How have video games influenced your friendships in school?

RiotSherman·2/18/2015, 9:08:48 PM·17 votes·16,746 views

Over the last couple weeks, I have been working on this NACC recap article. It got me thinking a lot about the friendships I developed playing League in college.

College is a strange time in everyones life. It’s essentially a social reset where you’re left to build a whole new group of friends. During the weeks leading up to my first day of school, I started playing League with a friend's friend. Since it was the summer, we played a few times a day and really got to know each other. It was about a week before school started that we realized we were going to be attending the same college and would live in the same dormitory.

I missed the official move in date and showed up a few days late after all the freshman orientation activities, so everyone sort of had a leg up on me. Once I met up with him I was introduced to everyone he had already been hanging out with. We all had a common interest in video games, and it wasn’t long until we all played League together for the first time (had to play in the communal laundry room for the best connection).

The people I met in that first week went on to be my roommates for the next four years. We played in some of the first college tournaments and eventually started a League of Legends club at our school. Even now that we have graduated, we still play League together as much as possible.

**How has League (or other video games) influenced your friendships in school? **

92 Comments

zoze2842/18/2015, 9:22:48 PM38 votes

I had friends then I played League.

PoppenKill2/18/2015, 9:29:15 PM15 votes

I didn't have much friends at my college. I'm a 2nd semester sophomore right now and it wasn't until my Biology class where I was scrolling through Surrender@20 and the league reddit where a girl from the back of the class called my name and asked if i played League. I was a little afraid that she was going to pick on me for playing league but to my surprise she smiled and said ME TOO! after class we talked league for about an hour before we got into the rift together back at our dorms. It turns out that she also had a lot of friends at the same college who play league. Now i have a group of friends that i play LoL actively and skype together. It really has changed my college experience.

Thank you for an amazing game bringing together awesome people. I hope to work for you one day since i am a Computer science major

FinalJonomon2/18/2015, 9:23:42 PM9 votes

Video games have helped me to find people who are my best friends today. They've helped me build and cultivate really strong friendships, and even an ongoing romantic relationship!

Erdöl2/18/2015, 9:48:53 PM5 votes

I had a life then i found this game called league of legends...

Novalas2/18/2015, 10:10:13 PM5 votes

Honestly, I've always been a little shy when talking about video games in real life. That all changed when I came to my college. Someone noticed me browsing the League of Legends subreddit on my laptop and called me out on it. Quickly, I learned that there was an Esports club at the college and I decided to come to a few meetings. At first, it was weird. I'd never been surrounded by so many people who were as in love with games as I was. Not only that but, almost every single one of the people attending the meetings was an avid League player. I quickly fell in love with the idea of the club and started to attend more and more meetings and hung out with all the people there, swiftly making friends.

Now, I'm an officer for the club and help recruit for the club. We've had countless of people join in who were in the same situation as me, not really knowing how to express their love of games in real life. I've made so many friends and it's all because of video games, and specifically League of Legends.

larkinG982/18/2015, 9:42:46 PM4 votes

league is like a social enhacer to me. i'me not much of a talkative person irl but within league i'me a litlle more social by playing with some irl friends and met new ppl around the continent whom ime glad to have met

Max Never Maxine2/18/2015, 9:25:31 PM4 votes

Well... Played a team ranked with four other friends. I did badly. None have spoke to me since. In and out of school.

Update: They created a new ranked team and left me out.

RiotKindlejack2/19/2015, 6:48:45 AM3 votes

When I was in primary school I feel like my friendships were almost based on video game access (because I had none of my own). One friend had a Genesis, one had a 386 PC, another a NES and so on. I would go to their house and make small talk for the polite amount of time before suggesting we play games. They would look at me like they forgot they had a console!

As I said, not having my own console at home I would just cut reviews out of magazines, compile the images, stick them to my walls and pretend I was playing. I really like games is what I'm getting at >:D

Wetewe2/18/2015, 9:51:58 PM3 votes

I´m the only one that plays video games trying to expect the art of them on my school. Video games didn´t help me a lot to make friends but my friends like playing video games only for fun. At least that´s not bad but i can say i prefer see the video games like art. And... I´m the only on my school that plays League...item 3070

Lil NukeeShock2/18/2015, 9:26:28 PM3 votes

I got 1 new BEST FRIEND :D He's the best

IamBojan2/18/2015, 9:39:53 PM3 votes

I have a ton of friends that play League and we can talk about it for hours which just helps us grow our friendship.

Tiramisu22/18/2015, 10:01:17 PM2 votes

Tbh, league and various other games made me realise half the people I considered friends were complete arses, so I basically reevaluated most of my friendships and made some new friends online that I actually relate too.

Rrett2/19/2015, 4:59:47 AM2 votes

I haven't seen a friend in years.

Jungle Lux God2/19/2015, 2:22:44 AM2 votes

Not League of Legends, but my school has a massive Smash community that I play with a lot.

Mirador2/21/2015, 3:29:33 PM2 votes

I never used LOL to make friends in school, but it has served as a great way to keep in touch with my friends now that everyone is married and hanging out in person is a hassle.

Originally when two of my best friends got married we ended up using World of Warcraft on the weekends to keep in touch so that we weren't bothering the wives, but really only one of us enjoyed Warcrack because only one of us had the time to devote to it in order to progress while the other two only played once a week and could never get the gear required to experience any of the higher content.

League of Legends was introduced to us shortly after we all collectively quit using Warcrack following some bad experiences with various guilds and online "friends" who didn't appreciate that we were filthy casuals. Since there is no item grinding or raid farming those of us who only play once a week can still hone our skills in fair fights where we aren't hopelessly under geared for the situation like we always were in WoW arenas. Following this we even added a few new friends to our friends lists with a couple co-workers and even a kid I used to babysit who was now 18 and playing League with us, coordinating on skype (Which was really, really strange at first considering I babysat him when he was 6. Totally makes me feel old every time he's on the team.)

Overall League has been the game of choice for us filthy casuals because it doesn't interfere with the rest of our lives and allows us to keep in touch as well as foster a new enjoyment for the game. Recently one of my friends even introduced his son to the game and we've been playing twinks with him to help him learn. He still hasn't graduated past struggling against bots, but hey we all have to start somewhere.

Jubbinaut2/19/2015, 1:52:59 AM2 votes

I survived high school because of video games. And I'm not being hyperbolic.

Until I met my friend (we'll call him Cobb), my social circle in high school consisted exclusively of myself. He and I bonded over M:tG, and it wasn't long before we were scheduling weekly lan parties, where we played Diablo and Total Annihilation (yes, the first Diablo, and yes, I'm aware this dates me) for 30-some straight hours (subsisting on animal crackers and Dr. Pepper). To this day, I consider him my best friend and think of him as a brother, even though we don't really talk anymore (it's a long, long story). And I don't think he ever knew that I went through more than a few depressive episodes then, or how close I came to suicide some of those times. Even if he did, he still doesn't know that he was the reason I never went through with it. Because of those weekends.

He never really did get interested in League, though.

Fwonk2/19/2015, 9:37:13 PM1 votes

I was waiting for a ride home after class one night and overheard (more like eavesdropped on) a couple talking about League of Legends. I approached them and talked to them a little bit about it. When my ride arrived, I told them, "Feel free to add me! My name is Fwonk!" They did, and one of the two people that I met that night is now my girlfriend of nearly nine months. So thank you League of Legends, for you have turned a couple of nerds into a very happy relationship!

Carte Blanche2/20/2015, 6:50:42 PM1 votes

League actually left one of the biggest impacts in my life, and I know I can contribute my high school experience entirely to League. Read on for my sappy story:

I moved to the United States from Bulgaria way back in 2006. I was supposed to be in third grade but the American elementary system was behind what I had already learned and so they placed me in 4th grade (big jump I know). I had a LOT of problems adjusting to the culture. The other kids didn't understand me at all, I couldn't really speak English, and my step brother at the time would make up rumors about me and all the kids started to hate me, or at least dislike me and shun me. Fast forward to middle school, nothing had really improved. I would eat lunch alone, go home and cry to my mom about how I have no friends, and make up stories about having friends when I was with other family members so I didn't have to face my shame. One Halloween I hit a particular low point. I had nobody to go trick-or-treating with and so I went with my mom, alone. I would go up to houses and get candy and nobody would say anything to me except for this one lady, who asked me where all my friends were and why I was alone, and I lied to her and told her they ran up ahead and I'm trying to catch up. I don't know what it was about that experience, but I had a complete break down.

Fast forward to sophomore year of high school. Somehow freshman year and the rest of middle school went okay, but it wasn't anything of any importance. My sophomore year I had chemistry class with this one guy, let's call him B, who I guess you could say at the time was "popular." And I got placed in a chemistry group with him and these two other girls. Well, long story short, he heard me talking about League and eventually we got to the point where he asked me if I wanted to play with him and some other guys at school. Of course, I was excited at the simple prospect of having people LOCALLY that I could play with, even if it was just over skype and not at a LAN.

Throughout high school, I envied them because they all played together and got together for LANs and whatnot and I was never invited, even though I played with them nearly every evening. I speculated whether this was because I was the "weirdo" at school, or if I was just not close enough to them, etc. But they envied me because I was good at League - maybe not so GREAT, but I was certainly better than all of them. So they would play with me and always tell me how jealous they were and that they wish they could play as well with me.

Fast forward to junior year of high school, and it finally happened. Two of the guys, let's call them A and P, invited me to go to Goodwill with them (how sad is it I remember this oh my goodness). I was really excited, etc., and I felt like I finally belonged at LEAST a little bit. From that point on, they all started getting together with me more often, and we would have traditions like playing ultimate frisbee together over the summer at these local tennis courts, and we would get together Monday nights (or whenever it was) to watch every new episode of Walking Dead and eat pizza, etc. And of course, we would play League. Constantly, always together, every night, every day, skipping homework and not doing any after-school clubs/activities so we could play. I remember crying once because I was so happy I had finally found a group of friends that I could enjoy my hobbies with and hang out with, etc.

But it didn't stop there. By association with them, I suppose, other people started to be more inclined to talk to me too. There were people I had never even DREAMED of speaking to that I became really, really good friends with. I guess you could say I "rose up the social ladder," but that's awfully vain and I never like to think about it that way. In essence, I was really, really happy, and everything at that point in my life was going really well.

As a result, junior and senior year I had the best experience of my life. Had tons of time just hanging out with my friends, playing League, and doing well in school (of course! haha). My self-confidence shot up, I lost weight, and I started doing better in school. In reality, there could be lots of factors that played into this, but I know the biggest contributor was League, and to this day I am IMMENSELY grateful and happy I found this game. I've been playing almost since it came out, and I have never stopped for more than a few weeks at a time. Thank you, Riot. Thank you, League. Thank you to the world that made all these entities align to make me happy, I am eternally grateful, and will always remember this part of my life for as long as I live.

Now that I'm at college, I don't have a whole lot of time to play League, or well, not nearly as much as I did before. I play a game or three a day, if I get the chance, and I LOVE playing some Azir Azir and some Kalista Kalista :) If I'm not trying to advance in rank, I would be playing with my boyfriend who goes to another university about 90 minutes, and it really helps us kind of settle in and focus on destroying summoners on the battlefield, and it's kind of a fun thing to immerse ourselves in and forget the stress and workload of college.

TL;DR: Thank you Riot Games for making such an incredible game and for providing me with the opportunity to connect with other people, and for making such a huge and positive difference/impact in my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, and I love you, and I will continue to support you with my money until the day I'm broke!

Carte Blanche signing off, Teemo

Terff2/22/2015, 4:01:26 AM1 votes

I have yet to find a person in my school of 2.6k people that plays league... this saddens me... I overheard someone talking about it but I don't remember who they were

alcatrazEscapee2/19/2015, 12:39:05 AM1 votes

A lot of people at my school play league, and the fact that I did play league actually helped me bridge the gap between me and those strange video-game addicts over there. I (and a few of my specific friends) just love talking about the game, the strategy, the current special game mode, you name it; more than we actually like playing together.

Linna Excel2/19/2015, 1:17:06 AM1 votes

It’s essentially a social reset where you’re left to build a whole new group of friends.

Most college friendships end when college does. The lesson here is to keep in touch with your friends from before college because your new ones are going to move away from you just as you move away from them.

If you are smart, you'll meet someone who helps you get a job.

Bill Stickers2/19/2015, 1:20:00 AM1 votes

My best friend and I were thick as thieves in school and card games and league brought us closer together to insanely gay proportions. I don't mean that homophobically, we have gay friends that call us gay. We play league almost every day now spending way to much time together, always helping each other and pulling off crazy plays that happen so organically. It is the equivalent of finishing off eachothers thoughts and sentences; which literally happens sometimes. We have missed tons of skins from gifting each other boxes constantly; seriously Riot, they're OP as fox charms The bromance is so hardcore that without saying a word, we achieved a pentakill with him as Nasus and myself as Braum. Our girlfriends even wonder and worry sometimes it's so bad. LoL? Lots of laughter. Lots of love.

(I only wish we were that good with our school work lol xD)

botty92/19/2015, 1:23:59 AM1 votes

League made me and my friend closer !DYasuo

Vycky2/19/2015, 1:25:34 AM1 votes

All of my friends today I have thanks to video games. I would seriously say 50% of my waking life up till a few years ago was spent on video games and I would keep it that way if I could. Going to a new school upon reaching college level was strange and I figured I would wear a Teemo hat to school every now and then to sort of send out a beacon saying ''Hey, I'm a Summoner and not scary! Come talk to me.'' Almost everyone I've made friends with in college was due to talking about League of Legends or someone noticing my hat.

TheRandomV2/19/2015, 1:48:48 AM1 votes

I was out of school by the time league became a thing, however, video games were and still are a major factor in my friendships. I remember many days going into school early, skipping lunch, leaving late because we hooked up a gamecube or xbox for some Super Smash Bros Melee and Halo 2. Middle school we had a whole guild of Diablo 2 players, and currently a small group of Path of Exile and Magic the Gathering and of course League. Life makes it harder to get bigger groups together like we used to, days off dont always line up, but we still talk games through facebook group and such when we cant get things together.

Dangerous Man2/19/2015, 1:50:51 AM1 votes

Not at all really, except this one friend that plays Dota 2, and the fact that every one says it has that Call of Duty community

Incalescent2/19/2015, 2:04:50 AM1 votes

League (as well as many other video games) has actually had a really positive influence on my friendships in school!! I was pretty shy and hesitant to share the fact that I played League with the people at my school (since I was only like....level 10 at the time and almost everyone else was ranked >Silver). But then I told one of my friends that I played League, and he added me to his friends list as well as a skype group full of people in our school that played League. And from there, I made many more friends and widened my horizons a lot, even if I was somewhat of a "noob". I grew closer with people through League and the communities that ensued from it, and even, you know, met a guy winkwink.

It allowed me to connect and meet people that felt like friend-soulmates that I wouldn't have known otherwise. And I think that's kind of beautiful.

Knalxz2/19/2015, 2:10:04 AM1 votes

Recently graduated high school and I can say that for the past 13 years of my life, 98% of my friends were gamers. Excluding mutual, I mean the actual people that I hang out with not the ones you only talk to in school they just don't see each other after. Hell I've been in a relationship for years now with a woman who is a proud gamer just like me and we are both EXTREMELY HYPED for the remake of the first series we ever played with each other.

STAR WARS BATTLEFRONT!

Growing up in the ghetto of Kansas City probably would of gotten me killed if gaming didn't take over my life so thanks to the people at company's like Riot for keeping me alive and finding me a love.

Awes0meEman2/19/2015, 2:48:16 AM1 votes

My friends were always one game ahead of me. When Minecraft came out, I was the last one of our group to get it. Then League came up. For once, I got it before some of my friends. And now I am arguably one of the better players in our group. ^.^

Lil Moon2/19/2015, 3:40:57 AM1 votes

I played with some friends from school. Lets just say we are no longer friends.

Kylo Yan2/19/2015, 4:17:35 AM1 votes

Honestly, my friends embraced the fact that I like to play League, cause they're also gamers themselves and know the feeling of being attached to a game, it also helps me get a conversation going as well. This also helped me talk to people I don't know cause of the fact that they play League also, but let's just say, sometimes I wish I didn't. :T League had also spread my spectrum of friends while in game as well, since some of us already had League it kind of made us connected more, aside the salt when we're doing bad. XD

Coltzanos2/19/2015, 12:23:59 PM1 votes

Playing league has strengthened the bond i had with my existing friends, and made me meet new ones. Overall league has been positive in regards to relationships i have with others (aka freindships for you guys with no freindsAmumu )

Illâoi Evê Siôn2/19/2015, 4:57:30 PM1 votes

I recently switched to a new school (wait for it). And I didn't know anyone. So since I'm kind of shy and introverted I didn't think I would make any new friends (I know what you're expecting ^^).
Then, one day a class of mine got canceled and I was sitting at this table with some other guys doing homework, when suddenly one of them was like: "I heard you rage-quit yesterday, hehehe" to his friend.
I perked up. I was thinking: "What, they play League? Huh, maybe ..." (Nope, ain't what you expected ...)
"NO I DIDN'T RAGEQUIT! MY TEAM SUCKED! YOU SHOULD'VE SEEN IT! AMUMU ALWAYS STOLE MY FARM WHEN HE GANKED AND PUSHED MY LANE WHEN I RECALLED THAT $?%°! AND BOT LANE HAD A VEL' KOZ SUPPORT. SUCH A TROLL". He was actually screaming. I just stared at them like "wut?"
I'd hoped the other guy would show more reason, but then he's like "Yeah, that's annoying. Those scrubs. I always get like 10 kills, but I can't carry if they take my farm. Noobs." I'm just like Nope nope nope. Not talking to them. I don't know their names. They don't know mine. Perfect. Ima just pack my stuff and do my work over there. -> They kept on talking loudly, flaming for another half hour or so. Thank god I didn't say anything to them.

Edit : tl;dr League helped me find people I don't want to be friends with. Like this other guy who said League players are retarded (not knowing I play it) or this girl who said we're all fat. Thanks to League I now have a few, reasonable friends who're fun :)

Borbland2/19/2015, 6:21:22 PM1 votes

I found some firneds with LoL, but sometimes I have to thing at the friend I would have if I wasn't playing LoL.