OP [slayer-jinx-catface]

YuuMewJan 19, 20201 votes

there's two side of the issue : -first you can be positive to the enemy team, and this has no other benefit that not being a douchebag. -then there's being positive to your team, and that has lots of benefits including but not limited to :

helping them climb back up from their toxic pit of despair, so they can in turn win the game.
help them feel confident in themselves.
make them feel apreciated, which can do a lot in a team game for someone who don't usually get this kind of attention.
persuade them to hold on to their lane and play safe, so the rest of the team can win the game (just did that in game recently)
and just generally being a wholesome human being ^^

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