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How to stop flaming and raging

Oznova·8/12/2015, 4:02:29 PM·1 votes·1,241 views

Hello everyone,

This monday I got banned for 14 days for offensive language. I'm not saying I didn't deserve it because I did, I've gotten really "toxic" the past few months.

Back when I first started league in 03/2014 I almost never flamed or reported people because we all make mistakes, adding to it that I started in bronze 2 does not give me an excuse to flame someone else since I'm clearly lacking in alot of departments myself.

I got up to silver elo a few months later and still didn't flame alot, just at the occasional troller that would feed on purpose or afk for fun. Now that I've been plat elo for 6-7 months I've started flaming much much more than I would normally do. I hardly raged at people in any game, I would just laugh it off. But lately I see so much injustice in the system that it made me get angry alot more. I received my first chat ban a couple months ago because I flamed an intentional feeder/troll in my team. He played adc ashe and started building AP and afk'ing in base typing stuff like "HAHAHA YES YOU WILL LOSE HAHA DIE NOOBS", this made his support leona go hydra and what not and all of a sudden we had 2 trolls. So it's all fine for him to troll but it's wrong for me to express my anger towards that guy? And just the next game after that I had 2 afk's. I'm pretty sure none of them got punished because I didn't receive a message for it. Now this just made me snap inside and just made me rage alot more when ppl started trolling. It didn't even stick with that, I'd get mad at people for making stupid decisions eventhough we wrote AND pinged what to do. Going base with full hp when we just aced and baron is up, going back to lane when enemy jung and mid are dead instead of doing dragon. Not knowing when to stop going 1v1 when you're already 0/5 etc... These types of silly decision making just make me angry and I start of telling them to stop, when they reply in a bad manner I just snap and start calling them "not so pleasant" names.

This monday I got a 14 day ban and for what? I had a duo botlane that was a much much lower elo than I myself am in. They started feeding horribly (0/4/0) in less than 8 minutes into the game. I as the jungler didn't see any point going bot because I would die and end up giving a triple. But our adc still flamed at me and raged because I didn't help them while it's clearly his own mistake that it's gotten this bad. I told him to stop talking shit and play, but he didn't stop so again I raged back at him. In the end I got reported by this duo botlane that literally fed like hell and flamed others.

SO HERE'S THE REAL QUESTION.

In these kind of situations how do you stop yourself from getting angry, raging at others? I'm the type of person that likes to talk alot (as you can see from this life story I wrote above). What kind of tricks/tips do you guys have for me to stop raging at teammates? For example typing on a word document? Listening to music? talking to friends? etc.. I would like to know because If I keep this up I'll probably be perma banned...

Thanks for the help!

12 Comments

StealthWarden8/12/2015, 4:50:18 PM2 votes

well bubba...first of all you need to understand some things about the world. This is very important, and i recommend possibly speaking with your dad about it, I know i would sure like my boy to come to me with stuff like this.

1.) You need to understand what you are really upset about:

for making stupid decisions eventhough we wrote AND pinged what to do.

Here, the issue is not that they made a mistake..as you said these things happen. You are mad because they didnt do what you told them.

You don't have the authority to tell others what or what not to do. you can make suggestions, and you can be right until the end of the universe, but it doesn't matter. They get to make their own choices and live their lives, so you have to let it go when people don't do what you say.

Once you have accepted this, its just a matter of dealing with how things like this make you feel. Anger management basically. As for league specific, listen to neutral calming music...or at least positive ish. Lindsay Sterling is pretty good for that. And get yourself a duo partner, or at the very least a league buddy to be in a skype or curse call...or a team speak that you can rage out loud to them, and keep your in game chat focused on winning.

you will find that rage is lazy. it will seek the quickest outlet with the least resistance...yelling is easier and faster than typing and it always feels better afterward, so give it all to your buddy and hopefully he is the kind of person that will turn it into a joke and you will end up laughing at these idiots running around (^_^).

you made it to plat, so you know that you can climb even with idiots on your team. take comfort in knowing that you will continue to play well and those afk feedlords will not.

Dextraos8/12/2015, 4:08:59 PM1 votes

Getting ACTUALLY good at game? People only rage when they feel hopeless about themselves. They can't carry, and that is why they rage. Improve your skills and stop making the same mistakes are your team and you will probably notice that the game changed. I mean, if your allies are bad, the enemy is too. It's platinum elo, so it's pretty easy to punish their team's mistakes.

Oznova8/12/2015, 4:12:38 PM1 votes

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WukongMain8/12/2015, 4:23:38 PM1 votes

In the great words of Bruce Lee “You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”

o0O Madoka O0o8/12/2015, 4:24:52 PM1 votes

For me, I will be a really nice player if I'm not hungry.

Unfortunately , that hasn't been the case much in the past year.