@Players: Try this, I'm pretty sure you won't regret it

Jamatrix666·5/28/2015, 11:41:59 PM·51 votes·7,543 views

I would like if you guys try something for a couple of days, a dozen of games. Something I've been doing since a while, something that made me enjoy my games more and even perform better.

As a player, I've never been the rage type guy, more like the silent&sarcastic guy. So for instance, when one of my team mate would screw up, I would either say something harmless but useless or be silent about it. And then I recently told myself that maybe I can do more than that to help. It came to me naturally to think about something simple but that would be worth the try.

Basically, it's just about being more human and empathic. 3 words came to my mind, gratefulness, forgiveness and cooperation.

  • Gratefulness is all about acknowledging your team mate's nice work when it happens, especially when it comes to ganks or any kind of help. When you're glad someone gave you blue buff, ganked for you, let you the kill, pinged something important to you, etc., thank him/her. It doesn't have to be complicated, it just needs to become a reflex. Soon you'll notice people are more likely to keep assisting you when you acknowledge the good moves they make.

  • In the same state of mind than gratefulness, forgiveness is about to inform the other player that you're not mad/pissed at them for failing a certain task. A gank gone wrong, overcomitting, getting greedy and getting killed etc. It's not always necessary to tell them not to do that again, most of the time a simple "it's alright man let's just be a little bit safer next time :)" is more than enough to make mistakes something people can learn from rather than a sign of weakness. People even thank me on a regular basis when I act like that. They seem kind of relieved that I don't take things too much in a negative way. And since they know I'm chill, they have less stress and perform better than if I would just be toxic. I know it can sound cheesy and only good on paper, but you guys have nothing to lose and honestly, I think it's just gonna make your games more enjoyable.

  • Cooperation, while a little bit different than the 2 main aspects of this thread, is primordial to make gratefulness and forgiveness tools that make your team united and better. It's as simple as pinging, asking to ward, telling when your ult is gonna come back, asking help to set up an ambush using sweeper, help to kill the scuttle crab, etc. Don't be shy to ask, remember you're playing with people like you who want to win like you do. Finishing your sentence with a "please" and/or smiley face shows that you're asking as a friend, someone who doesn't try to be the boss of anyone but someone who's just trying his best to win the game. Also, at the beginning of each game, I ask everyone how was their day, I can compliment someone's skin, ask their opinion about item choices for this game... It can sound stupid but it kind of relax everyone you know? Like when you play with complete strangers, you can have this anxiety of playing with rude people or trolls right? By sharing your good mood and showing that you want to have a good time, it pushes people to do the best they can.

So, in short, showing a little bit of kindness throughout the game makes you a human being, not just another "pixelated moving character" in the game and people appreciate to know that.

Please take note that this is irrelevant when talking to a troll, since most of them are immune to kindness and have a lack of social abilities and/or sh*t to give about you or the game.

39 Comments

Riotmoonstones5/29/2015, 12:58:08 AM46 votes

+1!

I recently had a game where someone on my team panic-locked Hecarim. While a top lane main, he wasn't strong with Hecarim. He said he'd dodge for us, but the entire team said he'd be fine (including someone in their promos). He had a rough start, but the entire team was super supportive, and the jungler gave him a bit of extra help top. The Hecarim ended up carrying us to victory, in part, due to the positive nature/encouragement of the team. ^-^

Matthias91195/29/2015, 2:57:28 AM6 votes

+a bajillion, although I fear you're largely preaching to the choir.

It was depressing in Tribunal cases when a player could go FIVE FULL GAMES and say nothing even remotely positive to their teammates. Even if all you care about is winning -- if every single thing you say is negative/complaining/whining, you're just gradually wearing down your teammates and making them play worse.

Chimewlan5/28/2015, 11:47:44 PM3 votes

Yes! Someone who is like me! Once, I tried this during a game when I started playing League not too long ago and we actually obtained some good synergy and we managed to take down the enemy nexus in like 20-30 minutes while cracking a few jokes here and there and these were random people I'd never met!

air tiger5/29/2015, 9:10:41 PM3 votes

+1 for your understanding of heart.

I'm reading the comments, which are generally positive, but I found one guy who thinks that flaming someone is strategic and useful. THIS is the battle; people like that who fail to understand heart, fail to understand how to bolster your team.. how to help, encourage, and empower. They are the enemies. And they are plentiful.

There's a lesson taught that you can win those people over by showing them kindness, gratitude, and compassion. I hope that is true.

omegalopolis5/30/2015, 7:52:21 PM3 votes

"Games give you a chance to excel, and if you're playing in good company you don't even mind if you lose because you had the enjoyment of the company during the course of the game.” ― Gary Gygax

steampig5/30/2015, 10:40:25 PM3 votes

I recently had a game where someone got extremely offended that I didn't thank him for a good gank right away. I was still focused on killing another champ and then clearing the minions wave, while he was repeatedly bugging me about thanking him. It was really annoying. I mean, yea, I'm thankful, but there's still a game on. Don't rage because I didn't thank fast enough.

GhostCadillac5/29/2015, 8:04:18 PM2 votes

This just comes to show that violence does NOT solve everything, but rather... it's positiveness that does.

Cicote5/29/2015, 5:35:04 PM2 votes

Thank you for writing this! summoner 31

333lom5/29/2015, 5:42:14 PM2 votes

ty, np, gj. These things can be even this short, but create a great and good impact on people. Well said OP, thanks for making the thread. I'm always happy to see a player that is willing to help out, not just play secluded. Being positive creates an awesome atmosphere in the game, and can even make people smile. The point of the game is to have a good time, and I notice each time when someone helps me, but didn't have to - that's one of the best things, and it's natural to thank that person!

Only Play Darius5/29/2015, 5:46:46 AM2 votes

Once was playing MasterYi jg and friendly Riven AFK'd from the start. I covered her lane, and of course Yi is trash in lane and despite my efforts to play safe gave first blood to enemy Aatrox. Gave up lane and went to the jungle, and he took first turret. Riven came back and went to lane, asked for help because Aatrox was zoning her hard with the farm and level advantage. I was frustrated, and told her it's not my job to clean her lane up for her and that it was her fault for being AFK and that she needs to deal with her own problems and stop begging for someone to fix her mess, and went back to farming jg. Instead of responding in the same toxic manner I did, she calmly responded "Ok.".

I saw her taking Gromp, and thought she was taking my camp to spite me so I got to it and smited it away at the last second. I then realized she was taking Gromp because she was really struggling to get farm, since Aatrox refused to let her near his minions, and she was genuinely doing her best to catch up in gold without risking giving a kill to Aatrox. I felt really bad about raging at her and then denying her only safe farm, so I pinged Aatrox and ganked him, we got the kill and survived. Afterward, I told her I felt horrible about raging at her and that I was just frustrated about the AFK, and she completely understood and accepted the apology. Me and the team helped her get further caught up in lane and eventually she was able to help us secure a victory. I apologized once again in post-game about my behavior, she said she understood my frustration and I told her I appreciated her being patient with me while I was being unpleasant, we honored and added eachother.

It's important to note that had Riven reacted to my toxicity with aggression, the game likely would have ended differently. I would have seen her taking Gromp as a scumbag move, and would have avoided helping her get caught up, or even worse we would have spent the rest of the game arguing and never reconciled. I'm not saying that my initial behavior was excusable, but I was frustrated and on tilt, and Riven was the better player and allowed my attitude to simmer down instead of feed my anger by arguing with me. Sometimes, even in the face of toxic behavior, it's best to stay cool and try to work with the player instead of fight fire with fire.

TheGrandAlliance5/30/2015, 12:32:32 AM1 votes

...well when your "Its a Small World After All" somehow magically stops players from AFKing... you let me know.

Seth the Bum5/30/2015, 4:16:15 AM1 votes

Well said. Sometimes it is hard for players to remember that they're in the game with other, actual people. I'm reminded of this song in particular.

Mundo5/29/2015, 12:13:44 AM1 votes

There is always that one guy who loses lane and rages at the rest of his team that is carrying. Me personally i like to get carried.

Rootworth5/28/2015, 11:54:15 PM1 votes

HELL NAH BRAH HELL NAH

lightdragoon885/29/2015, 3:08:04 AM1 votes

I had a game where our Rengar jungle forgot smite. (Teambuilder glitch). He was freaking out in the beginning and figured it was GG already. We told him it ok and try different build for the jungle.

I recommend an early item 3093 so he could earn extra gold in the jungle and our Kalista would help him with dragon as she would "smite" it with her E.

I help whenever he went to do the chicken camp by putting Malzahar W under it camp when he fought it. He manage to get his items and stay healthy enough in the jungle early on thanks to this and he returned the favor by making sure the enemy ADC die before any fight happen.

aaronconlin5/29/2015, 3:00:58 PM1 votes

I recently played a game where last pick got stuck with ADC when they specifically asked to not play ADC, I was support. Every time they made a mistake I would point out something good to make sure they didn't get into a negative mood and start throwing unintentionally. Like when the enemy had a successful gank, I said "it's okay you're still way ahead in CS and they haven't touched our tower yet." They ended up doing really well

Pheonixwish5/29/2015, 4:47:54 PM1 votes

I usually hope for forgiveness, never expect someone to be grateful when I support, and pretend to cooperate.

...I'm just gonna...take this...bye.

LittIe D5/30/2015, 6:03:01 AM1 votes

This thread will help me a lot thank you!!