Some Advice for Any Who May Be Easily Tilted/Have a Hard Time Keeping Anger in Check

Umbral Regent·3/30/2017, 5:18:18 AM·6 votes·334 views

So, just to start off, I'm only about 80% sure this is the right place to put this, since the guidelines mention "advice to help players improve moving forward" - so, if I'm wrong in posting this, feel free to report me that I may be directed to the proper board to post this.

Onto the actual body of the post, the title basically says what I endeavor to do; provide some advice on precautions you can take to help kill some of the rage you may get from playing League of Legends. These aren't say-all, end-all, be-all solutions, but they work for me, so I'm hoping they can help others.

1. Mute players who aggravate you or who you think may aggravate you. A lot of the community recommends this, and personally, I seldom need to rely on it, but it provides worlds of help when I do. The obvious is there; while they can still ping-spam the living daylights out of you, you at least won't have to read their toxicity, and you can keep focused on your game. The difficulty is properly judging possible annoyances in the match rather than already seen ones. Though, if you need to, you can also take the community's suggestion and mute everyone as soon as you get into a match.

2. Have someone you can vent with about aggravating situations. Some people may not have the ability to do this, but keeping your cool is a helluva lot easier when you can burn out and explain to someone outside of the game what's getting you riled up. Plus, it helps prevent you from becoming toxic in return, since you're (hopefully) not burning out in chat.

If you know anybody who lives with you that plays League of Legends, or have some sort of group chat/one-on-one call or something, it may be worthwhile to rail on your "bad teammates" to someone outside of the game, rather than to the "bad teammates" themselves. Since, oftentimes, the teammate isn't actually bad, they're just having a bad game, and jumping down their throats about it may make a bad game worse. You'll still probably hate them, but it's much better for the current match to keep your hate outside, and your play inside.

3. If you try to avoid responding most of the time, loosen your grip a little. I'm one of those cases of people who tries their damnedest to avoid talking to other players, only doing it when I'm in a good mood, when I could ask of their help, or when they ask me something that I can feasibly answer. And, while keeping myself shut up does help in most cases, others show holding back to be way more detrimental. Since, for the most part, I try to be either quiet or positive with my teammates, I take some few cases of aggression and bite back.

But, by "bite back", I don't mean "get argumentative". Fighting and biting are two different things, and it's much better for both your history and your temperament to moderate your words; be sarcastic, or in some cases, be tactless and straightforward. In extremely rare cases, I've even been brutally straightforward, getting to the very core of my problem with as few aggressive words as possible. But even then, I'm still subject to failing that moderation, but I still do my best to keep it short and try to avoid fanning the flames.

Short version is; as long as you have a good track record, you should consider maybe taking one rare game every month or so to get snappy.

4. Try to play the game at times when your mood is high. A short, simple, and sweet rule to work by, is to try to get in what games you can while you're in good spirits. If you're having a particularly good day, take a risk and see how two or three League matches go.

5. Try to play the game with set-ups you absolutely love. Even if you're not in a good mood, you can probably put yourself in a good mood by playing one of your favorite Champions. D'you like being nigh-on invincible with CotC Poppy? Do it. Do you like giving into the bloodlust as Warwick Jungle? Go beastmode. Do you want to get big gold and feel great doing it? Go ahead and see if you can't get Draven. The point is; if you can, don't hesitate to play what you love. Enjoying your game might help you ignore how bad your teammates' games are.

6. Failing both of those; take breaks. League of Legends can be excruciating, infuriating, and painful sometimes. You'll get losing streaks, you'll get bad players, and some days, RNJesus will do everything under the sun to ruin your experience. At the first sign you see this happening: Close out the client. If you're gonna have a bad time, walk away. And if you expect that any time you return you're going to get bad matches consistently? Do as I do, and take fairly long breaks often. A couple of days away from the Rift won't hurt, and likelihood is, you can do a lot of stuff to put yourself in a good enough mood to do Option 4.

That's what all I can think of, so just as a TL;DR:

  • Mute potential annoyances/mute everyone.
  • Have a buddy to vent to.
  • If you're a good person, bite back a little, but don't fight, don't be toxic. It's hard, but 85% of the time, you'll be able to do it well enough.
  • Play the game when you're having a good day.
  • Play the game in the most fun way you can.
  • Take breaks during downspells.

I hope (once again) that this is in the right place, and I also hope that this helps anyone out there who have difficulties in League of Legends.

If anyone else has their advice, please feel free to chime in!

4 Comments

Sarutobi3/30/2017, 9:16:20 AM2 votes

While this is nice the main thing is just self controls. Loads of people know all this but still don't actually use any of these because they have pent up anger. And they rather blame other people than actually cooling down!

Chønklord3/30/2017, 11:19:44 AM2 votes

Any advice on how to deal with extremely toxic/griefing/harassing players that think they know it all -- and when you attempt to use logic and reason they brush you off with a completely illogical argument of 'well you're playing X champ gg' or something of the sort?

Like, it completely baffles me how some people are just so ignorant and egotistical.