Its okay. When someone makes a mistake and you don't hold it against them with your thoughts, words, or actions; it literally frees that player up to do better. When you judge it and hold it against them, it just weighs them down, that's why they usually play worse or continue doing what they are doing.
the two words I like to hear?
"Thanks Dude."
These mean so much to me as a support.
YES. I absolutely LOVE whenever positivity shows up in my matches, even if it is just a simple "Nw" or "Np". It really helps me get back on my game if I've done something stupid that's gotten me killed, or let a low-health target slip out alive.
Calling people out and making them feel bad about their mistakes just makes them play so much worse.. If someone is playing bad maybe nicely tell them what they should try to do or don't say anything at all
I will never directly point out a mistake a teammate makes, though if someone gets caught out I may issue some general advice such as, "we should think about grouping," or asking for more wards. However, when a teammate says, "my bad," "sorry man," or the like, I usually respond with something light-hearted and finish with "nw" (no worries). I do this mostly because, like Trinity stated, I've experienced the other side of this more often than I'd like to admit.
I also praise my teammates' good efforts as well, especially when we coordinate properly. Keeping morale up, even in a losing situation, goes for making the whole experience more enjoyable. That is really what we are all here for anyway, right?
Not sure why you were down voted; usually when players mistake I tell them "hey, you should do this", "you should build that"; unfortunately in especially the lower elos, I give them tips and they say "stfu I know what I'm doing". After that message I simply don't type back to not cause trouble. People usually judge other people in toxic ways to show their emotional stress to make themselves feel better.
As long as your playing the game and giving healthy tips, you should be fine.
Just get out of ranked for a while. Its pretty rare that someone does an about face on me. I will say I kinda know what you mean though because I thought kog was gonna be mad......it was such a pleasant surprise, and it felt so good I made this post.
Those are not words from a teammate. Teammate is also one word.
Sadly, I've come to learn that most of the time it's the people who act nice who end up raging the most, it drives me crazy. "It's okay." "Don't worry." "We got this." -> 10 minute tirade about how I deserve to die and should uninstall the game because I'm the reason for elo hell. It's like they feel entitled to having me play better just because they were nice to me. Sorry, no, I just suck.
I know it isn't everybody that does this, but it happens so damn often that now I just assume anybody saying something nice is lying through their teeth or being sarcastic.
The thing is that, at least in bronze 5, people make the same mistakes over and over again, because they they're doing the right thing. Telling them, "It's okay, not holding it against you, please don't do it again" really doesn't do anything. They'll just keep doing it.
Eg, my support starts taking my farm after I die to a gank. She's afraid that I suck and am useless.
Telling her it's okay isn't gonna fix that situation. Telling her she sucks isn't going to either. I just have to leave the stupid lane and make her feel the consequence.
