My friend is toxic... how do I help him?

W01fedin·8/5/2018, 2:07:29 PM·11 votes·7,904 views

Hey there,I have a friend that I have been playing with for a long time now, but he’s getting more and more toxic. Every time I mess up a gank, he flames me. Every time he dies he blames me. He told me I was a trash Jungler, when I was just having a bad losing streak. He just gets mad at everyone and sometimes ends up afk-ing. Sometimes he ticks me off so much I sometimes want to type bad things back to him, but I don’t want to be banned. He has gotten perma banned twice.

How should I help him improve and be less toxic?

46 Comments

Míellá8/5/2018, 2:13:21 PM15 votes

If he ain't a real life friend and doesn't plan on changing, fuck him.

Ahpe8/5/2018, 2:14:36 PM11 votes

Abusive relationship.

Threaten to leave his ass and if he continues, leave.

Magi Mayvin8/5/2018, 2:15:23 PM2 votes

click the remove friend button, he's an idiot

TheEvilQueen1358/5/2018, 2:37:01 PM2 votes

i was once bullied in game by a irl friend and let me tell you it was not worth it. if he doesn't care how he's making you feel then he's not being a real friend. sadly until he learns that his toxic attitude is only causing harm he probably won't change.

StingyDingus8/9/2018, 8:47:23 PM2 votes

Oh my god, I never thought I'd see you on the Forums lol. And I know who you're talking about. Unfortunately, I don't really have much to say, considering he's very young which could easily influence his behavior and emotions, along with the fact that he's very aware of his toxicity and doesn't have any intention of changing his behavior.

TheKingOfBiches8/5/2018, 4:38:47 PM2 votes

Not really fair to change him,he can be whatever he wants to be,if he likes flaming then who are you to tell him how he should behave? Not really your business.you can unfriend him,but if he doesn't want to change then just leave him alone.

W01fedin8/5/2018, 3:02:58 PM2 votes

Thank you for your support guys.... I really hope he changes. He might not but I hope he realizes how toxic he’s being over a game.

GigglesO8/5/2018, 10:17:57 PM1 votes

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How should I help him improve and be less toxic?

Report him in game, when he gets hit with that 14 day maybe he will cool his jets.

Light Burner8/5/2018, 10:51:43 PM1 votes

Stop playing with him and when you happen to play with him for whatever reason just report him when hes toxic. He can learn his lesson the hard way

Skins Project8/6/2018, 2:50:04 AM1 votes

Throw a match at him every time he flames, let him knnow how it feels

Brown Man Darius8/6/2018, 5:21:10 PM1 votes

Honestly if he flames you like and he is an irl friend you should warn him to not do that because you will stop being his friend and if keeps doing it and clearly doesnt care how you feel just block him from league from evey social media site dont talk to him and forget about him. Until he realizes what he has done and how he affects other people just forget that he existed he is an idiot. I had experienced the same thing and i blocked him and im all good now.

Telephone Booth8/7/2018, 4:40:20 AM1 votes

Stop playing with him. Of course I'm assuming you've told him he turns into a child when he's gaming? He has to know why you stopped playing with him, so if it's unclear, make sure he knows that he just ruins any semblance of fun with his rage. Gaming with friends is supposed to be fun, so just tell him nah man it's just not fun playing with someone who's just raging mad half the time.

Godhri8/7/2018, 4:53:00 AM1 votes

Talk to him when you two aren't in a game about his raging. Tell him what's not okay with you that he's done and have him agree to a keyword that you say when he gets toxic. If he hears the keyword, he has to clam down and shut himself up. If he refuses, nothing you can do. You can't force someone to change. That decision has to come from him.

Best Vi Earth8/7/2018, 12:02:46 PM1 votes

easy just get in discord with him. then you can yell at him all you want. also most people wont flame in voice chat for whatever reason guess its more personal .

BIFF8/9/2018, 8:52:53 PM1 votes

You stop playing with him.

I was super toxic and when all my friends stopped playing with me it hit home.

Trust me logging in and seeing everyone in a game and rejecting that request to join with

" bro your attitude is no fun to play with."

It sucks. He will get mad for sure. But after a while it will sink in. Now when i play with someone who was like me i cant stand it because they were right it ruins the game.

Your not helping anyone by enabling it. He needs to hear it and you probably need to hear yourself say it to him.

If he changes great reset the relationship if not play without him.

For me... I still buy my duo friends apology skins at the end of every season. Because I remember how Toxic I was.

Kei1438/5/2018, 2:38:08 PM1 votes

Sit down with him and identify why he is toxic and getting more toxic.

Is the end of the season coming close and he is trying to hit his season goals and thinks that every win counts? Let him understand that seasonal goals are a long term goal and if he is good enough, he'll climb to his desired goals. However, if he is struggling to get to his goals and relying on luck, then that is not the true definition of being there.

Does he just want to win every game? Riot matchmaking gives both teams equal chances to win based on the current MMR (not to be confused with true MMR) of the players in game. So let him know that the expectation to win every game is unrealistic.

Let him know that it's a video game, and you are there to have fun. It's OK to mess up things mechanically, even pros mess that up. If it's outplays, see if you can review the VODs and replays with him and see if you can come to an understanding on why that gank messed up. BTW, laner's positioning matters when it comes to a successful gank. If he doesn't know that or how to execute on it, then I can probably dig up some old videos and on how to do that.

Relavent video from a Pro player & sports psycologist standpoint. 5:00-9:35 is probably where you'd want to listen to, though the whole thing is a pretty good listen as well. https://youtu.be/VBCb4-VNDNk?t=5m

Kelg8/5/2018, 4:19:04 PM1 votes

This is why I don't add people in this game. You can't change these people they are mentally ill.

[sg-lulu]

mohamadsia8/5/2018, 8:25:50 PM1 votes

togother play another game

Simply Tiffany8/5/2018, 8:30:23 PM1 votes

Honestly I tell him how you felt, tell him that he's just being really mean and you would appreciate it if he would stop. I'm honestly in the same relationship with my Duo, I get angry and yell at him and he tells me to calm down and everything is alright, and then I yell at him some more and then he says let's take a breather and talk for a little bit and then I tell him what's going on and then he asked me how can he make it better I tell him you know maybe I would appreciate a gank here and there, Maybe come mid for a little bit and help me out And he does because he's a great friend But I mean we've been friends since high school so we have great Synergy already. But the point is just talk to him.. If he's not a part of your life and he's just some guy you met on League you can still tell him how you feel but if he continues I'd just unfriend, but I mean he's probably toxic for a reason maybe he's going through something in his life, I don't know But that's what I would do

Much love Tiffany

TKM Axe8/5/2018, 9:45:30 PM1 votes

Tell him u wont play with him if he have that kind of attitude?

report yasuo8/5/2018, 9:49:09 PM1 votes

He's prob better than you so get good at the game.