I am very concerned for one of my friends which i know through league, he is being harassed IRL

NobleNate888·11/8/2016, 2:21:47 AM·1 votes·409 views

He is being bullied at school and he is very depressed, and I am very concerned for his wellbeing. I have talked with him to try to cheer him up and get him to tell someone that he is being bullied. I have no way to help him other than to talk to him through league. Is there anything I can do?

3 Comments

Variks the Loyal11/8/2016, 2:26:52 AM1 votes

Try to become friends with him on other social media - Facebook, for example.

Through that, see who he knows. You need to tread lightly; he probably wouldn't take it well if you went behind his back to tell someone. After/if you become friends on Facebook, ask him permission to speak to someone on his behalf; his parents, or a school teacher he knows, or one of his IRL friends.

If not, though, just be there. Be a good friend. Some of the best friendships are met online; I met my girlfriend of about 6 years now through WoW, and we're doing great. Had other great friends, too. Just be there, have fun, and above everything, try to talk. Have real conversations. While talking about League is fun (For me it was WoW), you really connect with someone when you have conversations about all sorts of things. Try to broaden yourselves, too, by making more friends. Maybe that jungler you played with was really good and friendly, so you can see if they want to play more with you two. All of these things make people happier and make you happier, too.

Be a good friend. If you can't do anything else, be a good friend. It's no small thing to be a good friend, and it will matter to him.

Yooba11/8/2016, 2:29:38 AM1 votes

I don't understand anything about bullying. Why can't kids just tell their parents about it and let them take care of the issue?

Curious Kat11/8/2016, 2:32:39 AM1 votes

Not really sadly, unless your willing to travel and solve the problem yourself, there really isn't much you can do. He either needs to tell someone like the principal, teachers, parents etc, or he needs to stand up for himself and put a stop to it himself. I know violence is not a good answer, but sometimes, it really is the only answer in rare cases. Definitely keep being there for him to talk to and to comfort, that will always help with the depression part of it.

OR (this is kind of a crappy option) he can try to figure out what the cause is for the bullying, either the way he carries himself, or shyness whatever it be, and try to change it. Obviously if hes being picked on for looks, or something that can't be changed, but if it's just because he looks like an easy target, he can change the way he carries himself to make him seem like not so much of a target. I hate even saying "target" because bullying is so fucked up and just not right... When i was in middle school i got bullied quite frequently by some scrawny sports kid who thought he was the shit, he did it to try to look cool in front of his friends. i noticed i kind of walked with my head down, and was timid, and not really out going or anything since i was out of my comfort zone after moving to a new school.

So what i did was changed my walk, i squared my shoulders and walked with my head high, which kind of encouraged the kid to try to get physical with me so he could prove himself, but once i saw he noticed how much of a disadvantage it was for him due to his size, i turned the tables on him and he just never looked at me funny ever again, in fact, some how we became friends in the long run lmao.

So there are options, some better than others, and what worked in my situation may not work for him, but i figured id'e put it out there.