"Just don't be toxic "

scazzman·7/18/2017, 7:58:38 PM·3 votes·674 views

all too often i see this response when people come on the boards trying to stop getting chat restricted/banned gee, if people could just "not be toxic" THEY WOULDNT BE HAVING THIS PROBLEM

people fail to realize that "toxic players" struggle with real issues that make them prone to negative chat including

frustration with trolls/unskilled players
mental health disorders/anger management issues
being in an age demographic where it was still socially acceptable to retaliate against a bully
legitimately feeling like they "shouldnt have to" control their chat

please keep this in mind when telling people "just dont be toxic"

29 Comments

Drugoth7/18/2017, 8:06:22 PM5 votes

There is literally no excuse in the world that is acceptable for being toxic in this game.

When I was in high school, I was a highly volatile person and got into fights on a weekly basis. I was suspended for pretty much half of grade 12. I even threatened to kill a teacher. I'm lucky I didn't land in jail ffs.

Now, years later, I've been playing league since Season 2. I have never received a punishment in this game for toxic behavior, not even a chat restriction.

If I can change that much then it's not out of the question for a toxic player in league to be repentant for his behavior and learn from his past mistakes. It's never acceptable at any age to retaliate at a bully.

No matter what kind of shit gets thrown at you, it is never an excuse for losing your cool. Try to be the bigger person.

Stop giving excuses and start behaving!

CrazFight 7/18/2017, 8:01:20 PM2 votes

1: If they have mental disorders like anger management issues i don't think this changes anything - if they are toxic they should be banned 2: We all have frustration with trolls , doesn't mean we are all toxic 3: Age demographics? Both young and old people are toxic, not just one group. I'm not sure what your getting at here 4: I don't understand your 4th point

ModPeriscope7/18/2017, 8:11:55 PM1 votes

So, maybe offer advice to not being toxic?

This Is Your Dad7/19/2017, 2:40:52 AM1 votes

I'm still a bit of a jack ass but when I was a teenager I thought the way I was doing things was fine. I didn't listen to criticism at all and took offense to everything, and I lacked empathy. I was easy to anger and let my mental illness control me. After I stopped talking to people and sat in my room for days and days thinking, I reached the conclusion that I didn't like being that way. I changed myself, allowed myself to accept people that wanted to be accepted. I still have a ways to go, but I think caring about people is important and you don't have to be a carebear to do it.

General Esdeath 7/19/2017, 7:06:30 PM1 votes

OP is the kind of guy who wants everyone to wear a blindfold so their blind friend can play

HalcyonDweller7/19/2017, 7:23:20 PM1 votes

Correct me if I'm wrong but you're essentially asking people to be helpful, rather than say, "Don't be toxic."

For example by offering suggestions on ways to better handle a temper or avoid tilt?

jimboman7/19/2017, 9:30:26 PM1 votes

Yea, your excuses are kind of invalid. There is no excuse for toxic behavior, YOU are responsible for YOUR actions. You may ask, "What do toxic people need?" Got 4 words. Self. Control. Self. Discipline.

I'm done here.

Kaioko7/20/2017, 8:11:51 PM1 votes

There's a difference between answering the question: "How can I not be banned" vs. "How can I stop being toxic"

Person A sees the issue on Riot's hands and like they've done nothing wrong; while person B acknowledges their mistakes and seeks to improve themselves. Most people on this board will give constructive feedback to person B.

Simbafluff7/20/2017, 11:50:45 PM1 votes

I think most people who offer "just don't be toxic" as an advice because to us, there's no more simple ways to offer an advice for avoiding punishment. Having a legitimate mental illness issue is one thing, since it is an **actual ** sickness. However, for the majority of the people who have been restricted/banned, I daresay it's more of a matter of lack of self discipline.

There are already many other posts on the board where people tangible actions/advice to take to help the issue of individual toxicity, but for the most part they're all advice on how to manage one's emotions and self control - "don't be toxic".

420 grams7/18/2017, 8:08:39 PM1 votes

I think you're looking too much into it and trying to complicate a simple issue.

It doesn't matter what your team is doing, you just have to play the game. You don't have to bitch and complain in chat about how youre losing because of him, or because x champion is stupid, etc. You can just mute everybody and focus on game play.