Try mentally preparing yourself before you queue in. Make sure your expectations are realistic, understand and accept your team may have feeders/trolls/whatever. Try to have goals that don't depend on winning or losing, so you can practice specific skills and feel that youv'e gotten something out of even a totally failed game.
Remind yourself that your actions will effect how other people play, and behave accordingly, but also that you cannot control the actions of others, or force them to do what you want.
If you find yourself getting emotional, don't talk, even if you feel you have something useful to say. When you are getting ready to type something in, stop, and ask yourself if your comment is 1) game oriented rather than something against a specific player and 2) phrased in a neutral way, rather than something that will make a person defensive.
You want to focus on the outcome of the actions and words you use, rather than the emotions behind them. What will this accomplish?