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please don't say my parents have cancer when they actually do

Justicial·4/4/2017, 12:15:55 PM·105 votes·5,411 views

I'm sorry for using this board as a venting tool, but I literally cannot stop sobbing.

I just lost a ranked game. I think my team thought I was trolling. No, I'm just bad. I can't help it.

I've been trying so hard. I know I'm awful; I can't last hit, I can't take bot tower, I can't escape enemy ults, I can't teamfight, etc.

Please remember that even a less-than-Bronze-5 player like myself has spent about 4 hours a day dragging myself up from Coop vs. AI and Normal Draft ... I may be Bad, but it has taken me so long to get to Just Bad.

Please don't call me a troll. I beg of you. You may have been stuck in Bronze league for awhile. But I just got here. In fact, I'm still provisional.

Also my parents really do have stage 4 terminal cancer. Both of them. My father will die before I marry my sweet (cosplayer fiance) Ezreal from Piltover. He is both my map and my guide. I love him more than anything in the world.

I realize that anything I say will come across as trolling, but how does one express genuine sadness and despair without the assumed sarcasm that accompanies anything in gaming culture? I am crying. My tears are real, but I still hope that you, fellow summoners, could feel my pain without having to wipe the salt tears from my face.

123 Comments

abca984/4/2017, 12:50:36 PM35 votes

I'm sorry about your situation, but asking them to stop won't make them stop. They won't care about your situation no matter how you try to explain it. The only thing you can do is to mute them instantly when they decide to start flaming you. Also mute pings in the menu. And then you report them at the end of the game.

In your situation, you shouldn't be playing ranked. It's something stressful. You shouldn't even play League because of the competitive environment and the disgusting community. If you want to play a game, go for something relaxing instead of online, or find friends to create a premade. But please, don't let them affect you. Excuse my english but i'm not native :P Best wishes.

Oatz4/4/2017, 12:39:55 PM8 votes

My condolences. I'm in the same boat... my grandmother passed away in December from cancer. So it really hits home when someone says shit like that. It really does. Stay strong. :)

Justicial4/4/2017, 2:37:10 PM7 votes

Normal games, while awesome, are not enough. I aim to compete.

The solution is not "uninstall" or "play a different game" or "go practice against bots." Unless of course you mean the April Fool's Day bots :P

Masochist4/4/2017, 2:03:59 PM5 votes

Yeah, like ABCA98, I am sorry about your situation.

Unfortunately, part of the nature of being alive and being human is both being aware of the losses we are going to take, and having to suffer through them.

Death is a natural part of life.

It really, really sucks - but at least once your parents are gone they won't be suffering with their disease any longer.

But yes, asking for a little respect is asking too much. No one really owes you any kind of kindness - though we come to expect it. On the streets, maybe it would be different, I doubt they'd say anything to you.

But I will give you some invaluable words of wisdom - the world is never going to put down its sword - so you're going to need a shield. Or some armor.

The only thing you are responsible for is how you react to the world, not how the rest of the world acts.

Sorry, chief. Just part of growing up.

Åeolus4/4/2017, 12:49:58 PM4 votes

Sorry for that experience :x Not everyone that plays this game is like that. Hope you feel better, I can't imagine what you're going through. Next time you see someone like that it'd be best to mute them and not focus on what they're saying. If you need help on improving feel free to add me and ask any questions.

MUSHROOM MIDGET4/4/2017, 9:18:11 PM3 votes

kids in this game will say whatever they can to try to get to you. you just have to let it bounce off you. remember they are just dumb kids being stupid. im sorry to hear about your parents. my dad has stage 4 cancer too. it sucks.

an excerpt from a recent game kid "i hope your dad gets cancer" me "my dad actually does have cancer" kid "good i hope he dies"

that one made me blink. but it didnt bother me too much. you just have to remember that its just some stupid raging kid who has no idea what he is saying.

P0IS0N IVY4/4/2017, 9:20:23 PM3 votes

There are some comments that should result in an instaban. Cancer comments are one of them. Kill yourself comments are the other.

General Esdeath 4/4/2017, 9:36:35 PM3 votes

Sorry to hear. Also normal draft is a toxic cesspool of people banned from regular ranked

Bonzi774/4/2017, 11:09:06 PM3 votes

Speaking as somebody who is two years out from lymphoma, whenever somebody tells me to get cancer and die, it really does hurt. Cancer is one of the worst things somebody can genuinely wish on someone, because it's completely out of somebody's control when they get it, and almost equally out of their control if they survive it. I'm sorry that somebody said that to you, and I honestly wish it wasn't such a ubiquitous insult on the internet.

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Aglooka4/4/2017, 6:10:38 PM3 votes

I am sorry for you man, almost everyone has lost or is about to lose someone to cancer one day, call me a motherfcker, a dickhead, whatever you want, but wishing cancer is a no go and should be an instant perma ban.

All the best and stay strong,

xWaters4/4/2017, 2:06:45 PM3 votes

No matter how mad I get in ranked, it's just ranked and I've never said anything like that. Cancers not a joke, but I've said before that a champ is cancer. Sorry you had to endure that. Praying for your parents <3

Maximum Morde4/4/2017, 2:08:41 PM3 votes

If this is b8, it's pretty gr8. Else, sorry to hear it, Cancer has so far taken 4 of my family members. You aren't alone.

SteelMankind4/4/2017, 5:26:21 PM3 votes

Sadly, only playing normals isnt good enough. I never play ranked, and frequently have people in my normals telling me to kms.

If you want to continue playing League, you need to /mute all, and maybe even move the chat box offscreen so you can't see line after line of the "?" Ping.

Wráthful4/4/2017, 8:44:31 PM3 votes

Enjoy your family while u can, because u will miss them ALOT :/ I have 4 years to live I have muscle distrophy and it slowly kills me. League is not healthy for anybody with anyones personal drama stay strong friend.

catbirdies4/5/2017, 5:56:07 PM2 votes

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Zexvain4/5/2017, 10:17:50 PM2 votes

We all have our issues, some bigger than others. You just got to remember one thing: who cares what people say? It's just some lonely fuck over the internet who clearly has their own set of problems, so he uses his power to make others feel what he's feeling. That is what "fairness" is to him. You have to realize that the bullies are the ones getting bullied. I've had a few cases where people point out my dad in League, stating that he's a %%%got and what have you, when my dad passed when I was 9, which further diagnosed me with MDD and severe social problems, for I never had a father figure growing up because I didn't live with him. He passed because he drank himself to death. So, yeah, I understand where you're coming from, it really does suck having being told such awful things, but you need to understand that they clearly have their own set of issues as well. The best thing you can do is have some sort of sympathy if you look at it like that. Yeah, they shouldn't be saying that, but it's the most damaged person who causes the most damage. Keep that in mind, as a psychologist, I would know. Keep your head up high man, and take care.

Unload On Me4/5/2017, 12:52:33 AM1 votes

Without being too harsh, this game or any pvp game is not for you. You and your situation are way too sensitive.