I'm Toxic and I want advice
10/5/2015
Whelp I'm glad I didn't spend a dime more on this game. I got my wish lol, I was perma banned. I got put with the same guy 2 games in a row who went tahm kench top without tele and a bot lane that did nothing but feed. This is what I got perma-banned for lol. I was basically going back in forth with tahm, explaining why it was his fault we lost the game. i told him to run tele in game lobby and he didn't. End result was a feeding bot lane with no one to halt the snow ball. He just stayed top while gankplank ulted to support his allies.
Crehbohrahku: omfg Crehbohrahku: finally kill the bitch and hes right there Crehbohrahku: fckign dumb Crehbohrahku: guys come on lol Crehbohrahku: win lane lose game Crehbohrahku: godl 4 life Crehbohrahku: who is duoing with silver Crehbohrahku: man this is the kind of shit i hate Crehbohrahku: yeah Crehbohrahku: and ur getting ur ass kicked Crehbohrahku: so no Crehbohrahku: fcking knew it lol Crehbohrahku: look at this adc Crehbohrahku: fed all game Crehbohrahku: then jsut watched Crehbohrahku: u both are 1 and 7 Crehbohrahku: surr plz Crehbohrahku: omg Crehbohrahku: see tahm was top all game Crehbohrahku: didnt help any other lane Crehbohrahku: pro shit man Crehbohrahku: pro Crehbohrahku: nah Crehbohrahku: doesnt matter Crehbohrahku: didnt leave lane knowing bot was getting trashed on Crehbohrahku: surr Crehbohrahku: and stop ranking Crehbohrahku: ur b ad Crehbohrahku: your fault Crehbohrahku: for staying top Crehbohrahku: i warned you Crehbohrahku: to get tele Crehbohrahku: but nooe Crehbohrahku: you coudla helped bot lane Crehbohrahku: so omg Crehbohrahku: just surr Crehbohrahku: surr Crehbohrahku: idc Crehbohrahku: surr Crehbohrahku: this game is pointless Crehbohrahku: you'll never learn Crehbohrahku: i won lane Crehbohrahku: yeah so Crehbohrahku: i did Crehbohrahku: several times Crehbohrahku: in fact Crehbohrahku: jsut maybe Crehbohrahku: its on you Crehbohrahku: for staying top Crehbohrahku: with ignite Crehbohrahku: go back to season 1 bro Crehbohrahku: im better than you why would i Crehbohrahku: if i Crehbohrahku: lol Crehbohrahku: told him to run tele Crehbohrahku: face palm Crehbohrahku: he too good for it doe Crehbohrahku: he pro Crehbohrahku: you guys can end Crehbohrahku: they expect me to carry and i dont need to stress Crehbohrahku: i dont dont carry dead weight Crehbohrahku: sona ur silver Crehbohrahku: you dont even belong at this elo
Peace out guys. Now I got a reason to never come back to this game.
I"m happy to update this post with the following:
I've reached gold by ignoring toxic behaviors and taking breaks when frustrated. It wasn't perfect and I found myself being toxic a few times.
I had one game where masterchogath666 an overall toxic individual afked after being told by the whole team he was mid in champ select. Players like this are the most toxic in my opinion. Make this guy the poster child for the afking toxics. Still got to gold even with his little hissy fit.
So basically I was able to reach my goal by ignoring the stupid crap I see in league all the time and trying my best with champs I knew I was good with. Now no one can tell me I belong in silver lol.
http://na.op.gg/summoner/userName=crehbohrahku\
get on my level
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SUSAN OP!
Okay so I know I'm an asshole sometimes when I play and I've been known to belittle and berate people. I've been banned so many times I lost count. The only reason I care now is because I'm actually considering just quitting this game by forcing the perma-ban. I'll admit I'm addicted and I really don't want to deal with the "Punish" attitude league of legends has now. I started way back toward the end of season 1 and the community has become so toxic everywhere I look, even on the forums. The bans do nothing, I'm proof of that honestly, not that I'm proud of it. I think riots stance to use fear has done nothing but cause in game behavior to become more toxic than the chat in game. When they can't act out one way, they simply do it another way. I have always been a team player regardless of what I've said in game, and the majority of the time I start out a nice guy, because in person I am a nice guy. I'm only a dick when I play this game for some reason, maybe I'm not cut out for the competitive scene, or maybe it's because the game is so impersonal that I don't care.
PS while I'm being honest, I'm probably one of the biggest trolls in the game. I do it for laughs not to hurt feelings.
I'm just gonna post what I've wrote to this behavioral specialist, what she wrote back, and I want serious responses to it: explain whether you think I'm right or not, and why that is.
(Hana)
"Hello there,
My name is Hana from the Player Behavior team and I'm here to provide you with some context on your account. Let me see what I can do to assist you in this situation.
Looking at your match, I believe that your action toward others was not warranted. Some of these behaviors include berating your teammates, complaining in chat, arguing with others, providing unconstructive comments, and calling them hurtful terms. While you may have a competitive nature while playing the game, if you have nothing good or constructive to say, it is better to keep it to yourself.
It's definitely ok in our book to make calls and take charge to accomplish team goals. However, there's a big difference in doing so and bluntly expressing what you think without considering how that can affect others and the team's morale. I understand that everyone has a bad day and we all have experienced games with players that we don't agree with but in those situations, it isn't right to berate or act negatively toward them.
Our goal with the 2-week restriction is to provide you with a break from the game to reflect on your attitude and will remain on the account until the expiration date. I would encourage you to pay more attention to what you type to others before sending it. Sending positive reinforcement also would greatly help your cause."
(Me)
"Hello hana, I believe your judgment of me is accurate, however, this is a video game not a criminal court room. You rely on people for profit, banning and punishing them for berating and behaving inappropriately in a video game does nothing to solve the issue. Two week bans and chat restricts are not gonna stop me from getting frustrated and angry at teammates who I think of as unqualified for that elo. The system is not perfect: there are boosters, afkers, and people who refuse to play as a team. People are more toxic playing the game than they are talking in it, I just happen to voice my unpleasant thoughts rather than acting it out in game. I'm always a team player regardless of what I say, that's why I had over 150 team player initiative points. I think it's ridiculous that riot is even trying to punish people for their behavior rather than working around it.
For instance get rid of perma bans and stop trying to use fear tactics. It's not working and it's never worked in the history books. Ban people for a day, whenever the toxic behavior begins and force them to cool off. Most people like me are just frustrated. You can't change a players behavior through fear it only seeks to aggravate them. They're random people on the internet that I could care less about and will most likely never meet. Maybe if you installed a voice chat system I would care about their feeling more, maybe then I could communicate more with my team. I'd be less likely to name call then because it's more personal.
People who constantly afk are the most toxic players in the game and it still happens constantly. Nothing you have done or ever do will ever stop toxic behavior, but you can calm it down. Like I said most of it is frustration. Think of the game this way: you're in a game for an hour with people you don't like, you're forced to play with them and punished if you leave, you're punished if you get upset and berate other players, you're punished if you give up, you're punished if you try and still lose because it was all a waste of time. Every player is being punished for playing this game. "
(Hana)
"Hello again,
Our goal of player behavior is to protect the player's experience by minimizing negative interactions in matches. No one likes to play with toxic individuals and we will continue to do our best to promote a more positive atmosphere in League. Thank you for sharing your feedback regarding this situation, feel free to let contact me if you have any other concerns that I can address."
(Me)
"I'm disappointed Hana,
Very typical response. Then again this is a waste of time like I knew it would be, you're just an employee with no legitimate standing in your company. Riot doesn't intend to listen to anyone else but overprivileged know-it-alls who spend their life in books rather than the real world. I doubt they'll do anything productive with this ban system. You just intend to scare me into submission, instead of actually fixing the game and reducing the frustration it causes to players. You believe I'm in the wrong because I'm an asshole, but what you fail to understand is that I am who I am, you're a god damn video game, you can change to fit my needs. I tell you I'm frustrated and you're response is "You're toxic, fix yourself?" What kind of pretentious arrogance is that?
I'm still gonna play and be the asshole I've always been, if riot doesn't want to perma-ban me then I suggest they listen to their players. I won't give riot a penny until they can show me they care enough to listen."
(Update 9-8-15)
(Hana)
"Hello again,
I understand that you don't want to change who you are and I respect that decision. However, we don't tolerate negativity and we will continue to apply the necessary initiatives to accounts that are creating a negative experience for others. I can give you advice on how to improve your interaction in matches to prevent this but this is a decision that's entirely up to you.
I have personally reviewed your account and found the behavior exhibited to be negative enough to apply the punishment mentioned. If you have no other concerns that I can address, I will be closing out this ticket shortly."
(Me)
"You misunderstand. I am willing to change. I was actually surprised I wasn't perma-banned either. I would like riot to stop focusing solely on punishing players and focus more on boosters and afkers. I believe the majority of toxicity, even my own, is derived from frustration. Claiming that it is the players responsibility does nothing to solve the issue, everyone knows or should know who's responsible for their behavior.That just putting blame where a solution should be put. I'm not saying I shouldn't be punished, I'm saying riot should look into issues the game has that causes these issues to begin with. Am I willing to change, sure. But you're asking more of me than what you're willing to do. A simple frustration like people afking on you could be solved by making the losing team with that afk lose less ranked points. A simple solution to a simple problem. Why am I being punished for that afker? I lose the same amount I would if that person was there. People refuse to surrender knowing this. It's unfair and pointless to spend 40 min defending a game where the enemy has one extra person. Fix the issue. That's all I'm asking, and I'd be more than willing to change my own behavior. Take the right steps to prove you can modify the game to lower easily fixed frustrations.
I've played this game since it came out. I'm not a beginner, I know all the changes this game went through, even the whole DDOS attacks. This has been an unresolved issue since the game came out.and that is unacceptable. I'm trying to be reasonable here. I'm not asking much for my cooperation, and it's an issue that bothers every player I've run into. The thing that frustrates me most about this game is the things I cannot control, the things you can control but choose not to. Riot believes punishing afkers will solve this issue and I know it wont. The beginning of my toxic behavior was provoked every time by a game where someone afked and the team, rather than take the loss, chose to not surrender. I get so fed up with things I think your company can do better but choose not to do. Then I look at all the times I've been punished, and it means nothing, because it just makes me care less and less about the game. I see you avoiding issues with the game and putting all the blame on me, that is what I see. No amount of responsibility will change that because this should be a give and take relationship."
(Update 9-9-15)
(Hana)
"Hello crehbohrahku,
We do have initiatives to deal with the negative influences that you mentioned. While it is not something we share with players publicly, we do send out ban waves and punishments to players who create a negative environment for others. As a player behavior specialist, I also work to answer those players' concerns so I hope that you'll put some faith in our effort and continue to report these kind of players instead of engaging with them negatively.
I also want to take a moment to touch on the point that you made regarding surrendering. I understand that you feel playing 4v5 is pointless but if your team wants to continue trying, you should respect that. Playing 4v5 is hard but you can still come back from it, especially if there's a chance that the other person might come back. Imagine if you were someone who is in their promos or simply just want to try really hard to win the game and someone just keep asking to surrender, you'd be really disheartened right? I would recommend to that you keep a more positive outlook on the match and don't give up so early. It's not nice to your team if you repeatedly initiate a surrender as the match is going.
I hope that I was able to explain our approach toward this situation. Feel free to let me know if you have any other concerns that I can answer."
(Me)
"The fact that you showed me you could listen was enough for me. That response actually made me pretty happy. Thank you Hana. I will try my best to improve my behavior."
(end note)
I think the issue I have with riot staff is resolved, and I think Hana handled this better than what anyone else could have. I'm happy that in the end she chose not to blame but rather said they will work on it and have been trying to work on it. She encouraged me to improve my behavior while acknowledging my complaint. i couldn't ask for more. From my point of view only punishments could be seen as the way they chose to deal with these issues. Maybe somewhere down the road they will eventually get to my issues that I know many other people have with the game.
I want everyone to read this. Especially people who posted. Look below.
To everyone who has posted so far. I just want to leave you with a bit of a comparison to explain my point of view. You can call it comparing apples to oranges or whatever, but the fact remains that it's a real life issue that reflects exactly what riot is doing.
Okay so picture this. You're 16 and in a neighborhood filled with gangs and violence. Your friends do it and so do you. Everyone around you is poor and everyone is scraping for ends meat. You want to make the right decisions, you don't want to see your friends get shot, you don't want to go to jail, but what else is there for you? You look to walmart, mcdonalds, and every other place offering jobs to someone like you, someone without a college education. They're offering you 8 dollars an hour to flip burgers and stock. The gang offers you 500 dollars a week, they protect you, and you feel like you're apart of something special. They don't treat you like you're just another employee, and give you shit pay.
You get older. You're 18 now and you can be tried as an adult. They send you away and lock up the key. You go to jail for 3 years. You get out and you're ready to get your life on track. You've seen the error of your ways, and you start looking for a job. There's just one problem though, no one will hire you. They talk behind your back and call you a criminal, they say "He'll never change, what's the point? He thinks the world's his playground." Your mom kicked you out because she was tired of dealing with the choices you made, and you don't blame her for that, but now you're life's a mess and you got no where to go. Oh but wait, you meet an old friend while your on the streets since the homeless shelters are full, he was part of the gang you left to get your life back on track. He tells you the gang will welcome you back with open arms, and they're more than willing to provide you a place to live. So you go back to the gang, you know it's a bad idea, but what else is there for you?
A year goes by and you get put in jail again. This time you're really gonna set your life straight, this time it will be different. So you get out and you say no excuses, I'm gonna find a job even if it kills me. Mcdonalds has become more lenient with their hiring and you finally land that job you wanted the first time. They were willing to give you a shot and you were determined to prove you could do it. You stay at a friends house who you know isn't involved with gangs until you are able to get your own place. You do just that and manage to find yourself a studio apartment cheap.
After a couple years of working for mcdonalds you end up meeting a girl you really like and you hit it off. You didn't plan what happened next, you wore protection but it still happened. She got pregnant and had to move in with you, now you have to provide for this woman and the baby that's coming. But wait, you make 9 dollars an hour now, how the hell are you gonna provide for both of them. She's pregnant and cant get a job right now, but even then who'd take care of the baby? The thoughts drive you mad until one day you run into that gang member you once knew. NO, you told yourself, it's just going to make the situation worse, you're just going to get put in jail again, and nothing will get better. This guy's slick though, he tells you the gang isn't looking for someone to do anything illegal and you fall for it in your desperation. You need that money. So you end up doing the job and it pays off for about a year, after all you were just delivering packages to random locations. But then the feds get involved and it turns out you were delivering drugs, go figure, you knew and did it anyway, you only have yourself you blame. You go back to jail, but this was your third offense, in your state they are very intolerant of crime. They trump up the charges and punish you to the fullest extent of the law and you go to jail for 10 years. 10 YEARS, you're life has been nothing but a clusterfck of bad choices and you're the one who caused it. You think to yourself, man I just wanted money to provide for my family and myself.
Okay so after reading that story we all know the guy made bad choices right? Yeah he did, even he knew it. But what was the real issue that caused him to make those bad choices?
It was money, comfort, a sense of belonging, etc.
Could those issues have been fixed to help him onto the right path?
Yeah they could have, but no one wanted to do so. At first no one would give him a chance, they just saw him as a nuisance. Companies weren't willing to move the minimum wage. No one was willing to do anything to help this individual and that's just sad.
Did punishing him really do anything to solve the issue he was burdening society with?
No, because the underlying cause of that behavior was not addressed. His gang was providing the things he needed most, so why would he prefer mcdonalds over his gang?
How does this story compare to league?
league of legends knows that certain frustrations have existed since the game has become popular. They have done exactly what our judicial system does and focused solely on punishing. Some areas of our country have become better at fixing this issue, but the point is that, like league of legends punishing players will do nothing to fix the overall issue. The actions of league employees has basically been this "Well you are toxic. Fix yourself so the community gets better. We understand you are frustrated but this is your problem. We are not willing to fix the issues you're frustrated with. Either get better or get punished for not getting better."
Wouldn't it be reasonable to say, "hey I know you're frustrated and I will look into the game and try and find a solution. Instead of, "Nothing can be done about the game. Fix yourself or be punished." It is so unreasonable to ask Riot to lower frustration levels? IS IT REALLY SO UNREASONABLE!?