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Gurl Gehmurs and Females on League

Hauling Ashe·12/30/2016, 9:08:45 AM·3 votes·575 views

This is not just a kneejerk post to Lonely Girl's recurring presence (I know what "she" is selling.), but was actually something I intended to write this week anyway. Every day I see a new post in Team Recruitment asking for female friends or looking to assemble a group of "fellow girl gamers".

And I would really like to know why these people have problems finding/communicating with females in League. I run into them daily, whether I know it or not. Some are obvious by their IGNs, some flaunt it (stay away from these), some just reveal it over the course of chat, some you don't realize until the topic comes up later on, and some you are simply unaware of until one day you queue with them and their friend calls them Patricia.

And it hardly made a difference.

I have several female friends I met over the course of playing League. In fact, probably half of my more active friends are girls. It's nothing special. We get along. We play together. We joke around. We talk about Miss Fortune's booty and Katarina's rack and we talk about real life. We talk about girls and boys we have crushes on IRL and give each other advice on how to appeal to the opposite sex. We talk about how broken Zyra is and how our mid laner was feeding when I was killing it in bot lane and she was owning the jungle. We talk about being happy and sad and how Ashe is my favorite and Nidalee is hers. We talk about being Gold rank next year and about the new client missing item sets. We talk about how nice the winter rift looks and if I should get the Mistletoe LeBlanc skin or if she should get the Santa Braum skin.

There was nothing intentional about us meeting, and there was no buying each other's friendship. If we do give gifts, it's out of appreciation for each other.

Don't go looking for it.

Just let it happen.

6 Comments

Acolyte of Steel12/30/2016, 9:50:03 AM2 votes

I feel about the same. I'm a girl who grew up playing MMOs and gaming online, so after being in the melting pot for so long, I completely fail to see the appeal of sticking with a specific gender. There doesn't even appear to be one really. If you're uncomfortable having guy-friends, well, y'know... stop it. : ^) There's no reason to be afraid, even if a lot of them are smelly teenagers who cum a little at the sound of a grill's voice. That's not your problem as long as they're winning lane, yeah?

Pandemic Punch12/30/2016, 4:25:05 PM1 votes

It is just a myth. They don't exist.

Dolasaur12/30/2016, 8:47:57 PM1 votes

Mmmmmm. I agree with a lot of the sentiments in your post, if I make two assumptions: that both you and the people making the posts are male. You didn't specifically call out either, but your general tone makes me believe both (particularly the latter). So for the general anti-creeper advice, I totally agree.

But the "fellow girl gamers" part stands out to me. Is that something where you believe the posters are actually male? "Fellow" implies to me the poster is female, and that sort of post is entirely reasonable. If you're male, you may not be aware of the frequency and severity of harassment that women face in online gaming. It's well documented in places like Not In The Kitchen Anymore (google it). I also recently found out a female friend of mine at work doesn't play online games anymore because of such harassment. She's a well-adjusted person, not super shy or mentally frail. She just decided that playing only single player games was better than the constant negative interactions she had to deal with online. So I can totally understand why a woman would make a post looking for female friends.

Of course, if you think it was a man posing as a woman (as part of being a creeper), then what you said is still applicable :)

Myrmiron12/30/2016, 10:03:07 PM1 votes

Most people that look for girls are other girls though, girls a that can't handle boys going crazy over their gender + hobby combination. Telling the boys that try to meet girls to stop actively looking is like telling someone to stop doing online dating and just let it happen naturally. Aka, it's not a very helpful advice.